So me and my girlfriend have been on an online relationship for 10 months. Everything was going perfect until I made a mistake and left her because I thought I needed more time to myself. We didn't talk for about 3 weeks, she begged for me back and she was really hurt but I didn't listen because I thought I wasn't ready to commit to her.. a few days ago I realized how much she meant to me and what I had lost and I asked her to be with me again. At first she got back with me for 1 day but then she said she still needs time to heal and to forgive me. She claims she still loves me but not as much as she used to and she wants me to give her some time to heal and then she would come back to me because she can't see herself being without me.I wrote her long emails telling her how sorry I am and that I would never hurt her again, I've been crying almost every hour for 5 days and I will always hate myself for doing this to her. I guess my question is, is it possible for her to love me the same again? Will time away from me make her heal or forget what little love she has left in me? Should I give it time or move on?

How far away does she live exactly?

How far away does she live exactly?

About a 1 day drive.

About a 1 day drive.

How exactly did you meet? How long have you known each other? And how old are the both of you?
(This info helps, I promise)

How exactly did you meet? How long have you known eachother? And how old are the both of you?
(This info helps, I promise)


We have known each other for about 3 years and dated 10 months, we met in a game. We were getting ready to visit each other soon :(.

I don't know if she's going to love you again. I don't know if she will forgive you. You've broken her trust and hurt her so she's, rightfully, fearful that you may do it again.

Actions always have consequences as you've discovered. If she needs time or is not prepared to give you another chance, then there is no much that you can do except accept it.

You expected her to accept your decision when you wanted a break for 3 weeks, now you have to accept hers.

I'd stop with the long emails and the crying and let her heal. Give it time.

You know, spmething like this sounds like it's going to be a back and forth thing, you hurt her, so she's hurt and can't trust you, but it takes too long to gain her trust back so you're going to end up getting angry and impatient and hurt, so you're going to end up arguing, and it's just going to be a cycle.

Just keep this in mind, there are ways of preventing the heartache.
Even if you might not like them initially, you might be glad you went along with it in the end.

You really hurt her and she has no idea if you'll do it again, so the trust is really shaken. You need to face the consequences of your action.

It's up to her if she wants to give you another chance. You've already done your party by apologizing the best you can. Now give her time and space to let her decide if she wants to give you a chance to repair the damage and rebuild the relationship.