My Boyfriend says he does not find me attractive anymore. That I am fat and he cannot be with someone like that. Actually we have been together from last 3.5 years. He has said explicitly that I need to lose weight if I want to have him back. He wants his girl to look good. I know anyone reading this would take my side. But I really don't want any sympathy. I really want some advice on what's right and what's wrong. To mention more I have some hormonal disorders like hypothroidism( not that severe)and PCOS. I really don't hog but I like eat goodies. I am 5 feet 2 inches and I weight about 148.5 lbs. Yes I am overweight too. I really don't know what to do. Throughout my life I have never been the skinny types. I always was a little bulky. I have been going to aerobics from last 1 month but that's just for health and not for becoming slim. Whenever I have told him about these hormonal factors he said I was giving excuses. According to me looks should not matter. And after a time of being together for so long I am finding it petty. The more he says the more I like not to follow it... He tells me if it matters to me so much why can't I do it for him. I really need help... I don't know what's right and what's wrong.

Before we even consider what your boyfriend is saying, the first question you need to answer is whether you are comfortable with your own body? If you are, then it doesn't matter what he says. But if you want to do something about it, then you need to take an even more proactive approach. Aerobics is a good start, but you'll need to go to the gym on a more consistent basis and I suggest you hire a personal trainer to ensuer that you are getting the appropriate exercises done correctly.

Secondly, your boyfriend does have a very harsh statement for you. But like you said, he's been with you for 3.5 years and he's still sticking by you. That means he must really appreciately your personality. No one is perfect and he's just saying that he would like you more if you loss some weight. Again, I must reinterate that you cannot loose weight just for him. You need to do it for yourself.

You need to be comfortable with yourself before you worry about someone else's opinion.

Sounds like you already know that your boyfriend is a little bit of a jerk...

People are going to take your side,what he's saying is downright disrespectfull and to be honest your worse for putting up with that...

You know what's right and what's wrong,because you would not have posted if you thought his behaviour was OK...

If you want to be healthy and lose weight do it for you,I'm thinking you already know this.

Your condition is an excuse! He has some nerve.

Is he adonis? A god among men?

If you don't want to hear kick his a5ss to the kerb and find a guy who loves you for who you are and believes you... your only choice is to stay,do what he wants,do as he says and lose your confidence and self esteem.

I don't care how long a couple has been together or what their situation is, no one has a right to degrade you like he did. Calling you fat and unattractive is a highly disrespectful approach. He could have talked to you in a much more tactful and polite way, deserving of someone who has been with him for 3.5 years.

Your job isn't to get healthy or conform to what anyone else wants, it is to do it for yourself. The choice boils down to what you want and expect for YOURSELF. I have met heavier women that appreciate their own beauty and are comfortable with themselves, and I have met the prototypical model that hates herself and has no self esteem. To me, I would rather love myself and my own skin and not let anyone take that attribute of self confidence away, no matter what they want.

If he isn't happy with your looks and you want to change, then make him go to the gym with you. I am sure he isn't perfect either. Be who you are and who you want to be, that's what matters the most. If he loves you then he will love you for that.

Self image is very important to determine out happiness level. Nobody is perfect, but we need to be comfortable about out own body. Otherwise, it will make us miserable.

My concern is if you loose him over your weight, it will really damage yourself esteem, and it will hunt you from now on. You need to win this self image game to be happy not for him just for you. Forget about what he is doing, but focus on your own self image. When you feel sexy and beautiful, you are confident, and draw many people in your life. If you are not confident about your body, you will push away people around you. You should not be a victim of your own weight.

I am not gym person, and less exercise than I am supposed to. But I take all the means to be in fit. Have you ever heard GM diet program? It is started in General Motor to improve employees' health, it has been proved that it is highly effective, and cleans our body system as well. It is cost effective, and only takes a week. Losing 10LB is no problem in a week if you try the program. One of my co-workers even lost 30 LB in a week. It is my secret I have tried this program on and off to be healthy, I have successfully maintained my size 0 since I was 20 until now, mainly due to the program. You can Google and research more about the program.

Why don't you try it FOR YOURSELF not someone else? I recommend you to take care of yourself image issue first, and then take care of your boyfriend issue. Good Luck!

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If he can't deal with who you are, you don't need him. No matter what you do he will always find a reason for you to conform to what he wants.

The big red flags are he thinks your reasons are excuses. That's a crock, and you really need to see that.

Stand for yourself, or fall for anything.

Maybe your boyfriend should stand nude in front of a mirror and let you judge his shapes and sizes. I am willing to bet everything I own he isn't perfect. Who is he to judge you?

148.5 lbs at 5'2" isnt that terribly bad in my eyes. I am 5'2" and at one point in my life years ago I was 140. I wasn't huge at all. But you can still have sex appeal. You can dress and carry yourself and still be very attractive. You do what makes you happy. If your going to lose weight for his behalf then I would suggest losing him first. You be happy for you. What else will it be if you're a perfect size 0?