Hey I just started a new job a few weeks ago and I think my boss is interested in me... he keeps gazing at me in the eyes and asking personal questions,I even noticed him getting flustered while I was training and lauging with another supervisor.. my intuition is telling me yes, but I need some other opinions, keep it real but don't be rude.thanx

Hey, I broke up with a guy over a year ago that used to treat me like trash,cheat on me with his ex girlfriend and just took advantage of me for five years.(I know I'm a dumbass for sticking in that relationship)but I got over him through out all his bad ways of treating me and now that were broken up he has been trying to get me back being all "in love" with me and saying that he is going to trying to regain my trust and he going to get me to fall back in love with him... n to me that's not going to happen because I feel like once you screw someone over so many times, that's it there. Feelings aren't coming back... hw can I let him know this,I've been trying to but he won't give up... :confused:

You don't let him know. You back away and block him out of your life.

Move on with your life. Stop living in the past and worrying/thinking about him.

Just keep ignoring his attempts at communication , eventually he'll get sick of not getting a response.

Like the others say, don't respond at all. Your silence will speak volumes. If you try to engage with him, you're encouraging him.

Hey, I've been friends with this guy for a almost a year now and he is homosexual.. but I have been starting to think otherwise.. from the beginning he would stare at me or size me up checking me out.. also if I'm laying in the couch on my stomach I find him looking at my butt or when I'm standing staring at my chest... idk maybe he is just attracted I'm confused I thought he said he was homosexual...

First how old are you ? And perhaps he is considering crossing over.

I am 19

You could just be overly paranoid knowing that he's homosexual. All homosexual people are not automatically attracted to someone just because they are the same sex. They use the same criteria that straight people use when searching for mates.

Ohhh, you're a girl?

I still say this: you may just think he's checking you out because you're used to it from other guys. It may be no different than if one of your girlfriends 'looked' at you- would you assume she was looking at you in a sexual way?

Or as Chuck said- maybe he's considering crossing over. Only way to know is ask him. He's your friend after all.

A guess but I remember one day I walked past him in an outfit that I guess people that I looked nice in and groaned.. idk I guess that's weird but that's what really happened...

Well bring up to him in a lighthearted way the next time you think he's scoping you out. Say something like, "Are you checking me out?!" It'll open the door for you to talk to him about it without putting either of you on the spot and making you too uncomfortable.

If he says no, then just take his word for it unless he does something really overt.

Thanks.lol

Thanks for your opinions

Hey, is there a process of finding an all around good guy one that pays for some dine outs, and treats you with respect... whats wrong with me?? I've been stumbling across all these losers am getting that feeling of wanting a serious and meaningful relationship I need it... how do I find the right guy.:confused:

You must have respect for yourself before you can demand that anyone show it to you. Present yourself and act like a lady and others will treat you the same. Don't accept a man walking all over and using you. People only treat you the way you allow them to.

But don't put too much focus on the things that aren't important either. You're 19, so a guy your age may not have the money to take you to fancy restaurants and shows, etc but it's about him treating you with kindness and respect.

Don't go looking. Find happiness within yourself and the fellas will be drawn to your inner light. Get involved in things you enjoy (sports, clubs, or whatever you like) and then you are more likely to meet people with common interests. Don't rush it; just enjoy life and the right one will come along. You've got plenty of time. :)

A right guy:
He respects you for who you are
He's always there for u
He doesn't care how you look
He doesn't just say he loves you he proves it
He cares a lot about u
He likes you for who you are and what you do not your looks

When I joined my human rights group, I found out there was a lot of respectable guys there (and respectable charming girls also).
If you go clubbing or bars, you could find a good guy but it's going to be very rare.

Yeah when I think of clubs I usually think of guys trying to get laid.lol.. but I have met one guy that I am attracted to and vice versa but I think he is way out of my league.. he makes a lot more money and I feel sort of inferior

Nobody is superior because they make more money that is complete bulls****. If he is attracted to you and you are attracted to him AND he is a respectable guy then go for it. Just don't jump on the first "good-looking-rich" guy you see though, a lot of them only show a façade and only wants to get laid.

Where do you live? I could show you a great, well mannered gentleman date =)

How do u look? Is that u in the pic?. I live in fl anyway

I feel for you. I've been in that situation and it's horrible! Sounds like he might like you. Maybe yes, maybe no. It will be you who loses your job when it sours.

My boss has liked me for 8 months. He's married with kids, I have a boyfriend. I did not like him because he's married, I have a boyfriend and he's my boss. But with so much attention, he kind of grew on me. He made sure we worked closely together, daily. I fought with myself since he wouldn't let up. I never gave in to his advances. (Oh, and he's a major pig). His wife is a sweety too... It's all really pathetic. I'm just sick about this whole thing.

Anyway, after placing a post like yours, I was able to step back and take a look at the situation. I became "assertive" in letting him know that I am not interested. He hasn't taken it well. I had been given some pretty interesting work to do that would have helped me advance quickly within the company. He took the assignment away from me. I'm pissed!

My advice is don't get involved.. (Even if he's not married). If you do get involved and it doesn't work out, you will be the loser. He's got the power. Look, I didn't get involved and I'm afraid of losing my job!

If you don't care about this job, go for him. Let it simmer, then ask him to hang out after work one day.

If you care about this job, forget it.

Cool him off.
Show no interest.
Talk about your boyfriend - if you have one - so he knows your mind is elsewhere... but basically keep it all business. No extra jokes or laughter.
Workplace romance is a nightmare I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
Until someone leaves or you think you could marry him, I'd shut it down.
He does seem to be flirting... badly, by the way :-)

Gazing into your eyes and asking personal questions.
Can you give a more concrete example?
It is hard to judge if he is flirting without a little more info.
What kind of personal questions is he asking?
Perhaps you are reading more into it than is truly there.
Does he show the same type of behavior to his other female employees?

You're the new girl, and he is only testing the waters to see if you go for his BS!!