I need to know how to spice up things in the bedroom. My husband told me last night that I was boring:confused:

That was quite harsh..

How is his performance?

Aside from that,have you considered,role play,or dressing up or moving to another room in the house,a bath together,a night in a hotel,toys... there are lots of ways to spice things up,but I do think it was an insenstive comment from your husband.

I don't know how I would react to my husband saying something like that. I hope he actually used more tact and those aren't his exact words.

Are there any limitations on spicing things up like children in the next room or neighbors who might get a bit miffed at too much noise?

redhed, has some great suggestions. Watching movies and TV together commenting on locations and costumes can be a fun way to get into sharing fantasies (you might even act some of them that don't include other people or make you feel too uncomfortable).

There are companies that make interesting games for couples that can be fun or you can make up your own. Take a die (A deck of cards can work too. Just use card value instead.) and make a list of things to do to each other. Take turns rolling and having fun.

Um... give us an idea WHAT was boring?


Do you habitually just lay on you back and spread your legs thinking that is all you have to do? (believe me there ARE women that believe that, I dated several) What sort of things do you try now... not because I am pointing any fingers... I'm not. But it helps to get an idea what he considers boring.

Spicing things up can be a lot of different things to different people depending on where the starting point is.

You have lots of choices here. I think you might want to let him know that a comment like he made could inhibit you from having a enjoyable sex life with him. Women make love with the mind as well as the body. Experimenting can be fun, as long as there isn't something else going on here.

The first place to start, I would suggest, is to talk to him.

Ask him what he's find less boring and what he would like. Rather than you rushing out and checking all the sex manuals take your lead from him.

Then experiment together.

Hopefully his comment was said in frustration and he isn't usually this insensitive.