So I recently met a guy and we've hung out twice. Before he left my house yesterday, he asked if I wanted to go to a halloween party with him tonight. I told him probably. So I texted him today and asked if he still wanted me to go with him. He said he doesn't know if he's going anymore and he might go to a club. He said his best friend is going to be in town and wants to chill. So later I told him I may just drink myself silly. He asked what I was going to drink. I told him probably some vodka and juice, and smirnoff ice. He goes, ummmm sounds good, I may have to stop over by you later. I was like, is that right? He goes, yeah if you want me to. So I told him yeah. A few hours later I texted him and he said he was bored. I was like, you should come and drink with me, *cough* He was like, "lol, maybe". So a little bit later I reminded him that if he wanted to come drink with me, he could. I know he was talking about hanging out with his best friend, but I would think if he still was, he wouldn't had said he would stop over here. He was like, "Maybe :)" so I left it at that and was like "Ok :)". I hate when people tell me maybe. He seems like the type that would tell me if he was busy doing other things. But I hate "maybe". Cause some people say it meaning no, and others mean it as just that, maybe.

It wasn't the greatest idea to keep pushing the idea of you two drinking together. It makes you seem desperate, and lonely. Not just that, but clubs, bars, and drinking scenes, is not exactly the best place to be meeting up with a guy. You will both be drunk, and that's not the greatest start to a relationship and learning about someone else.
You say you don't like people who say "maybe." Wow! You don't like this guy already, you're already having problems with him! It doesn't seem like you're ready for anything serious. And it doesn't seem like he REALLY wants to hangout with you. If he did he would've said yes! Although, if he gets bored tonight (which it's Halloween, I highly doubt it) He might show up- but as far as him WANTING to hang out with you, I say no, or he would've jumped at the oppurtunity.

Um, I wasn't going to be drinking at a bar. I was going to be drinking at my apartment.

I'm not ready for anything serious? Yeah, okay. I'm glad you know me so well.

And with a lot of guys, they'll opt to hang out with their guy friends 95% of the time before a girl they just started seeing, so I know it's perfectly normal. Not to mention his best friend is from out of town. He did say he would stop over here if he isn't too drunk after hitting the clubs with his friends. We just saw each other yesterday morning, and then the day before and the day before. So I don't mind as much if I don't see him tonight, though I would like to.

Also, I wasn't pushing the idea of us drinking together, but some guys you need to be affirmative.

I also actually really like this guy a lot. And I said I hate when people say maybe, but I just hate when ANYONE does that, just cause it's not always clear as to whether maybe means no or maybe means maybe.

I said "bar, clubs, and drinking scenes..." Your place tonight is a "drinking scene." And who cares, the point is- drinking causes drunkenness, which can cause stuff to happen between you and this guy that you would've rather not happened.
And no, in my opinion, you don't seem ready for anything serious. You met a guy that you REALLY like after just recently meeting him and hanging out with him twice. Now you want to hook up and drink with him. Doesn't exactly seem like the recipe for a lasting relationshp to me, you recently met him and you hung out twice- you barely know the guy!
Guys, just like girls, get the point after you ask them once if they want to go somewhere or do something- guys aren't stupid, they know what they want and what they don't want. I think you were the one who didn't get the point after he said "maybe" both times you asked. And, you still don't get the point considering you're asking us now. The thing is: If he wanted to go, he would've told you yes.

Where did I say I wanted to hook up with him? Nowhere. I don't have sex with guys that soon. Drinking does not always lead to sex. I've drank with lots of guys/people and it has never lead to sex.

Yes, I am still learning new things about this guy, but we've talked A LOT. First night we were texting from like 7pm to 3am. The other night we stayed up until 4:30 am just sitting here talking in my room. Yes, I don't know everything about him, but I know a good deal.

Hook up doesn't have to be narrowed down to sex- it could mean just meeting somewhere- getting together, etc. Which you wanted to do, right?
Things that you can end up regretting while being drunk also doesn't have to be narrowed down to sex I've drank with many guys and girls and it's never led to sex- However, it has led to people peeing themselves, falling over, and puking, things you regret could be simply making a fool of yourself.
You need to get to know this guy more before you jump into anything and start getting emotionally invested in him. Texting for hours on end does not tell you enough about a guy to begin a serious relationship with him.

I think things like peeing on themselves, puking, etc.. Isn't regrettable. It's funny. I don't see it as making a fool out of myself. I was hugging the toilet one night all night, but I didn't regret drinking. I just learned not to do what I did.

Also, with this guy.. we haven't even kissed yet cause he said he is shy, so I doubt we're just going to hop into bed with the other. When he stayed over the other night all we did was cuddle, which was fine by me.

You might not see peeing yourself as foolish, most other people do. If you think it's funny you better be sure that this guy thinks it's funny too- or you could be peeing and puking all night and he will be ready to leave, or puke himself.
You cuddled after just recently meeting him- this makes me more doubtful that you are serious. Cuddling after the first date is what middle schoolers do. If you are seriously looking for a long-term relationship (possibly marriage?) then you should learn more about the guy before you get into a relationship with him- especially before you start cuddling with him.

I've only puked once while being drunk, and that was only because I had Goldschlagger/alcohol with Ben and Jerry's ice cream. Never puked before that, never puked after that. Not everyone is a lightweight and can control their functions.

Cuddling is perfectly innocent. And whoa whoa whoa, I ain't going to be thinking about marriage with someone this early. You don't have to know a lot about a person to CUDDLE with them. Are you freakin kidding me? You're too serious about all of this. Also, I would like to point out that I'm not in a relationship with him, hence me not saying "my boyfriend". We're just seeing each other and seeing where things go. Cuddling is as innocent as kissing is. You don't have to be committed to do either. But apparently you think so. If I didn't know any better, I'd say you're one of those "marriage before sex" type people. If so, I can totally understand why you're coming off like this.

It's true not everyone is a lightweight, but most people can't just NOT be affected by alcohol- which causes most people to make a fool of themselves.
Cuddling leads to kissing, which leads to touching, and... you get the picture.
If it's way too early for you to be looking at marriage for you, why are you dating or seeing anyone. If you're not looking for a spouse are you looking for someone to mess around with??
I believe that the best thing in a relationship is having your first time on your wedding night. From experience... I'm not married, I'm engaged and I have had sex before. It just makes things more complicated.

Of course I'm not looking for someone to mess around with. But I can't determine if I want to marry someone eventually unless I'm with them for at least 6 months to a year. But I won't even marry someone if I've been with them for 2+ years. And cuddling does not always lead to kissing. The guy I'm seeing stayed the night over here a few nights ago and when we went to bed, we cuddled, but he still hasnt' kissed me, so your assumption is wrong.

Cuddling isn't leading to kissing right away- but it eventually will lead to a kiss, unless of course you leave him before that, or hel eaves you. It doesn't take 2 years to find the guy that doesn't stomp on your heart. Why couldn't you just be friends for a year or so instead of date him for a year or so? That way you won't get emotionally involved and set yourself up to be heartbroken.