Hi I am new to this site.I have a three year old little girl and she is sweet at times and full of personality but I am a bit concerned about the tantrums she is starting to throw.She will hit, scratch, scream and has even pulled her hair out. She just seems so filled with frustration if something does not go the exact way that she wants it too. Everything has to be just right or the tantrum begins! Please if anyone knows what I can do or if this is abnormal please answer.

I imagine it is quite frustrating for an intelligent little three year old girl to try and get a point across without the correct vocabulary. Is she progressing in her speech department ? But, no I don't think this is normal behavior and to be quite frank it sounds like she is much spoiled. This acting out should be reined in before school, so I think it best if you don't give her everything she wants, when she wants it. It will be good for her and is called 'tough love'. She may still lose a few hairs in the process, scratch a little more but you will have to put up with it until you get her to the point where she has to understand everything is not at her command.

You will have to ignore the behavior, walk away from it. Bite your knuckles if you have to but don't let her see it !

By the way, are you the mom or the dad ?

Tick

Do the supernanny thing. When she's bad, put her in the naughty spot and don't let her out until she apologizes. If she leaves, keep putting her back. Don't act angry with her, no matter how upsetting it is for you. Just keep picking her up and putting her back until she says she's sorry.

Have a gold star chart for her too.
When she's good, and does her chores or is doing something nice or helpful, give her a gold star, and when she is bad, take one away.
Make sure that she knows if she gets a certain amount of stars, she can have a special treat. Something small like a toy from the dollar store or a cookie. This will help her learn what behavior is appropriate and what is not.
Good luck!

Also, I forgot to add, that you should not reward bad behavior. If she is throwing a fit, do not give in just to get her to stop, stick with the naughty spot and the star chart.

And make sure when she does something bad, you explain to them in a way that they can understand, WHY it is not appropriate.

And when she does somehting good, tell her she's doing well and reward her with her star. :)

Memories of my childhood. My sister used to do the same thing... What did my mother do? Ignored her. After a few tantrums where my sister saw that she wasn't getting any attention out of it, she stopped.

Do the supernanny thing. When she's bad, put her in the naughty spot and don't let her out until she apologizes. If she leaves, keep putting her back. Don't act angry with her, no matter how upsetting it is for you. Just keep picking her up and putting her back until she says she's sorry.

Have a gold star chart for her too.
When she's good, adn does her chores or is doing something nice or helpful, give her a gold star, and when she is bad, take one away.
Make sure that she knows if she gets a certain amount of stars, she can have a special treat. Something small like a toy from the dollar store or a cookie. this will help her learn what behavior is appropriate and what is not.
Good luck!

Hey thank you so much I think I will go buy a special naughty mat and try that along with the chart. Thanks for your advice

hey thank you so much i think i will go buy a special naughty mat and try that along with the chart. thanks for your advice

Yeah no problem.
It might take a bit of time for you guys to transition with this new form of dicipline, but it's really going to help your relationship as well.
Let us know how things go after a few days of doing this. :)