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becky27
Oct 4, 2009, 03:26 PM
My ex broke up with me about a week ago but I suggested it because I Never saw him and I really do mean NEVER. The only thing we did was talk on the phone and I know his busy and all but we have been going out for about 2 years and his been busy for a year and a half. The last time I talk to him was 3 or 4 days after the break up and he said he was already over me. And I had a dream about him and I last night and we were SO happy. Could that mean something? And I can't seem to get him off my head and I want to know why? Was I wrong to suggest it? Should I get over him? :confused:

I wish
Oct 4, 2009, 03:33 PM
You're still in the early stages of a break up. You can't expect to recover overnight. Be patient with yourself and give yourself more time.

However, by communicating with him, it will only prolong your healing process. You should avoid all possible contact so that you don't add to the confusion.

Here are the no contact rules:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/nc-rules-faqs-332732.html

If you ever feel the urge to contact him, read this:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/fighting-urges-break-nc-rules-351302.html

sobi
Oct 4, 2009, 04:22 PM
The dream doesn't mean anything, you were thinking about him before you went to sleep that's y u dreamt about him. Be strong you made the right decision and if you get weak think about what he said that he's over u. u deserve better.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/no-chat-speak-no-text-talk-303157.html (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/no-chat-speak-no-text-talk-303157.html)
I hate to keep deleting good opinions because of text/chat or losy spelling and grammer.

becky27
Oct 14, 2009, 08:11 AM
Everyday I go bed wondering what I did wrong or how I could have miss understood. This week I found out my ex asked out another girl and its only been 2 weeks from the break up. I'm trying my best to keep no contact and I have been doing really good. I deleted him from my e-mail and phone. But why is it so hard not to think about him? Everyday I look at my phone to see any miss calls and I even want to call him because I know his number by heart. But the weird thing is I don't think I miss him. I think I'm just very angry and hurt because in our relationship he would tell me if he liked a girl and I would tell him if he wanted to go because I was his first and his 17 so he might want to get out if you know what I mean and he would tell me that he has "morals" and he would never leave me for another girl (and this happened more then once in our 2 year relationship). So I want to know what should I do. I'm already doing everything I can but how do I get this angry out? Whould it have been easier if he told me there was another girl or would it probably feel the same? :confused:

adam_89
Oct 14, 2009, 08:15 AM
The point is that it is now over and you need to get your mind together and move forward. It may have hurt but you are young and have a lot ahead of you. Don't let things drag you down. Go hit the punching bag to make yourself feel better, go for a jog or something to get your mind off it and relieve a litte anger. It isn't to healthy for your mind to be built up with this anger. He moved on so you should do the same thing and I bet you find a guy twice as good as him.

I wish
Oct 14, 2009, 08:19 AM
Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

It's only been a few weeks, give yourself more time to recover. No contact includes pretending as if he doesn't exist. You need to stop getting updates about his life. That will only going to add to the confusion.

talaniman
Oct 14, 2009, 08:27 AM
You never had that much of a relationship, but it will take longer than a week to completely heal, and get use to the fact that life goes on.

becky27
Nov 17, 2009, 08:26 AM
Its been about 2 months since I last post a question and it was about my ex. But I found out a lot of things like 2 weeks later he asked another girl out and she rejected him HA HA :p!! But I also found out that a week before we broke up he was telling other people that he was going to ask her out. :eek: But besides all that I still had no contact with him, tried to avoid a conversation about him when ever I could, and I NEVER EVER called him or had any comunications with him. And now he wants me back. Well even though I was starting to get over him I wasn't fully when he asked me back. I was at that moment where my life was finally getting back on track but if anything went wrong I would fall straight on my butt. And that's when he asked me back!! So should I keep on going on the way I am or should I make him prove to me that he wants a second chance and hold no mercy HA HA :p!! j/k I'm not THAT bad :p but what should I do??

kctiger
Nov 17, 2009, 08:28 AM
Let me get this straight, you are actually considering getting back with him after he was telling others he was going to ask a girl out WHILE DATING YOU?! And it isn't blatantly apparent to you that he is only asking you back because he was rejected by the girl he really wanted? Why would you even consider being a back up plan to this guy? Once something better comes along, what makes you think he wouldn't immediately jump ship?

amicon
Nov 17, 2009, 08:42 AM
What should I do you ask?
Avoid him at all costs, that's what you should do.