So I've been with this guy for about 1 year and 8 months. We spent mostly everyday together going a lot of places. We were both each other's first and we planned out everything together and our future. I didn't realize till now but our relationship wasn't healthy at all, but he promised me he would always be there for me.

I broke up with him on August 24, the first day of school over something stupid. After a day or two I wanted him back but he didn't take me back. I had to change first. I still saw him when he came over my house but not during school because we had different times. Then one day I just gave up and took all his stuff out of my house and gave it back to him. After that we only saw each other once a week. I told him I was not going to give up this time. I meant it and he hoped I did. Then the next day he tells me to give up, says I'm going to get hurt anyway.

I go to his house and beg him to take me back, cry my eyes out, think of crazy things to say to see if he cares. But he tells me he doesn't love me and all this crap. And that he doesn't want me as his girlfriend now. So I ask him if about the later on. And he says he doesn't know the future he only knows now.

So I was an emotional wreck, and all we could really do was text. My parents disconnected his phone because they were paying for it and he emailed me the next day saying this and that. We talked kind of on email and he told me he missed me and our memories and wished everything could be how h wanted it to be.

But the next day I found out that he had a girlfriend!

It was a Monday. And Sunday he was just telling me that he missed me and everything. I called him asking him if he likeliked anyone else.. if he's cheating on me.. and stuff like that. He told me no and that he didn't know any girl by that name. I kind of believed him but I wasn't sure. So I went to school and found out myself. I met him and he looked straight at me and told me the same thing but he was irratated. Then when I left I asked his two friends and they told me the truth.

He had a girlfriend. He actually lied to me and looked me in the eye. I told him in email everything and that I found out but he still denied it. Even thought I had proof not only by his friends but the emails he sent to people.

A couple of weeks later he "pretends" to be one of my friends and texts me through their phone but I know it was him because the way he talked. He tells me that my ex is all alone and he wasn't dating anyone that she was just a stalker. I couldn't reply because he said "gtg" I know it was my ex texting me but I still couldn't believe he was trying to hide it.

He promised me so much, cared for me so much, and now after like barely any days he decides to get another girl. ( By the way, the girl is crazy about him so I guess she liked him first and he was like why not you know? )


We haven't been in contact for weeks and I'm happier without him. I think what he did was selfish. Dating someone else, then when he was done with her come back to me and act like everything was okay. But he lied.


SO PLEASE HELP ME. I don't understand his motives. Why was he trying to hide it from me and still is? I mean obviously he LOVES her enough to stay with her or is just too pathetic to deal with the pain. I heard he's got a lot meaner and says unnecessary things. He's a senior in high school and his current girlfriend is a junior.

I don't understand what he wants. Is he even thinking about the future?


( I was his first love. I mean it. He loved me so much I can't even say. So how can he do this)

Move on without him, he can't just fall in love with a new girl right away. You say your doing better by not being with him so continue to keep it that way. Heal yourself and go out with your friends. Do not contact him at all.