I have a 32 month old son & a 3 month old daughter I have been in a relationship with there father for almost 5 years. Now things aren't good. We are staying at his fathers property he wants me to move and leave my kids with him but his father told me that I'm the one that's going to stay with my kids. The reason that we are separating is cause he has another girlfriend & has a 10 month old with her while we were in our relationship. He doesn't want to help me pay for day care. He doesn't want to help me take them to day care or nothing cause he says that I'm still staying here he says that I should leave my kids with him & he will do anything for them. He doesn't help me with them at all he comes home when their asleep & leaves before they wake up. I would really like to teach him a lesson & leave him my kids so he can see that taking care of kids & working is not easy like he pictures it but I'm scare I might lose custody. He verbally abuses me calls me names telling me to get out that its his families house but since I don't have a stable job I can't afford a place for my kids that's why I have to stay at his fathers property cause we only pay for light bill. What can I do so I won't lose my children? Please help I'm tired of the abuse!

You need to contact the local shelters near you and ask for assitance with your future needs. They may be able to recommend low cost housing and get you on a list ( right now long waits everywhere for section 8 housing ) and possible other benefits you might be able to get to help you out of this situation.

It really amazes me how naïve some women are about securing their children's rights. One of the reasons for the institution of marriage is that it protects the rights of the children from the relationship. Yet this site is full of women who have chldren with men and do nothing to protect their future.

Stepping down off the soapbox, I agree with your first response. You need to find a support group to help you deal with your future. If the children's grandfather is willing to supply you with shelter and support, that's fine, but can you count on him to provide that support until your children are grown?