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tommyboy123
Oct 15, 2009, 04:26 PM
Okay guys I'll try to make this as short as possible, but it may be longer then I expect. I met this girl last year in high school when I was a senior and she was a very cool girl. I had a few classes with her and my other friend (which is a guy) was really good friends with her as well. Once I got to met her and had class with her everyday I really started to have feelings for her, but I didn't express them to her because she did have a boyfriend. Now I know most of the responses I would get would be "if she has a boyfriend she is off limits", which I know. I don't intrude in any of their business, etc. I guess you can consider me and her bestfriends. Whenever she has a problem she will come to me and ask me for some advice. I act like a regular person towards her and give her the best advice I have. This past summer she would text me everyday and we would have friendly and long conversations. I always to talk to her on AIM at night as well. Once the first year of college came though things started to get rough because she went to a college about 2 hours away and I'm still living at home, so the only way I really got to talk to her was via texting or on AIM at night. In the past month my one other friend started to come in the picture and kind of broke up our close relationship between me and her which made me really upset. He never went to school with her but when he was over my house and I was talking to her on AIM he would ask me who I was talking to and I would tell him like there was nothing to it. Well then he started talking to her on AIM, and AIM led to her phone number, etc. I don't want to make it sound like I'm jealous because that's not the case. Its just that she acts differently towards me now and acts like she loves him. She doesn't text me as much as she use to and whenever I'm hanging out with him she is texting him or he is texting her. She also tells me that he says how pretty she is, and how he tries to be a lover boy. All of this has gotten me really upset because I really like her but I know I will never get the chance to be her boyfriend. She tells me that she's creeped out by what he says but she still talks to him like its nothing, and I just don't get it. From the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep I think about this, and its really getting to me. I don't want to say anything to her because if I tell her how I really feel then I feel our best friend relationship will be even more ruined. I think about it non-stop and I don't know how to get over it. I really need some good advice about what I could do, or maybe you guys can tell me from a girls point of view what she may think/feel about me. She just hasn't been the same this past month and I know its been all because of my other friend. If you guys can help me out in any way I would really appreciate it. Thanks again!

Gemini54
Oct 15, 2009, 04:34 PM
You've been asking questions about this issue since July.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/just-few-hints-ideas-404129.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/what-do-you-guys-think-means-just-curious-377215.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/too-girly-fruity-ideas-387998.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/dont-know-if-made-wrong-mistake-368282.html

The answers have all really been the same. Clearly she's interested in other guys, not you. You present yourself as a friend and she rightly, goes out with other guys so of course she won't have as much time for you. Who knows what she feels about you? You won't know unless you ask her, and you don't want to.

Isn't it time you filled your life with other things? Take the focus off her - thinking about her all the time is doing your head in! It's a no-win situation and you have been obsessing about it for months now.

I suggest you back off and stop depending on her friendship so much. It clearly means more to you than it does to her. Get off AIM and hang out with your other friends. She's 2 hours away now so maintaining contact will be even harder. Let it go and find someone available to be your GF. You'll never find anyone while your focus is on her.

tommyboy123
Oct 15, 2009, 04:35 PM
That was a different girl but almost the same situation

Gemini54
Oct 15, 2009, 05:25 PM
that was a different girl but almost the same situation

Oh no! That's a terrible pattern to get into. You seem to be in love with unrequited love. My advice still stands. What are you going to do about it?

paxe
Oct 15, 2009, 08:02 PM
Extreme Harshness below:

Grow some balls buddy! You are hang up over a friend of yours and nothing happened between both of you. You really need to let that go and not to preoccupy too much about all that.

Seriously, there is plenty of girls out there especially in college, except if of course you are in electrical engineering hehehe.