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Melody2546
Oct 23, 2009, 12:39 PM
I am 19 and I've been with my boyfriend for a year now, I was not a vigin when me met but he was. We usually have sex almost every day. Problem is.. I have never had an orgasm. I have read other stuff about just not concentrating on it and just enjoying it and I have tried that. Sex feels good, but it seems like I can't really feel it that much.
And sometimes it hurts, like if I'm on top (even when he's on top sometimes), it hurts in my lower stomach area and kind of feels like he's hitting a wall inside of me. Advice? :confused:

Melody2546
Oct 23, 2009, 12:41 PM
Also.. I'm on birth control pills.. I never had a problem with dryness before but now I do.. is that normal?

Synnen
Oct 23, 2009, 12:45 PM
Talk to your gynecologist. Do it soon.

He's probably hitting your cervix, which is why it hurts sometimes... but pain during sex is NEVER good, and should ALWAYS be followed up with a visit to the doctor.

As far as orgasming goes---can you give YOURSELF an orgasm?

Melody2546
Oct 23, 2009, 04:47 PM
Yes but I need a viberator.. if he fingers me it feels really good but I've never had an orgasm from that either, only the viberator..

Cat1864
Oct 23, 2009, 05:38 PM
Melody, if you read other questions about orgasms and the answers given, you find that needing the extra stimulation of the vibrator is common. You can also use it during intercourse.

What is a concern is the pain you are experiencing. Synnen is quite right that you need to see a doctor and make sure that everything checks out physically.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 23, 2009, 07:09 PM
Do you on your own, if not, find out what feels good to yourself, after that teach him. And always keep lube around for times it is needed