First I'll start by saying I have endometriosis. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months. My problem is I have been obsessing over getting pregnant. All day I search online and read about being pregnant, and all night I dream about it. I am starting to drive my husband and myself crazy! Why can't I for 1 minutes stop thinking about having a baby. Every time I have a stomach ache, I swear I'm pregnant. Is this normal?

You have only been trying for 3 months. It takes most women who do not have endometriosis 6 months to a year. So please be patient.

The other thing I have to mention is that being obsessed will only slow the process down even more. The more you obsess, the harder it will be.

First I'll start off by saying I have endometriosis. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months. My problem is I have been obsessing over getting pregnant. All day I search online and read about being pregnant, and all night I dream about it. I am starting to drive my husband and my self crazy!! Why can't I for 1 minutes stop thinking about having a baby. Everytime i have a stomach ache, i swear I'm pregnant. Is this normal?
Thanks for the reply. I am trying to relax, but sometimes I feel like I don't have control over my thoughts. I know I have stop stressing because it's not healthy. I was just wondering if I was the only person going through this.

Honestly the more you obsess about it, the more you think about it. The more you get anxious and worked up about becoming pregnant. I can tell you that your chanches of actually becoming pregnant are slim to none. I will tell you why. First of all, stress can actually prevent you from becoming pregnant. Not being able to relax can prevent you from becoming pregnant. Obsessions are never good, NEVER. So you need to stop it. You need to relax and you need to stop reading and trust it will happen whenever the right time is. So what you need to do is go on a holiday or vacation with your loved one. Focus on your love one. Make this person the most important part of your relationship right now and everything else will work out in the long run. J9 is right. It could take up to a year to get pregnant or even longer. Until you reach the 1 or 2 year mark of trying, IF it does take that long then seek medical help until then the best remedy is a vacation. REAL VACATION.

Joe

Hi KSev1218, for about 4 months I went through the same thing, but I didn't have endometriosis. I finally talked to my husband and told him I want to have another child before I turn 30 and he said OK and I went to see a obgyn doctor and she started me on prenantal viamins and three months later I found out I was having a baby. I have six weeks left to go and she will be here in no time, so all I can say is have a talk with your husband about this then make a preconception appointment with an obgyn and start taking the viamins and be patient with yourself and relax it take time. : )

Each time my wife and I got pregnant. It was on vacation. Both times. Both times it took us 6 months of trying until we did take vacation. Frustration and getting hopes up but when it does happen it will be worth the wait to see the beautiful baby in your arms. Believe me it is well worth the wait.

Well I appreciate all the advice. I will try to relax and enjoy the trying. I always knew I needed to stop thinking about it, it's just hard sometimes. I will make more of a conscious decision to stop obsessing! Anything I can do to have a baby... Any tips about getting pregnant, please share.

I have many of them.

Is that a tip?

I once heard.. I don't know if this a myth or not but when a women obsess like you to fall pregnant there is high possibility that you won't fall pregnant.

Are you thinking babies while having sex?

OK I won't think about it while having sex... thanks.

Do not go to the washroom after making love. Elevate your legs for about 10 minutes and do not get out of bed until about 20 minutes after making love. Do not make love more then once a day. Go every other day.

Yes I do that, and I take folic acid and prenatal vitamins. I stay away from caffeine also. I have an ovulation calender and know when my most fertile days are.

Do not focus on dates and calendar. Just have fun and enjoy and try just to be in that moment.

Yes I do that, and I take folic acid and prenatal vitamins. I stay away from caffeine also. I have an ovulation calender and know when my most fertile days are.

This is all great, but it does border on obsession. Obsession can lessen the likelihood of getting pregnant.

Do as Joe said, just enjoy the moment.

OMG I did a Google search to find out what was wrong with me too and I found this forum. Ok I think what everyone is saying is true about not stressing over falling pregnant cause then it never seems to happen. Ive been pregnant before with twins and I know I can fall pregnant because striaght after my abortion I fell pregnant again the next month but its been 2 years and I'm trying to fall pregnant for the past 2 months and I cant. Ive started taking folic acid and everything because I'm convinced ill fall pregnant but NOPE ----IM NOT! Last month I was that sure I would be pregnant my periods came 14 days late and I've never had an irregular period. I went and had blood tests but even though they came up negative I was convinced that I was still positive because on the internet it says some women's hcg levels don't go up till much later than some owmen and I had all the symptoms even being turned off food and cramping. In the end I went one session with a counseller who told me I needed to accept I wasn't pregnant and I really let it sink in and the next day I got my periods. So it shows what stressing over it can do, I think if you just randomly have sex and enjoy life it will come to you when u least explect it because if you haven't noticed people try for 10 years and are dying to have kids but they can't fall pregnant... And then as soon as they stop They're PREGNANT. I don't know why but this is how nature works I guess. Maybe ull appreciate your baby more when you wait longer. But don't worry I'm obsessing too :(

[Finally someone who understands!!! As of right now I am one day late for my period, but I took a test and it's negative :( So I guess the stress is pushing back my period too.. I have been having all kinds of symptoms. Morning sickness, metal mouth, cramping on one side, bloating, irritablilty, back pain, fatigue!! I am almost convincing myself that I am pregnant when I'm obviously not. I need to calm down and just let nature take its course...Yeah right!

You have to, otherwise this complusiveness will never enhance you to get pregnant.

First I'll start off by saying I have endometriosis. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months. My problem is I have been obsessing over getting pregnant. All day I search online and read about being pregnant, and all night I dream about it. I am starting to drive my husband and my self crazy!! Why can't I for 1 minutes stop thinking about having a baby. Everytime i have a stomach ache, i swear I'm pregnant. Is this normal?
I would say it is normal to think about making babies a lot whilst your trying.. but you need to try and concentrate on something else.. start a project or a hobby or anything to get your mind off it..
U need to relax... I must say I agree with the other answer if you don't relax you are highly unlikely to conceive...
Chill out :) and it will happen good luck hun

Thanks for all the great advice. Now 2 days late for my period, but like I said the test was negative. I've realized that stress is changing my period and that's not good for tracking Ovulation. I am one big mess....I really need to focus on something else. So many people around me are having babies. 5 of my friends and my brother just had a baby within this year. Just having a hard time being around ALL those babies and dealing with the jealousy.

First I'll start off by saying I have endometriosis. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months. My problem is I have been obsessing over getting pregnant. All day I search online and read about being pregnant, and all night I dream about it. I am starting to drive my husband and my self crazy!! Why can't I for 1 minutes stop thinking about having a baby. Everytime i have a stomach ache, i swear I'm pregnant. Is this normal? First of all...
If you sincerely want to get pregnant, than you should know that by obsessing over it all the live long day, your most likely to NOT get pregnant soon.. I promise, I was the same way for awhile but I realized stressing over it would only delay things and I would just go insane.. So Don't worry about it. Just let nature take it's course and it will happen on it's own. I promise. Good luck

First I'll start off by saying I have endometriosis. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months. My problem is I have been obsessing over getting pregnant. All day I search online and read about being pregnant, and all night I dream about it. I am starting to drive my husband and my self crazy!! Why can't I for 1 minutes stop thinking about having a baby. Everytime i have a stomach ache, i swear I'm pregnant. Is this normal?
I went through the same thing I obsessed for about 5 months on the computer too. Then I told myself to just stay away from the internet to get my mind off trying to get pregnant, soI got addicted to solitare! Instead... well Im typing this as I hold my beautiful 6 week old baby boy. As soon as I quit obsessing over it... next month I was pregnant. You don't realize the stress you are putting on yourself because it's a happy stress... I know its hard, but try to find a new hobby like get a fav computer game going again and go to that instead of pregnancy websites. They just get depressing after to long.

I was also obsessed about getting pregnant and I couldn't for 1 year I drove myself crazy it was th more I tried the more I couldn't get pregnant .I am now 9 months pregnant and I found out in march 2006 I was pregnant . I believe the reason I couldn't get pregnant was cause I was trying than I February my boyfriend told me he was sterile and couldn't have kids than I gave up on life and no sooner than later I was pregnant so my advise is be patient and be relaxed and it will happen. So good luck and I wsh the best for you and your husband

Yes its normal because I think that when you reach a certain point in your life you just want to become a mom I know I been trying to get pt for 3 yrs. No luck hopefully until now. When you get around people who have kids or just about to start, something just sets off inside of u. like I want one now and you end up tricking yourself to thinking that you are. Your husband should understand this because this has been done since beginning of time. Its every woman full fillment to have kids and what gets me is how is it that when who want one, you can't have one, but the ones who cares less about their kids and don't want them and only use them for check can have one. Anyway I wish you luck and you are and my prayers as I hope ill be and yours.

Start having sex for pleasure and relaxation and you will find yourself pregnant sooner than you think. Life always finds a way

I think it is normal my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for a year and I am the same way you are all I think about I having a baby I do the same things you do

Hi KSev, Don't worry, I'm obsessed too! I read books, surf net etc for tips ideas and symptoms the lot! However I try to stay calm and not emotional about the whole thing as I know it will only upset my balance which will lessen my chances of getting pregnant. Make your obsession a healthy excitement at the prospect of becoming pregnant :-)

Hi guys,

I am a journalist and a mother of two boys, 2 yrs old and younger. I was with my husband 7 years and trying for a baby for one before we got pregnant and so I relate to you.

I am working on a story about women who have become obsessed with being pregnant and I was wondering whether any of you would be kind enough to share your stories with me? My email address is [email protected]

I know how you are feeling! I am also finding myself thinking about babies day and night! I want one so badly! But unfortunately I apparently do not ovulate. I went on BC as a teen because I wasn't having any periods. I went off BC to try for a baby almost a year ago and since then I have had only one period and I haven't gotten pregnant yet. I'm riding an emotional roller coaster of hopefulness, depression, and obsessiveness. I have been taking various vitamins that supposedly have helped women ovulate. I'm doing everything I can except pricey fertility drugs since they aren't covered by insurance. :( so yeah I know exactly how you feel. Its to the point where I sometimes get catty with women in public who are pregnant or have a new baby, instead of feeling happy for them I resent them, especially women with more than one child, when I can't seem to have even one. I can't stand to hear women complain or hope they aren't pregnant now. I'm like well then why not me, Lord? She doesn't even want her baby and I am sitting here wishing for a child...

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you do get pregnant soon!

Let us now if you got your period.
I am trying to get pregnant already 5 month , I am getting myself crazy, I am trying to come down but I can't :(:(:(:(

Hey, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, I honestly thought I was losing it and I was the only one, I am exactly like you everyone is having babies and you want to be happy but it is all you want, and I know your not suppose to be stressed but come on, I know how you feel and I know my husband is the same way I just wanted to let you know your not alone and I'm here, hopefully we can talk and both be pregnant asap:)

I know exactly how you feel I have been searching the webs reading magazines about it. I want to have one so badly. But I can't seem to get pregnant. I dream about having babies and I see them in my dreams. And I think that because we are always wishing and hoping that we are pregnant that our bodies seem to make us think that we are... so do what I did and try not to think about it so much it will work out for you...




Lotz of baby dust to you...

I used too be obsessed with being pregnant. Now I maybe pregnant I don't know yet! I haven't had a period in 2 months so who knows!:)

I've been obsessing also for about five months now and I have decided to obsess over something differ now and that is my body, it is the only way for me to keep my mind off getting pregnant and that is keeping in shape so I thought I share that with all and hope that it helps somebody also when I am making love I just enjoy it instead of thinking of the sperm reaching my my egg. I am just tired of searching the internet that was no accurate for me and waiting for the next month to seeif my period will come this stuff ain't healthy and no one should have to live or feel like this but we do well I could say I did. Love, peace, good health and many babies as you all desire to all of you! God Bless

Hey, I have been obsessing for about a year in a half I want a baby so bad it drives me insane. I wrk two jobs to find things to keep my mind off it but nuthing is working sometimes I even feel like breaking down. Every time I tell myself if it happen it happen if it don't it don't but very soon after that I find myself obsessing again. Much hope love and peace lol and a bunch more baby dust.

I know exactly how you feel I was single for three years and then I met my boyfriend. Since we have been together a baby is all I think about. It also doesn't help that I have a tremendous fear that I won't be able to get pregnant. So it seems every time my period rolls around I am only disappointed. I have come to the conclusion that the best thing to do is not worry about it. I can't control if I can or can't only god can do that. I'm sure if you find another place to focus all the energy you put into thinking about getting pregnant. Then it will happen naturally...

I was like that with my last child. I tested all the time. After months of let downs I gave up. I just figured we could't have a child. We still were not using protection but I was no longer trying. Then we got home from the store one day and we were talking and realized I was over a week late. I went back to the store and got a test and it was blue!! I now have a beautifull 14mo daughter. Just relax. It will come.