Ok, here it is. I live with my aunt who has raised me since I was seven years old, so she is pretty much my parent. She also raised my sister and my brother on and of (him). I have a son who is like her grandson. I moved out to go to college and then I moved back in because I was in a terrible relationship with the guy that I lived with. My Uncle ( her brother ) had moved in previous to my moving out, and that's probably why I was hasty in moving out. He has three kids, all of which are unruly little brats. He moved in when the youngest kids (twins) were one year old and the other kid was two; just to get back on his feet. Well that was three years ago, and they are still living here. This is my problem: He does not pay rent, none at all. He does not watch his kids, they get into everything regardless if they know they are supposed to or not. His kids just constantly scream and cry and sprint around the house... unattended to. If I do anything about it, I get yelled at or the cold shoulder. My uncle does not have a job and has not for about a year and a half, and he is making no attempt to find one. All he does all day is sit in his room, which is the former family room, and watch TV. I don't understand how he can do this day in and day out. His room is disgusting. The walls are covered with crayon, marker, and God knows what else. There are two cribs filled with broken toys in his room, and he and his children have completely destroyed the entertainment cabinet that was a gift to our family. His kids have already ruined my aunts new refrigerator and his side of the house is completely filthy. He only buys food for his kids and himself, but then he does not do any dishes and leaves his trash all over the place. Furthermore, he yells at my child although my son is a very well behaved child. Also, My husband and I live in the house, we have our own room and it is clean and organized and my sons room is similar, though we have to remind him all the time... anyway, my uncle will just get mad and hurl insults at his children, cursing very loudly while sitting on his couch/bed. Those kids and him share that one room, they are always dirty and they do not even have beds. He will try to start fights with my husband an I by saying things like my son has 2 moms, or that my husband is not family and he should be kicked out... or just nonsensical things. He also was trying to start a fight with my brother and he slapped him around and said that every time he saw my brother he was going to beat him up. As I mentioned before, he does not pay bills or rent. He is on welfare for himself and 3 kids, and he also has custody of my half -sister, and he gets money for her. However, none of it is spent on her, she only has like one pair of pants, which are like falling apart, and if there is like a dance or something at the school, he never has any money for her. My aunt and I are always buying her things that she needs. Anyway... here is the trouble, my aunt will not kick him out. She says that she is worried about the children, but...
It is not doing anything for them to be here, except make everyone mad. Nobody likes those people except for my aunt. She gets mad at me when I say that she should kick him out. She also thinks that I am mean for not liking the kids. Moving out for me is not an option right now, but I am worried about my aunt because he is using her. Also, my grandmother lives here as well and she needs help. My husband and I do that , and don't ask my uncle because he does not do a single thing for her and that is his mother! What can I do to help the situation and not make her mad?

Kupo,
"Moving out for me is not an option right now" Find a way. You will only be setting your family up for more abuse as long as you are there. Rent a trailer till your family is able to find a home. You sound like you are trying to be a family. You will not grow in this environment. You will not be able to change the family situation as it is right now. Enablers allow such situations to continue. Don't be part of that. Get out for your own sanity. Leave ASAP. It will not change. You are not in charge and ranting about it will only get your son becoming the target of more yellings if not more. Do what it takes to get on your own. ---- Ace

This is up to your aunt. There is nothing you can do if she won't act.

What I would suggest, is convince your Aunt to go to the local children's services agency. If the Uncle is getting child support for one kid and not using it on her. If he is forcing the other kids to live in squalor, then the kids may be removed from him and maybe your aunt can foster them. That would then allow her to kick his sorry butt out in the street and get control of the home and the kids.