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coxy1965
Nov 1, 2006, 03:29 PM
I wrote in earlier today as a new member and it was deleted because I didn't have my birthday on my profile. So I am going to ask this again, now that I am old enough for this profile.Is this is something that anyone else has ever experienced..? Last weekend my finance' and I went to the bar, afterwards at home in bed having fun I decided to run my finger around his anus. I had a read in a book that it sometimes really excites the man to tickle him there while having sex. WELL, then he asked me to put my finger inside him... Ever since I have felt so disgusted with myself and of course I started wondering if he might be bi-sexual. I have never done anything like that before, and never heard of any other man liking that. Is that something that normal guys like? Please let me know. I have not talked to him about it yet either. :confused:

Skell
Nov 1, 2006, 03:35 PM
No it certainly doesn't mean he is bisexual. Not in the slightest.

http://www.askmen.com/love/vanessa/23_love_secrets.html

Please read this article. There are many many more out there. Just type in the words 'Male G spot' in a search engine and you will find lots and lots of explanations to yor questions!

Please don't be disgusted in him though. You set the ball rolling with your actions.

Let me know if it helps!

DrJ
Nov 1, 2006, 03:39 PM
Im a guy and I am very straight. I do not enjoy this.

HOWEVER, if a man does enjoy the sensation he gets when you insert something into his anus, it does not mean he is gay or bi-sexual at all.

The question is simple: Is he attracted to men?

That's all there is to it. Just because he likes having your finger in his butt doesn't mean he would ever want another mans penis in there or any other orrafice on his body.

Also, I have had many a' drunken nights where sex got a little crazy. Your drunk... your inhibitions are low... it's a great time to experiment! Maybe he likes this and will want it done more often or maybe it was just a one time thing... you'll never know until you ask. Open sexual communication is key to a healthy sex life.

coxy1965
Nov 1, 2006, 03:39 PM
Is that something that men like? I am 40 years old and have never had anyone want me to do that or have my friends ever said anything about doing that with there husbands or boyfriends. I am really just kind of dumb founded.. Please explain.

Skell
Nov 1, 2006, 03:43 PM
Read the link!! It explains why many men enjoy it.

coxy1965
Nov 1, 2006, 03:44 PM
I do not see him being attracted to men at all. No way! I would have never thought anything unusual until that night after the bar when he asked me to do that while we were having sex. (response to drjizzle)

coxy1965
Nov 1, 2006, 03:46 PM
Thank you Skell for the link. That really helped a lot. A big releif off my mind. Thanks again.

DrJ
Nov 1, 2006, 03:51 PM
Then I think that answers your question. Maybe just talking with him about will also help to set your mind at ease.

As for the prostate stimulation... I don't know how common it is but I know that's its common enough. Id imagine that many women your age aren't very inclined to discuss "private" or "unordinary" areas of their sex life. Its not for all men and for those that DO enjoy it, they may be reluctant to ever ask so its not surprising that you have never encountered it before.

I would have never asked a girl to do that... but my first experience with it, I didn't need to ask ;)