Long Story short

We met through Myspace when she was 19 I was 22.. Me from the East coast, she is from west coast.. 6 months after we started talking and visited each other back and forth I moved out to the west coast with her.. traveled all over, finished school, spent all time together...

Fast forward 3 1/2 years later we buy a house, plan on getting married.. a month after moving into new house and a week before she pressures me to ask her dad for his blessing, she dumps me and says she does not like me anymore like that... we never had any big arguments.. I didn't have many friends out here because I left everything behind, she's got her whole life out here...

I have a temper just like every other guy out there, but I was never verbally or physically abusive.

I didn't get along with some of her best friends, she said she didn't feel like herself anymore, blah blah blah...

I begged and cried to stay with me but obviously that didn't work and was the biggest mistake I ever made.

It's been 2 1/2 moths since the last time we spoke and 4 since we broke up.. and even though I've been on a lot of dates, I can't find any chemistry with any other girls the way it was with my ex.

I'm planning on contacting her again.

If anyone has any suggestions/comments on how to do this, I'd appreciate it.

It's likely people will say don't do it blah blah blah... but you know how it goes when you're in love..

If you're planning on contacting her to rekindle your relationship, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

2 months is not a long time. Give yourself more time to heal from this break up. Furthermore, there's no reason to rush into the dating scene, because every girl you meet is going to be a rebound until you've fully healed.

You don't need to rush into a new relationship or try to repair an old one. Just focus on doing things for yourself. Enjoy the single life until you've completely recovered.

In the two and a half months you ve not been contacting her she apparently hasn't changed her mind.
I agree with I Wish your re setting yourself up for as disappointment.

You should be busy building a life that you enjoy without her, instead of wondering whether you should contact her or not.

Not the best move to relocate, and give up everything for someone after just 6 months, but hey it got you through school and you have a house, the rest is up to you.

Leave her alone.

I think you already answered your question... it's not the best idea to contact her. You're going to do what you're going to do but honestly do you like all the pain and suffering?

She doesn't want to talk to you. If she did want to talk to you, she would've called you. I'm afraid that if you do end up calling her that she will just get more upset and you will end up hurt again. She might not even answer. Just give it another couple of months.