Bostonfisherman
Oct 9, 2009, 09:51 PM
Hello to all,
First, I really cannot express how thankful I am to be able to ask for some help in finding my biological father and possibly siblings too!
I have limited information as my Mother's husband would not allow for me to speak of my biological father that left my Mother while she was pregnant with me. I didn't know I was adopted for many years until it "slipped", and always felt hollow. My Sister and I are full siblings with our biological father, but she refuses to speak of him (she knew him for eight years, or so) out of respect of our "Father" that raised us. He raised her well and his son (half brother to me) too, but I got the abuse.
My Mother was married to the man that I was told went by the name of Peter Chickering. I was born in December of 1974 in Boston. Peter left when my Mother was pregnant. In the story as I am supposed to believe, he did remarry and had at least one other child, possibly two or three children. I was told he was an Engineer. I was told that he passed away several years ago. I cannot find a "Peter Chickering" or anyone else looking for him or me. I know there was a message left on the phone for someone (Peter's ex-wife after my Mom) looking for his children, but my Father went into a tirade and erased the message and all my hopes of finding out anything were literally erased with a smile on my "father's" face. I never felt like I belonged to him, and quite honestly knew I didn't belong to him in another sense of gut feeling... I've always felt like part of me was missing. I really want to find the family that I belong to. Even if he is deceased, I long for meaningful sibling relationships that I do not have with my siblings now.
In closing, I do not expect anyone to welcome me with open arms or be overjoyed, but I do hope that I can see who I might look like and should my biological family members are found, I can only hope that they would like to start communication slowly. I pray for this.
Many thanks to all of you
Bostonfisherman
First, I really cannot express how thankful I am to be able to ask for some help in finding my biological father and possibly siblings too!
I have limited information as my Mother's husband would not allow for me to speak of my biological father that left my Mother while she was pregnant with me. I didn't know I was adopted for many years until it "slipped", and always felt hollow. My Sister and I are full siblings with our biological father, but she refuses to speak of him (she knew him for eight years, or so) out of respect of our "Father" that raised us. He raised her well and his son (half brother to me) too, but I got the abuse.
My Mother was married to the man that I was told went by the name of Peter Chickering. I was born in December of 1974 in Boston. Peter left when my Mother was pregnant. In the story as I am supposed to believe, he did remarry and had at least one other child, possibly two or three children. I was told he was an Engineer. I was told that he passed away several years ago. I cannot find a "Peter Chickering" or anyone else looking for him or me. I know there was a message left on the phone for someone (Peter's ex-wife after my Mom) looking for his children, but my Father went into a tirade and erased the message and all my hopes of finding out anything were literally erased with a smile on my "father's" face. I never felt like I belonged to him, and quite honestly knew I didn't belong to him in another sense of gut feeling... I've always felt like part of me was missing. I really want to find the family that I belong to. Even if he is deceased, I long for meaningful sibling relationships that I do not have with my siblings now.
In closing, I do not expect anyone to welcome me with open arms or be overjoyed, but I do hope that I can see who I might look like and should my biological family members are found, I can only hope that they would like to start communication slowly. I pray for this.
Many thanks to all of you
Bostonfisherman