We have been together for almost 2 years. We both are students living in different state. We try to see each other once a month but, lately, my family (parents) is facing financial problem. I do not have money to spend on other thing apart from my studies. When it was the time to visit him. I told him the situation and apology. Then he offered to pay for my travel, which of course I agreed. He bought me a plane ticket to go there but when it was the time for me to come back. I had to pay for my own train ticket. He said that he was only offering the ticket to go there and his offer did not cover the way I will get back to my state. This is really frustrated me. He rarely treat me, neither. He would spend regular money on his Friday night out which can easily cover my train ticket.

Wow, if you have been doing this for 2 years, why are you still with him? I would be really PO'd, and long gone.

Is it only you that travels to see him? Well regardless of that question, I don't think I would appreciate his lack of thoughtfulness. I for sure would not be spending any money on another visit. I would be looking for ways to help my parents. He, as your long time boyfriend, should have given thought to them as well.

Wow. He actually said that? After you's explained that you couldn't afford to be spending extra money? If you decide to keep him around, I'd be careful not to accept anymore "favors" from him.

I'd be pretty upset about that. Let him know how you feel about it and be honest with him. If a conflict results try to resolve it like this:
1.pick a specific time to sit down and talk over the phone about this conflict.
2.Tell your boyfriend how YOU contributed to the conflicct, WITHOUT BLAMING HIM. (this brings his defenses down so you aren't yelling at each other the whole time.) Oh, and he should tell you how he contributed WITHOUT BLAMING YOU.
3.Brainstorm ways to resolve the conflict and write the pros and cons of every way you can think of.
I'd be really upset, but I wouldn't let money steal from your relationship, resolve it in a calm manner, then kiss, makeup, and make sure this situation doesn't happen again.

Perhaps you made too many assumptions about what he'd pay for?

I think offering to pay for the plane ticket was generous, but perhaps there was a lack of communication between you about what else he would pay for.

Just an alternative view - but might he be behaving this way because you feel 'entitled' and expect him to pay for everything?

He is entitled to spend his money the way that he wants, after all.

There are a few ways to look at this:

1) If he's not financially stable enough, he shouldn't be in a relationship.

2) If he actually has money, but doesn't want to spend it on you, then it's time to dump him. Why would you want someone who's going to be so cheap on you?

3) If you don't care that he's either poor or cheap, then accept the situation and leave money issues out of the relationship. Focus on building a stronger relationship without money involved.