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donnadowtrainer
Sep 25, 2009, 11:20 PM
Please help me, my partner and I have been getting on great really good and he asked me to move in with him, I have my own flat and was a nervous about giving it up due to a past experience, after sitting down having a nice long chat we decided it was what we wanted, myself and my daughter were so excited (he gets on amazing with my daughter) He has been a bit down latley due to his own business being a bit quieter, anyway we were house hunting and found a nice place then he found someone to rent out his flat oh it was all going great, he arranged for his friends to go to my place to empty my house and I gave everything away as we were taking everything from his house to the new house, great my flat was empty we were getting new house then 4 days later he out of the blew said he doesn't want me anymore and wanted mw to move out, he said he was going to rent a house for him and his son and my daughter and I were not part of his life anymore. I am now left with no furniture no house no money and I have 3weeks to get out of his flat, why has he done this? What can I do to get him back? He pushed me to get my flat away only to do this 4 days later WHY? Doeas he love me still.

Please help I'm cracking up and I feel for my daughter how upset she will be. x:(

sambam1111
Sep 25, 2009, 11:27 PM
OK, this is really hard and going to hurt but I think you should find somewhere you feel safe or alone and think. If he did this to you then should you really want him back? If you really do then talk to him and ask why or what happened maybe you can work it out from there. If he can't give you a straight answer as to why he did it I think its might be best to let him go because he isn't worth you time. Maybe move in with a friend for a few months so you can find a place to stay and other than that there isn't much else I can say to you. I hope this helps

redhed35
Sep 26, 2009, 02:41 AM
Look, he has left you high and dry... you have more important issues to deal with first before you can work out what went wrong... get a roof over your head.

Help your daughter.. you are an adult,and have the emotional tools to cope,she does not.. your going to have to help her,and how you do that will seriously effect her... so,don't mess around here.

Get a roof sorted,get your child OK,and never speak to that idiot again.

It does not matter what his problem is,commitment phobia maybe.

Your next step is very important.. you can either cry and boo woo over a man who fooled you,or you can pick yourself up and get moving..

amicon
Sep 26, 2009, 03:46 AM
Your priority must be getting a roof over your heads-your child is what matters most in this mess.
However much you re hurting this has got to be your first step away from an emotionally incompetent man who s not capable of behaving like a decent human being.Love has nothing to do with this-look at his actions
Never mind his issues , sort your life out and move on.