I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I am really faithful and would never ever cheat on him because I love him very much. And just to have no confusion about this, I am not bisexual or lesbian and he knows this. Last New Year's Eve my best girlfriend kissed me in front of my boyfriend. He thought it was really hot and obviously loved it, because he's been egging me to do it again.

Lately a girlfriend of mine has tried to kiss me a few times when my boyfriend wasn't around while we were out partying. I turned her down the first few times or avoided the situation, but last Thursday she kissed me at a party - completely out of the blue. By the time I realized what she was doing it already happened. I wanted to tell my boyfriend, but now apparently he thinks it would be cheating if I did that without him there. However you would not believe the ways he tries to egg us on into doing it in front of him. He asked me straight up if maybe it had already happened and I said no because I felt cornered. He then asked if I would consider it and I said yes. Then he got extremely mad and said "so you want to cheat on me?". He turned around (we were in bed) and didn't talk for the rest of the night.

I however don't consider this cheating since I'm allowed to do it in front of him... It's just in good fun... I never ever even flirt with guys! What do you think?

Oh and I just remembered, when I kissed my best girlfriend in front of him at New Year's, he said it was fine if I did it when he's not there as long as I do it again in front of him whenever it happens. Can I hold him to this? I mean, it's not my fault his belief about this changed so drastically, is it?

The bounderies in this relationship seem to have become blurred...

The goal posts keep moving to the point neither of you know what is OK and what is not.

If your in a relationship and you kiss a girl or a boy behind your boyfriend/girlfriend back,its cheating.

And to top it off your hiding things and lying...

Who dictates the rules here? Him ? You?
Or is there a mutual understanding... does not sound like any communation to going on here at all!

Unless you can unravel this mess by talking it out with him and both of you understanding the bounderies in this relationship it is fast circling the drain as it is.

One more point... if a man/woman went to kiss me without my permission, I have a serious problem with that... and would NOT let it happen..

Red - I couldn't rep you yet, but I totally agree with your post.

Justme - he sounds confused as to what he wants and he's confusing you. You both need to step back, figure out what you want, and work on improving your relationship. It doesn't sound very healthy.

I always note in so many relationship issues one party or the other is "out to a party" that involves drinking without the other ( or even with the other)

And if you are not bi sexual why are you kissing other girls? Or even out with people that would think that is OK.

I see so many problems in this relationship I don't know even where to start.

But yes kissing another person is "cheating" on a boyfriend or girlfriend.

And the kissing in front of them, well ( what ever floats their boat I guess) but has all sort of normal relationship issues also

I answered a post here not to long ago, about a guy who had a girlfriend that was upset about her kissing her friend, so my question is, was that your boyfriend in that post?

To answer your question though, I would be wary of a friend, that thought it was okay to steal unwanted kisses from you. Why would you let them?? Maybe you being clear with your friend, and boyfriend, (and yourself) would make the boundaries of what you consider good behavior, abundantly clear.

To add, his idea that its okay to do it in front of him, but not behind his back, is just plain crap.