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tanpatwil
Sep 30, 2009, 08:45 PM
I AM 20 yrs old almost 21- i have been with my boyfriend since i was 16yrs, I am now in university and have one more yr till i finish- is it ok to get married while i am still in unversity or should i wait?
BACKGROUND INFO:He is 23yrs and we been talking about it for the pass couple, and months and we really want a child together.
we know our good and bad sides, we can basically know what each other is think 2wards a sitution I know there is probably much more we can learn about each other. we are not living together as yet. we had problems in the beginining where my mom didn't like him- but she has learnt 2 tolerate him. we do argue from time to time but we always manage to compromise.

Wondergirl
Sep 30, 2009, 09:06 PM
I got married two days after graduating from college, and would like to warn you against marrying before you have started a career and experienced life on your own for a couple of years. That means, don't even live together after college.

Yeah, I know. I sound mean. You two have been together so long already and are probably champing at the bit to marry and/or live together.

If you are meant to be together, wait 2-3 years longer. It will give both of you time to get your feet wet in the world of work, and you won't have the daily distractions that come with living together and getting used to each other in so many ways you haven't experienced yet as a couple.

ohsohappy
Sep 30, 2009, 10:13 PM
You know, If you've been together this long, there's no real reason not to wait another year, maybe two to get your lives completely squared away.
Things change dramatically after college, it's the whole next part of life. WHy not wait and see how you two fare when this change occurs and you get settled. If you've been able to work together so far, this should be no problem, but I really discourage getting married yet. After college it's a whole new ball game, you might as well learn how to play it first before you add something such as marriage on top of it.
When you take on a new role, you need to get used to the transition. Taking on two such important roles at once (a wife and an independent working woman) can add a whole lot of extra stress to your life that you do not need.
Be his girlfriend, but remember that you need to experience yourself in this other role first before you can take that next step with him. I can almost guarantee that if this works, you'll be glad you did it this way.