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4answers
Oct 18, 2009, 04:42 PM
How do you forgive and accept that an ex prefers someone else over you and that your relationship had no value. Meaningless...
Alty
Oct 18, 2009, 04:47 PM
Forgive?
There's nothing to forgive. Not all relationships work. Just because you love someone doesn't mean they're going to love you. In this case your ex found someone he's more compatible with. That doesn't mean that what you had was nothing, it just means that what you had was only for a short time, not forever.
Until you realize that this relationship wasn't meant to be, you'll be stuck in a rut. You have to learn to accept that he's moved on and so should you.
There is no forgiveness because neither of you did anything wrong. This is life.
Good luck.
friend4u178
Oct 18, 2009, 04:56 PM
You don't need to forgive , you just need to accept that it's over.
rockie100
Oct 18, 2009, 04:57 PM
Not a easy thing to do but think about what you learned about yourself during the break up. You might have learned what you don't want from the next dating experience you encounter. Anyway, go out with your friends, do things that interest you. In time this will not hurt as much. You will soon be able to move on yourself. You might even find someone who, in comparison, is so much more suitable for you.
Cat1864
Oct 18, 2009, 05:45 PM
I just went over your threads over the past year. Nearly every thread you have started is about your exes and dealing with your feelings.
This will probably seem harsh. I hope so.
Have you learned nothing in the past year? When are you going to grow up and realize that your exes are not responsible for you and your feelings.
You don't forgive her. She doesn't need to be forgiven for living her life. You leave her to get on with her life.
You need to forgive yourself for letting them (yes, all of your exes) go. You need to accept that you have a future ahead of you and get your head out of your past.
Learn to like yourself. Find closure in your own mind. Give yourself permission to move forward or you will spend the next year asking the same questions all over again.
talaniman
Oct 18, 2009, 07:12 PM
How do you forgive an ex for moving on
You don't. You move on yourself.
Gemini54
Oct 18, 2009, 08:09 PM
I'm going to take a slightly different approach to your question, because as Cat so rightly notes (had to spread the rep), you've asked the same question in different ways for a long time now. Too long.
You need to go to counselling. These women leave you for a reason. They are running away from someone that is not good relationship material.
You make it all about them. This is not about them. It is about you. Your relationships simply reflect back to you what you believe about yourself.
You talk about 'value' but it seems that you do not value yourself - so how can you expect others to value you?
You need to speak to a professional counsellor or you may never understand why you are stuck in this negative, self defeating pattern.
No one can help you until you help yourself. Start helping yourself now.