So I think I'm in love with my friend of 5 years and he says he loves me too we have never done anything together and one day he told me it was cause he has genital herpies!? He loves my baby and kids and some day wants kids of his own I love him but do I want to risk this? Or is there away to get ride of it or prevent me from getting it?

If you don't want to risk it, then don't.

Genital Herpes has no cure.

There are measures that can reduce the risk but nothing can fully protect you.

I would suggest that you read up on the virus and talk to him and a doctor to make an informed decision.

Bottom line: only you can decide if the risks are worth it.

I have been in a relationship with someone that has genital herpes for 11 years. I have never caught the virus, but then I don't suffer from cold sores either.

It is possible to manage and it does not need to destroy your sexual relationship. Inform yourself about it, talk to him about it and make sure that he understands what he needs to do when he has outbreaks. Also make sure that he knows when an outbreak is coming on, or when he is having an outbreak.

Don't have sex (even with a condom) during an outbreak - it tends to stimulate the virus. We choose to have unprotected sex between outbreaks (which can be many months or only weeks apart sometimes) and we always make sure the blisters are conmpletely healed.

Some doctors do not recommend unprotected sex and suggest always using a condom. This of course is up to you - just be sure you make an informed decision.

Also, there are drugs prescribed by a doctor that can suppress the virus. These have a varying degree of success, depending on the person.