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raihanatouagne
Oct 31, 2009, 09:15 PM
Hi, my name is raihana, and I've been with my boyfriend for two years, but in the first few months we started dating, I found out he had lots of female friends, but he always they were only friends , he's always texting those girls and calling them and they do the same, we argued about it a lot, until one day I called some of his female friends, and they told me they had sex with him, but he said they were just lying to break us up to be with him.
He's always flirting with other females on his myspace and Facebook telling that they are sexy and that he wants to get to know them. He evn says that he doesn't have a girlfriend. Until yesterday he left his myspace open and I went through it and saw a message that a female sent him sating that he just wanted from her, and after that he cut her off and said it was just sex I confronted him about it , but he won't admit it still.
I have been there for him for everything, and I love him so much and I know he has cheated on me but he won't admit it. What should I do??
HEEEEEEEELP?

paula_layton200
Oct 31, 2009, 09:24 PM
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Hi this is Paula you should leave him because if they say it is true that he is sleeping around on you girl.

amicon
Nov 1, 2009, 02:48 AM
Ask yourself why you do want to be with someone who s probably cheating on you and who lies to you.
You don't trust him and without trust you don't have a relationship.
Leave him and get your life back.

talaniman
Nov 1, 2009, 04:58 AM
Dumping him, and not taking him back, would be a good start to your own happiness. Don't you deserve better?

Does he deserve you? I don't think so!

123skyscraper
Nov 1, 2009, 07:18 PM
He's cheating on you and lying to you. Dump him. End of story. Simple. I don't think the girls would lie to you about things like that, even if they wanted to get with him.
Didn't you know he was like this when you got with him? Geez you must have known he has lots of female friends, they are there to serve a purpose. Did you think he only used those sweet lies on you when he gets with you? The clues are always there, we just have to look for them. You deserve better. Respect yourself and get rid of him.

Romefalls19
Nov 2, 2009, 08:26 AM
You have your proof, you need to leave him and stay away from him as it's in your best interest.

Jake2008
Nov 2, 2009, 08:38 AM
I think it is one thing if he has ONE girl on the side, or is having ONE affair- you might have a chance if he was willing to change.

But, he is having a great time with several women on the go, and is saying that he isn't, despite the proof you have that he is.

While it is easy to want to believe that he is telling the truth because you love him, please take those rose coloured glasses off and see this for what it is.

He is essentially telling you that he has no intention of changing his 'habits' in order to be faithful to only you. His behaviour says a lot about the kind of man he is, and it also says a lot about you desperately grabbing at straws, hoping beyond hope, that he could be telling the truth, and these women mean nothing to him.

The first step to your happiness, and regaining your independence is to see things how they are. Once you realize the obvious, it will be pretty clear as to what you have to do.

Imabadman
Nov 2, 2009, 09:20 AM
So he might be cheating on you... you think.

Sounds like there's no trust there. So no point in trying to move forward in the relationship. Walk away... don't give him a second chance.

I wish
Nov 2, 2009, 09:29 AM
Does it really matter if he admits it? You already caught him cheating, so you have all the proof you need.

If you can't trust him = No relationship

Telling us that you love him is like telling us that you love a cheater. I suggest that you dump the cheater and find someone else to love that isn't a cheater.