Hi hope anyone can help me, so confused what I should do now!

Basically I've been seeing this girl on and off for the last 2 years, she's 20 I'm 26. We weren't really boyfriend / girlfriend more of just meeting up and having fun. One day she wanted more and not just being a girl I'd spend the night with. We did give it a go but I got mixed feelings, I was worried about her age and what people thought, she was always pretty quiet and we only used to go down the local pub where she worked and I drunk in there. So I called it quits, few weeks later I started seeing my ex from years ago, she's at uni and went travelling over the summer so I ended up getting back with the 20 year old after lots of grovelling! I told her I thought she was the best girl in the world etc etc which I truly do mean and lucky for me I got her back. This is now where the trouble starts... my ex from years ago came back from travelling and surprised me in town one night and when I saw her I realised I still had strong feelings for her, so yet again I ended it with the 20 year old and really hurt her this time. Since then my ex has gone back to uni and we are a couple but I can't let go the 20 year old, I think about her most days, see her up the pub when she's working and think to myself have I made a mistake? I have tried to talk to her but she just says she's moving on and doesn't want anything from me, I've messed her about too many times. I'm so confused if I have made the right decision, she is such a lovely girl and I didn't treat her right, suppose it might be guilt too. I text her last night saying I miss you and you looked lovely tonight but I didn't get a reply. Should I just leave her alone? Should I try and get back back? Or am I just being a complete idiot? And be happy that I'm back with my ex who I really like? If you can help please let me know!

You shouldn't be with anyone if you re as confused as you come across from reading your post.
The girl wants you to leave her alone so you leave her alone.
As for the person you keep calling your ex if you can't make your mind up you re not being fair trying to have a relationship with her either.

I have tried to talk to her but she just says she's moving on and doesnt want anything from me, i've messed her about too many times.

She's right. You've messed with her mind too many times. It's time to LEAVE HER ALONE. If you keep talking to her, you're just going to keep confusing her.

You sound extremely confused about what you want. You definitely need to stay single for a while to sort out your personal issues.

She's right. You've messed with her mind too many times. It's time to LEAVE HER ALONE. If you keep talking to her, you're just going to keep confusing her.

You sound extremely confused about what you want. You definitely need to stay single for a while to sort out your personal issues.

I know I'm just wondering if I've made a massive mistake and really stuffed it all up! I want both and that isn't fair, OK I'm going to split with her and be single. After that and my mind is straight perhaps I can work out who I want or find someone new

Well buddy put it this way... what if you were on the receiving end of all this drama. How would you feel? What would you want? Again, think of this from her side.

You can't do this to people. It's not right.

It sounds like it's time to take some time for you and figure things out. You've just bounced back and forth between 2 girls and from the sound of it you didn't take the time to get over either one. Of course you're confused now. Who wouldn't be in this situation?

It sounds like it's time to take some time for you and figure things out. You've just bounced back and forth between 2 girls and from the sound of it you didn't take the time to get over either one. Of course you're confused now. Who wouldn't be in this situation?

Thanks for your reply, I know I used to get on so well with the 20 year old having a laugh but she hardly says hi now but what do I expect!! Of course she's going to be like that! Just hope I haven't missed out on something really special... your right I need my time now and not think about all this mess I've created

Until you really know what you want. Kid stop playing around with peoples feelings and grow up..

Oh and the age thing 20 to 26?
You insane?
Where do you live? Worried about what people will think?
I think you should worry about the what the women in this story think of you.

My advice stands

Grow Up. Learn what you want
Leave these poor girls alone

I often tell women who jump from BF to BF that you don't need a relationship in your life to make you whole.

Another person does not "complete" you and in order to ever have a healthy adult relationship you must first be happy and whole alone.

Get to know you and feel good about you without a woman and then you will be prepared to enter into a healthy relationship.Only then.

The others are right and you should leave her alone , you've already hurt her enough with your selfish behaviour.

Hopefully you've learned something from it.