SunnSand
Oct 30, 2009, 03:09 PM
There is more to the story, but what should I do if I have a MIL (let me add here that she is upset with my husband and I because we do not allow her to be alone with our children due to her having medical conditions, and she also likes to get high, that I as a parent do not feel comfortable leaving my young children alone with her or her husband, they have had my oldest alone on a few occasions but I couldn't trust that she wasn't sneaking off to get high so I stopped asking them to watch her when I had to work) I have always had my door open for her to visit, I only asked that she call a day in advance and that ticked her off, but she would pop in for photo ops and leave, she actually sent me an email upset because she didn't have any photo's of my daughter over a certain period. She always has time to go out with her friends, and I understand that she is a grown woman, BUT she has never stopped living her life since her son was born, she would leave him at home with what ever pill popping drunk aunt they could find to watch him, her time comes first then when she is ready to visit with her grandchildren I am expected to drop on a dime and make time for her and if I already have plans then I am keeping her from seeing them.
ANYWAY, what should I do, if she didn't call, email, send a card nothing for her grandsons first birthday?
We have also caught her in TONS of lies, over the years she has cancelled numrous visits, then complains she is never allwowed to see her grandchildren, I asked to meet her a different place one time since my daughter had a double ear infection and she smokes in her house, she cancelled completley and went out of town with her friends instead.
I was emailing her updates because I do think she should be involved in their lives, my son doesn't know who she is, but my daughter does... I stopped the emailing when she didn't reply, plus her son told me to.
I want her to see her grandchildren, but she only wants to see them if it can be her way, if it isn't her way she just doesn't come, what should I do, she says she cares but her actions prove otherwise
ANYWAY, what should I do, if she didn't call, email, send a card nothing for her grandsons first birthday?
We have also caught her in TONS of lies, over the years she has cancelled numrous visits, then complains she is never allwowed to see her grandchildren, I asked to meet her a different place one time since my daughter had a double ear infection and she smokes in her house, she cancelled completley and went out of town with her friends instead.
I was emailing her updates because I do think she should be involved in their lives, my son doesn't know who she is, but my daughter does... I stopped the emailing when she didn't reply, plus her son told me to.
I want her to see her grandchildren, but she only wants to see them if it can be her way, if it isn't her way she just doesn't come, what should I do, she says she cares but her actions prove otherwise