Is this divorce really going to happen
My wife and I have been married 4 years. In the last 2 months we got evicted. She moved in with her aunt and I at my parents. There just wasn't enough room for both of us at either place. Actually there isn't room for one at each place, lol. Anyway after like a month of this my wife asked for a divorce, and didn't want to talk at all for 2 weeks. Well, 2 weeks went by and she still didn't know what she wanted, but she wants to be friends. We slowly, each day that past, starting talking more and more. We actually got to the point where we rented a hotel room. We just laughed and had so much fun, just like we used to. Nothing happened sexually because I wanted to respect her decision, but we did hold each other all night till she feel asleep. After this when she calls she calls me hunny again, and now tells me she loves me again when we hang up. I tried kissing her and I got a peck on the lips while she was smiling and giggling the whole time. I got another kiss the other night from her, and she seemed to like it. She doenst pull away when I touch her, she actually holds me back. We hold hands, and are very close. She said the reason we split up is because I don't make her feel as special as I used to.
Anyway, I told her today that I was getting a place in nov, and I wanted her to move in. I didn't want to start all serious, just like dating... see how it goes. She didn't say no which is awesome but she didn't say yes either lol. She said we can talk tomorrow about it because she's going into the city tonight, she was actually on the bus there. I just want to know if it sounds like she still cares about me, and if I have a chance to get her back. I'd like to know if anybody else has gone threw this, and if anybody has any tips for me. Please I know you guys are thinking she's with someother guy, and this maybe true, but I'm not here about that. Plus if she was why would she act so lovey towards me, when women like somebody else they don't let there ex or anybody for that fact touch and hold them or kiss them like we do. Anyway ty so much for reading and listening to me, and ty for the advice in advance. Andy P.S.- guess I'm trying to find out if she's coming back to me

I believe your own place will help. These are tough times, she may be looking for Security as well, and not live in current situation or on the streets? Good Luck.

Hello there Hawkman8,

It's sounds as if she felt unsecure in the marriage. A lot of you losing her had to with stress. The eviction, moving in with family, not spending enough time and giving her the kind of attention that she needs. According to your post, when you guys are in a carefree type of environment, you guys laugh and act playful with one another. Then when there is finances that get in the way of that, then the word "Divorce" comes into play. Hawkman8, I believe that you know the answer to your own question. I think you just need to hear someone else tell you what you already know to reasure yourself. You may be a good guy, and don't get me wrong things happen in our lives with debt, finances and what have you. I think that you should get back on track and formulate a plan that will better your situation. Get your finances in order, rent an apartment, work on yourself. She needs to know that she can feel safe with you and secure in your marriage then everything will fall into play. Good luck my friend.

Sorry, there is always room for a husband and wife to stay together if it is on the floor on a air mattress.
The idea of living apart was a huge mistake.

Hello Andy,

I believe that you had a similar thread a few days ago on this same subject in which people had given you good advice...

With all do respect, you should be talking this over with her and not us. If I were you, I would along with your wife go to a marriage counseling. Check with your insurance company to see if they will cover it.

I too have been there before, I went to marriage counseling to help us out. Once I said "I do" I did. People need to work things out instead of taking the easy way out and run away from their problems. Marriage is not to be taken lightly. You're not choosing what kind of toppings you want on your pizza, you chose marriage. Please try harder to wok on it, and Andy, talk to her. Good luck.

I am sorry for you, for your eviction and your marriage. Sounds like she still cares, but is a little confused. Maybe it bothers her that you can't provide for her losing your apt, or whatever the reason is. There is no foundation, there right now. You need to build your life both of you, and it didn't sound like to me you both were going in the right direction. Did you lose your job? Have you done anything to change the situation, to make her want to be with you, by providing for her?

First off, I agree with Fr, Chuck, splitting up after an eviction was not the best move and for whatever reason you were evicted, that has to be corrected and you must maintain a roof over both your heads, do that first, and you can work on the rest.

Are you saying that you have no idea why she wants a divorce?

After four years of marriage, that ended up in you both going to different homes after an eviction, what happened.

Are either of you employed? Evictions happen, but hard luck doesn't mean divorce. Hard times mean you try harder.

There has to be more to this story.

My wife and I have been married for 5 years. Everything was going well until we got evicted. We had to move to separate places. This totally destroyed our relationship. We moved an hour apart. One day she called and said we needed to talk. She wanted a separation, not a divorce. That she needed time to think about herself. That we shouldn't talk for awhile to see how we still feel about each other. Well after about a month we started hanging out again, and things seemed to go back to normal. Like the relationship, not us going back to normal ways. Everything was fine, we hung out, cuddled, kissed, said we loved each other. Even sent each other texts saying we miss each other. I'd say it was a 50/50 thing. Now, all of a sudden she says she needs her space again. That I need to work on myself, in order to get her back. That she still is in love with me, she just wants me to better myself. I guess I can't take care of her if I can't take care of myself. I just don't understand why this comes out of nowhere. I'm on disability so its hard to get a place. Im sure that would help out our situation a lot, she even said it would. I just don't know where else to turn to. She says she wants to go to college, and at first she signed up out of state. Then when it came time to it, she dropped it and signed up for college around me. Said she did it for us, so we can be close to each other. Im just not sure what's up. Like one day she is madly in love with me, and the next she wants nothing to do with me. Like I understand we should have separate friends and lives. We shouldn't be together 24 hours a day. Im sure this would help, and she isn't with someone else. She said she would just tell me if she was. That's the least of my worries. I just want to know what I can do, and if it seems like we have a chance at a relationship again. We seem to go back and forth, something is happening when she leaves and goes back to where she is living for her to feel like this. Because we are fine when we are together, we laugh, have fun, cuddle all that good stuff couples do. Im just at a cross roads, and would appreciate the help. If your just going to say she's with someone else please don't answer. That's not part of this, I know sometimes it is but its not. I trust her, as she trusts me. Ty in advance

I think she's shopping for a replacement and I don't mean a new toaster, either.

We seem to go back and forth, something is happening when she leaves and goes back to where she is living for her to feel like this.


You expect her to be happy and satisfied with living apart from her husband? Not going to happen and over time it will destroy this relationship.

Have you gotten in touch with the social services in your area to get a roof over your head so you both can at least live together and come up with a better plan?

Buddy, you need assistance through whatever agency that can help. Seek them out, and be proactive in getting yourself together.

Disabled isn't the end, and you do need to be independent.