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madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 02:38 AM
I need help me and my girlfriend has been going out with me for 15 weeks then we broke up she said that she done with my bull I am like a roller coster she said she would give me aother shot but I was not the same guy she fell in love with she told me to give her some weeks to cool down I have a slim shot getting back with her I really do love her but she said
I did not act like it I act like it for about 10 weeks then things went bad we took a 3 days off
From one aother she said I would not give her space but I was so deep in the love I did not
Think about that should I move on or try it I am so depressed over her piz help me :confused:

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 02:43 AM
Hi, madskills316!

How many girls have you had a girlfriend - boyfriend relationship in the past, please?

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 02:50 AM
Hi, madskills316!

How many girls have you had a girlfriend - boyfriend relationship in the past, please?

Thanks!

I had 9

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 03:05 AM
Hi again, madskills316!

So, what kind of lessons have you learned with the past girlfriends that you've had, please?

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 03:08 AM
Hi again, madskills316!

So, what kind of lessons have you learned with the past girlfriends that you've had, please?

Thanks!

This is really the frist girl I had ever fell in love with

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 03:11 AM
Hey, she's looking for "space", correct?

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 03:17 AM
Hey, she's looking for "space", correct?

Thanks!
Yes

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 03:21 AM
Then, how about giving her the space that she wants and leaving your options open to date others? Would there be a problem for you to do that?

Also, I would appreciate it if you would quit quoting me. Doing so only makes the threads too long.

Thanks !

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 03:26 AM
Yes I love her I can't sleep and I can't eat I don't know what to do

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 03:29 AM
She said that she loves me but in a best friends way

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 03:33 AM
You love her. But, you could love another. She wants space. Are you willing to give it to her and keep your options open for other relationships? She's not wanting to make you a priority in her life right now. You can't control the way that she thinks. Some things went wrong, that she didn't like. Why make her a priority in your life, if she's looking to be making you an option in hers?

Thanks!

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 03:34 AM
she said that she loves me but in a bff way

This is more of the making you an "option", man!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 03:39 AM
I know see I meet her online I was fixing to go down there for her birthday but she told her mom and dad I can't come she don't won't me
Down she told me be the same guy she fell in love with than
She my take me back

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 03:42 AM
So what do I need to do I ask her yesterday what shot do I have getting back with you she said a slim shot

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 03:50 AM
I've been rejected by girls many times, madskills316! Why keep trying with the same one when there's "so many fish in the sea" and you're getting rejected by just one of them?

It seems to me, that it's time for you to move on...

Yeah, you can keep thinking about this one girl and what might have been. Heck, maybe things WILL work out... But, they aren't working out right now. If it's her mom and dad who don't want you to come down, then you're not going to win a battle with them!

However, for right now, it looks like, that if you're going to have a close relationship with a girl, that you need to keep you options open.

I've also been hurt many times by women with whom I was intimate. I'm also still in love with some of the women with whom I dated many years ago. I know that some of them still are in love with me.

But, for one reason or another, things just didn't work out...

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:00 AM
No its her that told them that's she don't won't me down there they
Was going to fly me down there she told me how I been acting
She dones not won't me down there I told her that I am going the
Frist lover when I frist meet her where best friends she told me that she
Loves me and all way going to love me

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 04:10 AM
So, what are you going to do now, madskills316? Continue to "rake yourself over the coals" for someone that doesn't appear to want you, or to move on?

I really don't view this as a win-win situation.

How you've been acting though, is something that hasn't really "come to light" here yet.

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:16 AM
Should I call her in see if get her back or just move on
What would you pick call her in see if I can get her back
Or move on

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 04:21 AM
For right now, I would suggest moving on and leaving any further contact up to her.

It ain't easy, but that's what I would do.

If she's really interested in you, she'll be in contact with you.

Thanks

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:23 AM
You right maybe she think about me and see the love I had for her

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 04:26 AM
Only time is going to tell...

But, you really need to look out for your best interests right now!

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:29 AM
Hey how old are you am 16

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 04:37 AM
I'm 52 and have been through many relationships, asking girls out, being rejected as well as being accepted, married, divorced, have grown children, etc.

I also taught music and fine arts types of courses in schools for many years. Am retired from that now and have moved onto other things...

I've also known what it feels like to be in love...

Many times!

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:39 AM
Hey what do you think about this when we frist went out with her
She did poems about me and she put in there Despite what you may want to hear

It is Love

It is right

No matter what you may do

Or how upset we may get

Our love will win

It will bring us back

What you think about that

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 04:47 AM
I'm going to have to get back to you about the poem thing, madskills316!

It's opening up a whole other subject, and I really must get to bed!

Now, I've been awake nearly the whole night!

I would love to discuss with you about the poem thing, but it will need to be at a time that will happen after I've gotten some sleep!

I appreciate your understanding in that regard!

Thanks!

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:50 AM
K me to get back with me about that

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 04:51 AM
Later...

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:52 AM
Later

Clough
Oct 17, 2009, 04:53 AM
Yes, later! :)

madskills316
Oct 17, 2009, 04:55 AM
Are right later man

Clough
Oct 20, 2009, 01:06 AM
So, how are things going for you now, madskills316?

Thanks!