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ConfusedCat
Oct 7, 2009, 10:30 PM
Hi there!

My ex boyfriend and I broke up about one and a half weeks ago, and this has been an emotional rollar coaster ride. We were together for 5 years. He is 21 and I am 20. We live in a duplex house. I do not ever see him, but its still hard. We haven't been getting along since earlier this summer, and he kind of just bit the bullet and broke up with me. About two days later he said he misses me because we were best friends and that it should not be awkward between us. He also said we should be able to hang out without being weird. I obviously said that can be fine as friends, but we obivously have stuff to work out before we jump back into it, and it wasn't going to be that easy. Well about 3 days after that I asked how he was and he was giving me short answers, so I asked what was up and he said we should go our separate ways and who knows what we will be in the future, and that I am a great person, and we had so many good memories, but its just how he feels right now. He said he doesn't know that he is over me, but we need to do our own thing for while, he is sorry he was playing with my head. And all this other stupid stuff. Why is he going back and forth. So now I haven't talked to him in two days and ITS killling me. The only thing was today when I was driving my car into the drive way, he was walking and he turned, looked at me, and looked away and kept on walking. Does he hate me? Is he even sad? He is my friend on Facebook and he seems so happy. I am doing the same thing to seem like this is not bothering me. I don't want him to know I am this sad. I am keeping my mind off him with my best friends, but at night it sucks. Any ideas what he may be thinking? What's on his mind. If it makes a different he has never been with another girl. I have been with one other guy. But we were eachothers first loves. What could he possibly be thinking?

I wish
Oct 8, 2009, 06:33 AM
If you keep talking to him, you're just going to keep adding to the confusion.

Cut all contact from him. Delete him from Facebook. Pretend as though he doesn't exist. Here are the no contact rules: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/nc-rules-faqs-332732.html

Every time you talk to him, you're going to reset all the progress you've made and just prolong the pain.

It's not easy to become friends with an ex right away. It's better to distance yourself from each other in order to heal properly.

Leave each other alone until you've recovered from this break up. Put the "friends" idea on hold because that's just going to make you suffer more. Wait until you've healed and feel more objective about the situation before you worry about a possible friendship.