well me and my ex were together for 7 months and knew each other for 4 years because we first were friends for 4 years so he was chasing me for 4 years because i was playing hard to get well the relationship went really good when we finally got together but by that time he didn't had a job and stuff so he looked for me more and stuff..then after he got a job well he started changing his attitude and didn't call me much and look for me much and when i use to tell him well he said I'm busy man now i was ohhh u have change alot with me i don't think you love me and stuff like that but i think he is a man that doesn't really know to express himself well like 2 weeks a go i broke up with him because i thought he was playing little games with me and stuff and and to see if he will look for me and show is he truly loves me and he didn't look for me at all ...i was like saying to my self he doesn't love me then...well from the 21 of October he been calling me like crazy and i found all the missed "why were you calling me what happen " i was like well i had a lot of missed calls from you he denied all those calls and said that he didn't call me and i was like oh god i know my phone is not crazy well i told him that how is life treating him since we are separated how are your feelings he said well how you expect me to fell after you broke up with me for an stupid reason and that he felted miserable i told him i only do that to see if you will make an effort to look for me and show me you love me and he said well i didn't look for u because i respected your decision and you were talking to me like really serious like a really serious decision so didn't wanna bother and i was like but like that you could of show me your true feelings after that he said he will call me back and i text him lets get back together lets give another chance to work it out he said he didn't know and that he had to think about it i was like omg he was like i do but i have to think because i don't wanna be with you and you not be happy or feel like its not enough and i do love you he said and then he said like i feel that if i go back with you u gonna keep playing with me .

my question is why he said he has to think if he loves me why he doesn't look for me why he has to give those excuses .....i don't get it and what should i do.. i really love him i can't forget about him

So much game playing, you kind of lost to your own game. You broke up with him to see if he would run after you, and then he didn't, and he is not sure about coming back to you.

Well there isn't much you can do, beside taking care of yourself. The only thing you can do is to give him space and think about yourself.

Also stop playing games with people, it will backfire like now. You have to be more direct.

You don't have to forget to move on and be happy. That's what I suggest you do.

You broke up with him to see if he would chase after you? I understand what you mean by that. You are testing him. Seeing where his priorities are, seeing if he will be the gentleman to show up at your door with flowers, seeing if he will chase after you! I totally understand. Is it right to do that? No, not always. It could be okay if it's for the right reasons. I don't think I wouldve recommended breaking up with him right away. I wouldve started by saying "hey, we need a break. maybe a week or two?" but the past is the past. Since you did break up with him you need to just leave him alone and stick with your original plan. Let him think about it, let him miss you until the point that he just can't stand it anymore and call you up to get back together. If he decides that he doesn't want to be with you anymore, then that is his decision and you must respect that. Of course it would be hard because you love him! But there's not point of pursuing a relationship when the other person doesn't feel the same way. Just focus on yourself and your friends for the time being and wait for a certain response then you will know what to do.

He got tired of your making him chase you and testing him and generally you both fell into the mind games. That's not love, or a relationship. It's a competition between a confused person, and an insecure one.

Now its over, so stop the games as you see where they lead. You think a guy won't get tired of chasing, and proving after 4 years?