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hangingin
Oct 8, 2009, 09:31 PM
Maybe its me but I feel my mom never loved me a few months a go she stopped talking to me altogether. My birthday was 2 days ago and she didn't even send a card. I hve tried contaction her twice no response back so. Do I just let go? I have been trying to fit in all my life to a family I just don't fit in too. I was born in too. And I have not Idea what to do Just move on? :confused:

statixmx
Oct 8, 2009, 09:37 PM
First off, Happy Birthday! Why did she stop talking? Did you guys have a disagreement? Most conflicts between parents and children often resolve with time. I can relate with the fitting in part, it can be difficult and varies from situation to situation. I'm positive she loves you, always has and always will. Perhaps you should go visit her, face to face and go from there?

hangingin
Oct 8, 2009, 09:44 PM
She told my son that I never agree with her. We are very different my mom was abused as a child and I think she never got over it. She never hugs or says she loves you. Either does my dad. They just cut me out. I have never felt love from them. It has always been an effort for them. Out this agreement was that I told my aunt that we just have different values. Meaning we thing different my mom emailed me real mad and I tried to explain she did want to hear it

statixmx
Oct 8, 2009, 10:18 PM
I think the best thing to do is to confront the situation. Express how you feel with her, and ask her to express her feelings. Face to face is probably the best choice. Perhaps she's so bothered by the disagreements that she is finding it hard to show affection, and maybe it's rubbing off on your dad as well. But you said this has been going on for some time, so maybe they just find it hard to show love. Some people show love in their own ways and you may not even be seeing it. I can't speak for them, nobody can - that's why it's essential to talk to her face to face. I understand how hard that can be if she does not answer the phone, but try calling again tomorrow. If not, just have a surprise visit :-)