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piecemissing6
Sep 27, 2009, 09:01 AM
OK so. Some back story. I was going out with my ex for 8 months... best 8 months of my life. She's a year younger then me, and in HS, I just started my freshman year of college this fall. Things were always good with us, but at about 5 months in I started questioning the relationship, because not many people liked her(my family, friends ect) and I kind of let that get to my head... so eventually she broke up with me, because I wasn't treating her the way I did when we first started (not bad or anything just.. different). But immediately after we broke up, I knew I had made a mistake, I begged her to come back to me, apologized, whole 9 yards. We ended up going back out together , and things had been good again, or at least I thought so. The day before I had to go to college... she dumped me. Saying this elaborate thing, that was preventing us from going out in college (meanwhile she always said she wanted to go out in college) I felt like dying I didn't know what was going on. But she said she still wants to be really good friends and all this stuff. So times going by, and I try talking to her while I'm up in college, because I still love her, and I needed her to help me with all this crap in college, but she just ignores me, and blows me off, or gets angry at me when I talk to her. I go back home one weekend, and she calls me up saying she misses me, lets hang out. So we hang out... and it was awesome and we hooked up and everything but she says she still doesn't want to go out. But then the next day, I forced it out of her, that she likes some other guy now? And has liked him for a few weeks, and here's the thing. She tells me she's never going to love him like she loves me, and that its going to take her a long time to get over me, and all this crap... what am I supposed to think of that? And she says like, its just what I want right now.. and since then its been going back and forth, us fighting, because she still ignores me, or blows me off when I try to talk to her, and she only talks to me when she wants to, and always about stuff she can't talk to this new kid yet. And the kid is 15 years old. Sophomore. I don't get it. I know I'm not perfect, but whenever she's needed me, I've always been there for her. I've made mistakes, like listening to those other people about her and stuff. But now I just can't stop thinking about all the mistakes I've made... and things I could have done better. I want her back and I want to show her that I know that I love her more then anyone I've ever met. And another thing that's scaring me is when every time I ask what's the deal between us, what's happening, how do you feel about me, its been just going downhill. First she said shell know shell come back to me, she just needs to do this, then it was she just wants a break from me right now, and she just wants to try new things, and now its, well... its not impossible. But its not happening right now. What do you guys thing is the deal? I want her back so bad. What should I do?

DerelictHerds
Sep 27, 2009, 09:37 AM
Put a stop to the games and disappear from her life. You've got college to focus on. Go no contact. Zero contact. In a few weeks you will see how this would not work out.

Fr_Chuck
Sep 27, 2009, 09:41 AM
Sorry you can't make anyone "take you back" you move on with your life, and if she becomes part of it latter, great, if not, you find a dozen new people to date in the future. While 8 months seem like a long time, in reality it is a short time and high school to college is a big difference, not a lot in years but it separates many people

piecemissing6
Sep 27, 2009, 10:51 AM
I tried doing the no contact thing, I tried explaining it to her, saying that she moved on, and I need to move on. But she flipped out and got angry at me... and I know I shouldn't have cared but.. it felt so wrong. And like I said, she never texts me, and whenver I talk to her to start a conversation, it usually just dies or whatever. But she still ims me like I said to talk occasionally... is she really just trying to be friends? Or like does she still have feelings and she just doesn't think things are going to work out? And I know I'm better then the kid she's with now, and that hed never love her as much as I do. I'm sure everyone says that in this situation, but honestly I know it's the truth.

DerelictHerds
Sep 27, 2009, 10:58 AM
Don't wait around on this person. She isn't worth your time. She's in high school. She doesn't know what she wants apparently. Why would you want anything to do with someone who's going to leave you for someone else then play head games.

Don't tell her NC, SHOW her.

piecemissing6
Sep 27, 2009, 01:03 PM
I know... the thing I can't seem to shake is that this girl really loved me. Like. I don't know how to explan it. And I really do love her too and always did but I mest up. I got to live with it now, but for some reason, I feel like I can't move on unless I've tried everything I'm capable of doing to right the situation. It's a ty feeling knowing that someone who loved you so much was hurt, and then moved on from you so fast.