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lynn7
Oct 14, 2009, 07:11 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and I have always had a higher sex drive than him. We used to have sex about one a week, which was fine for me but I would have liked more. Now we have sex about twice a month, but the real problem for me is getting rejected. I feel as though he is constantly pushing me away. I have tried everything. I have tried taking a shower with him, touching him, buying sexy panties, and none of these ideas worked. When I ask him how I can turn him on he just tells me he doesn't know. He swears its not me and that he just isn't "in the mood". I find this very hard to believe. I am finding myself with less and less confidence as this goes on. What should I do? I need help! This is tearing me apart!

NZG1RL
Oct 14, 2009, 07:22 PM
Sit him down, talk openly about how he makes you feel about yourself when he shows he's disinterested in sex with you. He might reveal that he actually might have a problem down there, or it may also be stress with family/friends/school/work etc.
Does he smoke? Take drugs? Drink loads of alcohol? These play a huge factor in a low libido & low sperm count.
Or maybe its not even about you? Maybe this guy has his own self esteem issues? Figure it out, then go from there! Remember girl, baby steps okay

lindakinsella
Oct 14, 2009, 07:30 PM
Well first off you should be married,This is coming from the mom in me,if you know he is not seeing someone else or interesting in someone else and you know he loves you,there could be a medical problem, or could be depression, do you live together alone or are you living with friends or realitives ,is he working has he lost or worrying about losing his job,truly the only way to find out is to find some quite time with no interuptions and talk about it, Just ask him to be open with you because it is very important to the both of you open and honest will take you the point you should be at. Hope this helps.

talaniman
Oct 14, 2009, 07:49 PM
When two healthy people have vastly different sex drives, there is conflict, and that may be a symptom of something else in the relationship. So how is the rest of the relationship going, and are you on the pill?? I ask because many guys just don't want babies to complicate their lives.