lady_amazon
Oct 19, 2009, 09:52 AM
I got to start saying that my boyfriend and I are together for 2 yrs now. I just found out from my bf's cell phone, that he has another child. After being so upset I ask him about it and he flips it saying, its my fault for going through his cell phone.
I end up talking to his daughter's mom and he gets mad because we are talking. I find out that the little girl is 5 months younger then my son! I'm humiliated and heart broken over this. He explains telling me it was a mistake and he didn't mean for any of it to happen that he was drunk and the girl provoked him. In other words he said if he was a girl it would have been considered rape because it was not willing that he wanted to have sex with this girl. Yet, I find out they were friends for a long time and he is really good friends with her family.
He said he is embarrassed because her family is Muslim and is so nice to him that he respects them and can't come to terms to tell them what really happened.
He hid it from me because the girl told him she wasn't going to have the baby and 8 months later he sees her and she is pregnant with his child.
He told me he is in love with me and that for months he been trying to avoid the situation because he was sooo angry about it. He was in tears crying to me he said he needs me and apologized for not telling me,but how can I make it work between us?? I feel so betrayed! I trusted him and he did me wrong!
Now he got 3 children and they are all by different women~
I truly do love him but how do I know he is serious about making us work and how can I possibly forgive him. Is there such a thing as giving a cheater a 2nd chance?? Or should I move on for my sons sake!
I end up talking to his daughter's mom and he gets mad because we are talking. I find out that the little girl is 5 months younger then my son! I'm humiliated and heart broken over this. He explains telling me it was a mistake and he didn't mean for any of it to happen that he was drunk and the girl provoked him. In other words he said if he was a girl it would have been considered rape because it was not willing that he wanted to have sex with this girl. Yet, I find out they were friends for a long time and he is really good friends with her family.
He said he is embarrassed because her family is Muslim and is so nice to him that he respects them and can't come to terms to tell them what really happened.
He hid it from me because the girl told him she wasn't going to have the baby and 8 months later he sees her and she is pregnant with his child.
He told me he is in love with me and that for months he been trying to avoid the situation because he was sooo angry about it. He was in tears crying to me he said he needs me and apologized for not telling me,but how can I make it work between us?? I feel so betrayed! I trusted him and he did me wrong!
Now he got 3 children and they are all by different women~
I truly do love him but how do I know he is serious about making us work and how can I possibly forgive him. Is there such a thing as giving a cheater a 2nd chance?? Or should I move on for my sons sake!