Hey so I've never given my number out before.. strange as it sounds I've only dated people I've known for quite a while so I'm unfamiliar with how it goes. Anyway, the other day I was downtown with a friend not a club or anything but these guys pretty sure they were intoxicated... asked for our numbers so I went with it for once. We all hung out (sober!) the other day. He said he'd call, texted the next day asking how I was and all that and when we were hanging out the night before asked when I was free. Told him I had a midterm and would be studying until Thursday. I haven't really heard from him since Sunday it's Wednesday now I guess that's normal? My question is how long is too long? And should I text him to see what he's up to tomorrow night if he doesn't text me or is that a no no? Thanks :)

There are no rules.

Maybe he's waiting until Thursday night, because you were unavailable until then. Or, maybe he has found someone else. It doesn't really matter why... everyone has a reason for doing what they're doing. You can't guess why, and if you're too scared to call him... then you'd better get comfortable waiting. However, if you can draw up some nerve, then you will have an answer (weather or not you like it) much quicker.

Yah like infojunkie said there are no rules.

You did tell him that you weren't free until Thursday so maybe he is just waiting till then so he doesn't bother you.
There is no reason why you can't text/call him either, it goes both ways.

There isn't really a set formula or any rules on how this is meant to work...

Different people have different ideas of how long to wait, so its up to you what you think is acceptable, and if he takes too long for your tastes, then don't worry about him. There will be more...

There are no rules. You contact him whenever you feel like it.

However, he already made the first move to see when you're free and you rejected him, even though it was a legitimate excuse, he might be scared to ask you out again cause he could get rejected again. So it might actually be easier if you contacted him so he knows that you're interested and not just blowing him off .

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Hey all so I got a text from this guy who seems to be into me and vis versa he asked me to hang out today when he got off work around three.. I couldn't until around six so that was fine I guess he'd asked me to bring my friend along for his friend but she couldn't make it so that made it even longer before we could hang out... Then he called and I asked for the address where I was going he said he'd call back in five with it but I noted that I was about to eat dinner.. I was eating dinner when he called and fifteen minutes later I got a text asking me if I wanted him to beg me to come out with an lol.. said he would like to see me tonight, to call him when I could hang out and since I didn't pick up he was heading home ( this was at seven.. ) called back it went straight to voicemail called again and said it rang but he didn't pick up.. I texted saying I was just helping someone out real quick and to call me back.. didn't.. texted saying I guess I'll head to the library and to call me buttt again no response but then my friend called and had asked why my phone was off so I had this idea he couldn't get through and called no answer so I felt like a freaking stalker so I texted apologizing saying I'm not trying to be a stalker or anything, wasn't trying to get you to beg for me to hang out with you I was ready to go at 5:30 kind of thing so... Do I call him asking him to hang out now that I've bloody bombarded him with contact or do I wait for him to contact me? :\

Hi, Twinks2388!

Is this a guy who you've ever met in person, please?

Thanks!

Yep, we've hung out onceee before

Hi again, Twinks2388!

So, this guy is a known entity. Correct?

It seems to me, that you might want to consider communicating more on the phone or in person with him.

Would that be possible? Not being able to connect up for just one night, is just one night...

There's always tomorrow and the next day, and the next...

It's also hard to know if someone has really received a text message or not. I text my daughter in California via my computer. She gets the text messages. But, I've yet to get the ones that she's sent to me from her phone to my email address.

Thanks!

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So last night I was hanging out with my new boyfriend of about 2.5 weeks and his friends. We had a lot to drink and went to Denny's in the early morning. I got cold and he gave me his jacket, went to the wasrhoom and found his cell phone. Drunk, went through it and found he had been texting this girl asking her to hang out when she was off work telling her he liked this and that about what she had to say etc. He was supposed to be at home taking it easy apparently. I lost it, I went back to the table clearly pissed and he asked what was wrong apparently I said you should know.. said I didn't want to argue in a restaurant and whatever but he insisted we talk outside. I asked him who she was, he said it was the past but it's definitely been when we've been together. He tried telling me it was the night he went to a party but that party was on a Wednesday not a Sunday. I seriously freaked out got my stuff to go and we all left. I drove his friends home and I was in tears his friends got out and I ended up balling my eyes out, I GOT EMOTIONAL! Ughh I apologized profusely saying things like I went through your phone three weeks in to dating you like who does that? He asked me why I was crying and I said I was just so embarrassed and all this and then he asked me why I was getting so emotional... I just said I'm sorry I've had too much to drink and he told me he wasn't going to break up with me and all this and he got out of the car. Said multiple times he would call in twenty minutes.. it's been 21 hours and nothing. I tried calling him today but he's ignored me. WHAT DO I DO? I really like him but what the eff seriously I am going Crazy right now is he going to break it off with me? :(

Sounds like alcohol fueled this disaster.

You had no business going through his phone messages, and after only 2 1/2 weeks with this guy, you are both still getting your feet wet; you are hardly in a position to demand anything about being 'honest'.

If he has female friends- so what. He was dating you. After such a short time with him, you sure made a lot of assumptions and accusations. I wouldn't call you back either. I think you were highly presumptuous to make any demands at all, let alone make such a fool of yourself about his phone messages that you had no business reading in the first place.

If he was looking for a reason not to trust you, you gave it to him. If he does give you a second chance, stay sober, control yourself, and don't jump to any conclusions.