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NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 22, 2009, 07:05 AM
I'm 15 and I think that I could be pregnant. Me and my boyfriend used protection but when he came the condom fell off in me. It was INSIDE me. I'm worried that semen came out of the condom. I think it was my first day of ovulation. It has only been 4 days since that happened. I know my mom will help me... I'm not so sure about my dad. If he kicks me out I know his mom will let me live with them. My boyfriend knows that I could be pregnant and he is working 2 jobs; well has been. I'm getting a job in January when I have my restricted license... at least I'm going to try and get one. I'm not scared about being pregnant. Also, I'm not asking this question for negative input. I just want to know what are my chances that I'm pregnant?

J_9
Oct 22, 2009, 07:15 AM
Your chances are 50/50. You now have to wait until you miss your period, then test using first morning urine.

Remember that there are health consequences involved with being pregnant at your age.

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 22, 2009, 07:19 AM
Yes, I know there is... if I am pregnant all I want is for my baby to be healthy. I won't even know if I am pregnant for a while... and the "baby" has already become my world...

15teenandscared
Oct 22, 2009, 01:02 PM
You could be pregnant.
Look at me I'm 15 me and my boyfriend has had sex 4 times. Only twice with a condom. I think I'm pregnant. The only difference between our stories is that my mom most likely won't agree with my pregancy and my dad won't neither. I can't tell my parents. Only me and my boyfriend and a friend know. It harder for me than you. Just maybe look at the bright side (if there is one) you will have someone that will always love you and that you will always love. Only thing bad is that both me and you are WAYYYYY TOO YOUNG TOO B DEALING WITH THIS.

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 22, 2009, 07:26 PM
My mom was a pregnant teen she's really open about things... me and my boyfriend have only had sex about that many times.. but we always used a condom.. but condoms aren't 100 percent ]:... and the whole having someone who will always love you thing is exaclty what I told my boyfriend... yea we are way to young to deal with this.. but... ig this is the consequence**sp** that come with doing grown up things

J_9
Oct 22, 2009, 07:45 PM
look at the bright side (if there is one) you will have someone that will always love you and that you will always love. only thing bad is that both me and you are WAYYYYY TOO YOUNG TOO B DEALING WITH THIS.!

Ladies, this isn't the "bright" side. Babies aren't born loving you. They are born totally and completely dependent on you. Babies don't have the ability to love for several years.

Teens typically mistake bonding with love, but that is furthest from the truth. Babies are capable of eating, peeing, pooping, sleeping and crying. They depend on you for EVERYTHING. When you have been awake for over 24 hours with a sick crying colicy baby, you won't really be feeling the love either. Take it from me. I am not only a labor and delivery/nursery nurse, but also a mother of 4.

brittanymommy08
Oct 22, 2009, 08:00 PM
Ladies, this isn't the "bright" side. Babies aren't born loving you. They are born totally and completely dependent on you. Babies don't have the ability to love for several years.

Teens typically mistake bonding with love, but that is furthest from the truth. Babies are capable of eating, peeing, pooping, sleeping and crying. They depend on you for EVERYTHING. When you have been awake for over 24 hours with a sick crying colicy baby, you won't really be feeling the love either. Take it from me. I am not only a labor and delivery/nursery nurse, but also a mother of 4.

She is right, I'm 19 with two kids, my little girl is a year old next month and I'm due any day with my son, there are many nights I wish I wasn't a mother at my age, it is hard. Plus at your age I wasn't doing what you are doing, all I have to say if you are be ready to grow up and accept a beautiful joyful child, just remember they didn't ask to be here, there will be many every FOUR hour feeding and you have to do it, they DEPEND on YOU!
I would love to be away at college, or out partying, just realize you are only young once and you don't have to have sx and if you are and I know you are or you wouldn't be here asking IF IM PREGNANT, be safe, use every type of birth control you can,
I'm not looking down on you, but live your teenage life to the fullest, it's hard being in the real world going to school, working, raising kids, making sure they have everything they need and want, making sure your bills are paid. You don't realize it until you are doing it alone, and plus if you are pregnant are you sure the guy will stick around just to let you know I thought that tooo my little girls daddy left when she was three days old, and I don't hear from him but maybe once every four months, and he won't pay child support soi have been doing it alone with him. Just think about what you are doing?

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 22, 2009, 08:06 PM
I understand a sick screaming baby... my sister lives with us she has a baby... she hasn't finished "growing up" so I've had to take care of him plenty of times to understand that. I understand about most things about taking care of a baby. I know it will be harder once it is my own... my mom had all 4 of us kids young but she did it... and none of us have ever had to do without. I think I can do the same for my baby (if I'm pregnant). I don't think that at all times I'm going to be the best parent in the world but I'm going to try my hardest to be every second of the day. I can still get my education and be a teenager and be a mom.. I know I can. If I am not pregnant I'm going to do what I was planning on doing and waiting till marriage to have sex again. It was a mistake for me to lose my virginity in the first place. Hormones got the best of me. I know you're thinking that I just said I was planning on waiting till marriage but I did it anyway but after this kind of scare I'm waiting. To tell the truth I'm actually a really good girl.. and none of this was what I planned. But, If this is what is intended for me than so be it. I don't believe in abortions and I believe I can give my baby a good home life so there's no need for adoption. I can't turn back time and I can't fix any of my mistakes. All I can do is learn from them.

brittanymommy08
Oct 22, 2009, 08:13 PM
All I'm saying, if you are life will be hard
And I'm sorry to say, you won't have no teenage years like normal highchool life,
I thought the same thing, I just graduated this
Past may, and that night I was home with my little girl, all I'm saying is IF you are be ready to change everything, and no it not a mistake,
It just have waited, my kids are no mistake, they are really the best thing that happen to me, and right now, don't be stressing over being pregnant if you're not it will throw your period off.

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 22, 2009, 08:23 PM
I get that my life will be hard... babies cost a lot of money. But, if I am pregnant I know my mom will help me take care of it. And so will his mom. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. We lost our virginity's to each other in the 11th month. I've never drank, did drugs, partied, smoked... nothing. I just chose to show my love in a grown up way. As for birth control, my doctor won't let me get it until he can check if I have Endometriosis, because he thinks I have it. My mom has been delaying the apointment every month. But, me and my boyfriend have used condoms every time. We've had sex 5 times. I know the only thing that is 100 percent is abstinence. No the baby won't be a mistake not at all to me... a beautiful blessing. Yes, a blessing that could have waited. But, once again.. I can't go back and change things. And I'm not really stressing and I have irregular periods anyway.

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 22, 2009, 08:38 PM
And yes I know he's going to stay here for me... he Isn't like all other guys... and He's been my best friend for forever. He

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 22, 2009, 08:39 PM
(sorry,I don't know what I pressed) wouldn't leave me like that.

J_9
Oct 23, 2009, 01:07 AM
and yes I know he's going to stay here for me...he Isn't like all other guys....and He's been my best friend for forever. He

Unfortunately, that's what most unwed teen mothers think. He'll promise the moon until the going gets tough, then he will get going. Again, speaking from experience.

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 23, 2009, 06:23 AM
Ah, no! He Isn't going to leave. Our relationship is realllly a lot different than you would even begin to understand.

J_9
Oct 23, 2009, 06:27 AM
Sabrina... As a mother and a labor and delivery nurse, your relationship is not any different than I would begin to understand. Believe it or not, I've seen it all!!

You have no idea how easy it is for the guy to just walk out of the picture when the going gets tough and the money is tight. What if he finds another gal that doesn't have a baby and has time to party and do teen things?

This is NOT a put down, but at your young age I think life is a lot different than you would begin to understand. You are only at your prime... you have not even begun to climb the hill that is life, while I am over that hill and looking back at some of the foolish things I have done that my children are now doing.

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 23, 2009, 07:10 AM
Me and him have been through a lot together. If he wanted to leave when the going got tough he would have left a long time ago. And he doesn't even like to party... he likes music, working, and doing car stuff with his friends. I know this is random in here but what makes having sex so much worse and or different than doing drugs or drinking or smoking? And the whole life thing yeah, there is a lot of things in life I haven't gotten to experience yet... but I'm going to eventually need to.

J_9
Oct 23, 2009, 07:15 AM
What's different between having sex and doing drugs... smoking or drinking? Well, sex doesn't ruin brain and/or lung cells the way that drugs, smoking or drinking does.

However, if you aren't ready for the consequences it creates an entirely different set of problems.

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 23, 2009, 07:20 AM
I think doing all the other stuff is worse... I'm not like whoring around or anything... I'm with the same person I lost my virginity to. He was a virgin too... so there is no STD's. Pregnancy is the biggest factor... and unless I were to have a bad pregnancy.. I don't think it would kill me.. or the baby. I have some friends who are teen moms... only they got pregnant a LOT younger than me... and they're doing it... still going to school... and still having a teenage life. And I'm not saying just because they're doing it and are fine it doesn't mean I will be. I'm just saying it is possible.

J_9
Oct 23, 2009, 07:27 AM
I think doing all the other stuff is worse...I'm not like whoring around or anything...I'm with the same person I lost my virginity to. He was a virgin too ... so there is no STD's. Pregnancy is the biggest factor ... and unless I were to have a bad pregnancy .. I don't think it would kill me.. or the baby. I have some friends who are teen moms...only they got pregnant a LOT younger than me ... and they're doing it ... still going to school... and still having a teenage life. And I'm not saying just because they're doing it and are fine it doesn't mean I will be. I'm just saying it is possible.

You are very right that the other stuff is worse... but there are some very serious risks involved with teen pregancy. Your friends are lucky, but you may not be. Why risk that chance?

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 23, 2009, 07:34 AM
I never intended getting pregnant at my age. I never even planned on having sex at my age... I wanted to wait until the night of my wedding for as long as I can remember. It just happened... The thing is though I can't turn back time. I can't go back and stop me and him from having sex to prevent this situation. What I can do though is face this head on. If I'm pregnant I'm telling my mom the second I find out then I'm telling my dad (that's going to be the worst) He is going to tell his mom if I am. And if my dad kicks me out I'll be able to stay with him... his mom already said if something goes on at my house I can always stay with them. Plus, she wouldn't let the mother of her grandchild be homeless. If I'm not pregnant I'm going to stress on my mom more to go get me checked for Endometriosis so I can get on birth control and I'm going to try to abstain from any kind of sex. But that's why I'm going to try harder to get on birthcontrol, just in case it happenes like before. If me and him do have sex again we are going to continue to use condoms and be a lot more careful about it.

J_9
Oct 23, 2009, 07:40 AM
Honey, you can't put the cart before the horse. The first thing you have to do is find out if you are pregnant or not. We can deal with the rest if you are. So let's start there okay?

You need to take a HPT using first morning urine. Please forgive me as I have worked a 12 hour shift and now have been awake for more than 17 hours... how late is your period?

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 23, 2009, 07:47 AM
I know about the first morning urine thing. And my period Isn't late yet. I should get it with in the next week though... And usually before my periods I have extreeme cramping and my breasts hurt but as of right now I'm not doing any of thoes things... But, I am discharging a LOT and I usually don't do that... I already have the tests and I was going to take one on the 1st and 1 on the 7th... and if they were both negative and I still hadn't gotten my period I was going to get another box and take the tests like 7 days apart and keep doing that until my period comes or I got a positive... and you should get some sleep.

J_9
Oct 23, 2009, 07:50 AM
It sounds as though you have the right plan going. Wait until you miss your period before testing. But, remember, that stress from worrying about pregnancy can make your period late as well. Sometimes we even skip a month for no reason at all.

Now, you are a true darlin... and you are right... I need to get some sleep. Keep me posted on what you find out and I will help you any way you need it. ;)

NvRShoutSabrina
Oct 23, 2009, 07:52 AM
I will deffinantly keep you posted and thank you for the advice and stuff... and I'm sure I'll have a lot more questions along the way. Have some good sleep :]

NvRShoutSabrina
Nov 1, 2009, 11:42 PM
Well this morning I took the first pregnancy test... It was negative. But, I still haven't started my period and I'm not even having symptoms like I'm going to. I'm going to take the other test on the 7th. Hopefully by then I will have started my period... if not the test should come out positive... and if that doesn't happen.. I guess I'm just going to have to wait and see what happens. I'll think I'm going to wait a week or so and if I don't start take another test and go from there... what do you think?

brittanymommy08
Nov 2, 2009, 03:46 PM
That's your best bet.
Or get to a doctor and have blood work done
:) if your not pregnant get some birth control.

NvRShoutSabrina
Nov 2, 2009, 11:03 PM
Well my mom has been telling me she is going to get me on birthcontrol.. but my doctor won't give it to me till I get checked for endometriosis.. but she never makes the apt.. so I haven't been able to get it

Alty
Nov 2, 2009, 11:04 PM
Well my mom has been telling me she is going to get me on birthcontrol..but my doctor wont give it to me till i get checked for endometriosis..but she never makes the apt..so i haven't been able to get it

Are you officially late for your period?

Have you taken a test?

If you're not pregnant then talk to you mom. It's important that you get checked and get on birth control. :)

You know we're here for you either way. :)

NvRShoutSabrina
Nov 2, 2009, 11:06 PM
I'll be late in 3 days and I have taken a test I think it was yesterday or the day before yesterday. My mom knows that I'm not a virgin and all... and I've been hounding her about Birthcontrol because I have horrible periods... but I have to have my apt while I'm on my period.. but she never makes them when I'm on.

Alty
Nov 2, 2009, 11:11 PM
I'll be late in 3 days and i have taken a test i think it was yesterday or the day before yesterday. My mom knows that I'm not a virgin and all...and I've been hounding her about Birthcontrol because I have horrible periods...but I have to have my apt while I'm on my period..but she never makes them when I'm on.

This is really important.

Don't let it go. Is there any way you can make the appointment?

If you're not pregnant, and until you get on the pill, please at least use a condom. It's better then nothing. :)

If you are pregnant then make sure you get prenatal vitamins asap. In fact, you could start them now, they won't hurt you but they're very necessary for the baby, if you're pregnant. :)

NvRShoutSabrina
Nov 2, 2009, 11:17 PM
No I don't think I can make the apt. Because I'm only 15... I'm military or well retired military so we go through post... and eveytime I have had sex I have used a condom... I've been with my boyfriend over a year now... and we lost our virginitys to each other and stuff... so I don't have to worry about STDs. And if I'm pregnant the baby will be my whole world and I'll do anything for it to be healthy. And I know since I'm young there could be complications in the pregnancy ]:

Alty
Nov 2, 2009, 11:22 PM
No I don't think I can make the apt. Because I'm only 15...I'm military or well retired military so we go through post... and eveytime I have had sex I have used a condom... I've been with my boyfriend over a year now... and we lost our virginitys to each other and stuff... so I don't have to worry about STDs. And if I'm pregnant the baby will be my whole world and I'll do anything for it to be healthy. And I know since I'm young there could be complications in the pregnancy ]:

I did read the previous posts.

I have to say that you seem to really know what you want and you have a pretty good head on your shoulders. I'm still hoping that you're not pregnant though. :)

If you are then I'm sure you'll find some way to get through it, but lets cross our fingers and hope that you can experience motherhood a lot later in your life.

You really need to get your mom on track. You need to make that doctor appointment. Don't take no for an answer, okay? This is your health we're talking about, it needs to be addressed.

For now, start taking prenatal vitamins. Like I said, they won't harm you but they're very important if you turn out to be pregnant. Most prenatal vitamins are over the counter, you don't need a prescription, so pick some up and start taking them. Taking them at night is the best, some people do feel nauseous with vitamins and taking them at night can help curb that.

Let us know how it goes okay? :)

NvRShoutSabrina
Nov 3, 2009, 07:03 PM
I'm hoping that I'm not... just for the fact that I have my whole life to have a baby, when I'm older I definantly want one... but still I am only 15. If I am pregnant, I'm going to face it head on :]

And about my mom, it's not that she doesn't want me to get it.. it's that she just never makes the apt. even when I remind her... I go to school and she forgets then by the time she gets around to it my period is over.

And where can I get them? Like at a normal store?

NvRShoutSabrina
Nov 8, 2009, 09:05 AM
So yesterday I took the other test, and it too was negative, but still I haven't gotten my period and I should have gotten it the 6th... So what I'm thinking now is that my period is just late.. It does that a lot. So that takes a little bit of stress off my shoulders and maybe it will come now. Let's just say that this was a learning experience for me :]

NvRShoutSabrina
Dec 28, 2009, 03:26 AM
I just randomly started thinking about this again. But, I'm definantly NOT pregnant and have not had sex since. I'm also on birthcontrol. But, I have a question about my best friend, she randomly hooked up with some guy.. and she thinks she's having pregnancy symptoms. It has been a little over a week and her breasts hurt, and she's having some spotting.. from what I've read I think that she could be pregnant.. I told her to wait for a while to take the test. She's not as prepaird as I was... how do I go about keeping her stress levels down and keeping her calm?