jenniepepsi
Sep 23, 2009, 03:36 PM
I say 5/6 so you have a better idea of her age. She will be 6 in 2 weeks so she pretty much is 6 more or less.
Most of you know what's going on. My husband attacked me then went to work. And then while me and my aunt and uncle were packing our stuff, he came home from work and cornered me in the kitchen and would have hit me again if my uncle (an ex cop works in a jail, very large man) walked in the apartment from the parking lot and saw it.
We left him. And are living with my mom. My daughter has gone through so much in her young life... when she was born her father left. I had 1 other boy friend, whom ayla loved and started calling daddy when she was 1 and 2 years old. That relationship ended well for me and him, he was sorry but simply not ready to be a parent. I respect that.
Then I met my husband. And since meeting him, I have been in and out of the hospital (emotional breakdowns, sudicidal ect) which I'm sure affected my daughter. My husband and I broke up for weeks at a time several times, and once, last year, the end of October, we left him for 6 months and lived with my mom. Then we went back to him.
Until 3 weeks ago, when my husband attacked me.
My daughter had to leave her school to go to a different one after only a few short weeks at her first school... and in the new school, they talked abuot moving her to another class (the kindergarten class was very full and they had a new teacher coming in to take some of the kids into her class) and that upset her, so I went into the school and explained the situation and she won't be moving anymore. She is in this class for GOOD. No matter what happens.
She has had such an unstable life...
Yet when I talk to her about her feelings, about everything happening, she says she is fine. Nothing is wrong. She isn't sad. She isn't mad. She isn't upset. The only thing she says is she missed daddy. And when I asked her why she just changed the subject.
I have a few questions.
1: should I get her to see a child psychologist. (I don't think she needs a psychiatrist, but a psychologist/therepist/councellor)
2: should I be tryign to force the issue of her talking? Try to make her come out with it, and keep talking to her and talking and pushing her to get her emotions out? Or should I back off?
I have told her that if she EVER wants to talk, she can talk to me about anything. And I have told her its OK if she is angry or upset with me for leaving 'daddy' and I told her it was OK to be sad. But I get nothing from her.
When I was raped as a child (not the same thing, but still, traumatic) I forced everything down and didn't talk to anyone about it, and it destroyed me. I Don't want that to happen to her. If she is upset, or depressed or sad or angry I want her to let it out and verbalize it... and yes, even throw a fit about it if it will help...
I hope all that makes sense.
Most of you know what's going on. My husband attacked me then went to work. And then while me and my aunt and uncle were packing our stuff, he came home from work and cornered me in the kitchen and would have hit me again if my uncle (an ex cop works in a jail, very large man) walked in the apartment from the parking lot and saw it.
We left him. And are living with my mom. My daughter has gone through so much in her young life... when she was born her father left. I had 1 other boy friend, whom ayla loved and started calling daddy when she was 1 and 2 years old. That relationship ended well for me and him, he was sorry but simply not ready to be a parent. I respect that.
Then I met my husband. And since meeting him, I have been in and out of the hospital (emotional breakdowns, sudicidal ect) which I'm sure affected my daughter. My husband and I broke up for weeks at a time several times, and once, last year, the end of October, we left him for 6 months and lived with my mom. Then we went back to him.
Until 3 weeks ago, when my husband attacked me.
My daughter had to leave her school to go to a different one after only a few short weeks at her first school... and in the new school, they talked abuot moving her to another class (the kindergarten class was very full and they had a new teacher coming in to take some of the kids into her class) and that upset her, so I went into the school and explained the situation and she won't be moving anymore. She is in this class for GOOD. No matter what happens.
She has had such an unstable life...
Yet when I talk to her about her feelings, about everything happening, she says she is fine. Nothing is wrong. She isn't sad. She isn't mad. She isn't upset. The only thing she says is she missed daddy. And when I asked her why she just changed the subject.
I have a few questions.
1: should I get her to see a child psychologist. (I don't think she needs a psychiatrist, but a psychologist/therepist/councellor)
2: should I be tryign to force the issue of her talking? Try to make her come out with it, and keep talking to her and talking and pushing her to get her emotions out? Or should I back off?
I have told her that if she EVER wants to talk, she can talk to me about anything. And I have told her its OK if she is angry or upset with me for leaving 'daddy' and I told her it was OK to be sad. But I get nothing from her.
When I was raped as a child (not the same thing, but still, traumatic) I forced everything down and didn't talk to anyone about it, and it destroyed me. I Don't want that to happen to her. If she is upset, or depressed or sad or angry I want her to let it out and verbalize it... and yes, even throw a fit about it if it will help...
I hope all that makes sense.