I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, yesterday he decided to tx me to to say he was sorry things had gone like this but it had not been right for months! But its for the best fr both of us.. he had not had contact with me for two weeks.. I was told two nights ago that he had gone down town with two women (who I know) but he would never go in the past when I asked him..

This is the fourth time he has done this and he says its nt going anyware.. I have asked him to move in with me in the past and he always says he likes it him having his place and me having mine... however years ago he was going to but decided to try to get back with his ex-wife (for the third time).. she never took him back.. I would speak to him on the phone from Sunday to Friday.. then he would see and stay with me Friday and Saturday nights.. he told me he wanted to take me on holiday just him and me as we have never been away just the two of us... his excuses are like an echo of previous breaks... he spends most of his free time in the local pub and if I wasent with him on a Friday or Saturday he would turn up at my house drunk.. ore often than not... a few months ago he told me there is something about me he can't give up.. but he doesn't know what it is... most of the time he complains about being tired and how hard he works (I know he works hard).. a week last Saturday I told him to stop moaning about being tired all the time we all get tired from work.. he has just recently been premoted to deputy manager.

I am confussed ilove the guy to bitts... but I feel emotionally drained every couple of years this happens how do you deal with this?

You deal with this by asking yourself how much longer you want to hang around waiting for this emotional abuser.
Sorry to be harsh but really-you deserve someone who s actually there for you, who isn't more committed to the pub or some previous relationship or whatever excuse he can think of.
Plus he keeps breaking up with you-this is not a relationship it's a mess and please walk away from it.

Thank you I know your right.. I just feel I can't go all through that dateing game any more I'm no spring chicken maybe I should just be on my own

When you ve healed from this relationship you ll be ready to meet someone new.
Meanwhile focus on yourself and do things that make you feel good about you-there s nothing wrong with being single for a while-get to know and love yourself.
Good luck.

You don't have to be spring chicken... some men love winter ducks! So long as you are fun and willing to be a caring woman, you will find someone else... Dont think so low of yourself. I know 70 year olds who recently got married and for the first time in their lives are very happy! Just enjoy life and there is no need to be going through what you are going through. Enjoy your life and leave the jerk behind. You can do this! Prove it to yourself. You will love yourself for taking care of yourself!

I agree with everyone. You need to break away and find yourself agaìn. you lose so much of your real self in relationships like this-lve been there and got the t-shirt! When you get to a place where you are happy with being you then you WILL meet your mr right-thats what lm hoping for x