My boyfriend and I dated for 3-1/2 years. We met while I was in NYC and that is where he is from. He broke up with my one day out of the blue after we had been dating for 7 months and said that he didn't love me anymore and didn't want the relationship. AFter a month, we were back together. I lost my job this January and couldn't find work in NYC. We decided to move back to my home town. I went first because I had found job and he came 2 months later. Over the summer, I had a freak out about him moving for me and told him I needed some space to think things out. So, he started professing his undying love for me. He told me that he would move down and get his own apartment, that he would do anything to make the relationship work. He moved here in August and lasted six weeks. We moved in with my parents temporarily until he found a job. When he got here my best friends husband had just died of cancer and his mom is also sick. He had never lived away from home and we were possibly going to get sued by our old management company for subletting our apartment. He went back up to NYC to take care of our apartment and he just never came back. It has been two weeks since I have seen him. He broke up with me over the phone and said he feels absolutely nothing for me. I just can't believe that is true. How do your feelings just change like that? While he was gone he took a job in NYC and is coming to get stuff in a couple of days. But when I speak with him he is totally cold like we are strangers. I don't know what to do. I told him I would move back to NYC but he said he just doesn't want to work things out. I think it was the perfect storm and he just freaked out. Do you think in time he will realize he misses me?

Maybe he will, who really knows, but for now... you let him go and do his own thing, and you do yours.

Sometimes things don't work out the way we planned, and feelings can change overnight it seems.

He might figure out what he wants and he may not figure it out and cope with it in his own way and just move on. It sounds complicating so I would just stick around your hometown and move on with your life and try to forget about it. If he can't be mature enough to handle this relationship or the way he is acting, can he handle more complicated things down the line?

Thanks for the advice. He ended up coming to get his things and just left. He said he just didn't love me enough to marry me. I just don't understand why he would have quit his job and move halfway across the country for someone he doesn't love enough to marry. Nothing adds up.

Sometimes things don't add up in life and that's hard to accept.
At least he seems to have given you an honest answer even though its of course not making you happy.
Allow yourself to get over the breakup-time to see friends and family and take the time needed to heal.

I just don't understand why he would have quit his job and move halfway across the country for someone he doesn't love enough to marry. Nothing adds up.

That's the problem. You seem to want some sort of structure when it comes to feelings, but you need to understand that feelings can change. Feelings aren't always set and stone forever.