My husband I got happily married after an affair of 3 years. We both were very happy. My husband is very kind, generous, loving and at top of all is very honest at heart and mind. I too love him very much. But he is a very busy man. He was always busy with his job. But he always tried to find time to spend the best moments with me. But last year I don't know why I got so much emotionally attached with one of my coworker. Slowly we became physically closed but never had sex. I was never intersted in having physical relationships with that third person. But since I was too much involved emotionally so slowly he started demanding physical and I cd not stop him because of the fear of losing him. I never realized what I'm doing? Where I'm going? Why I'm cheating my husband? Although many times I said him very clearly that I don't want to be physical but he always convinced me and I was a big fool. I never thought of the consequences. 15 days back my husband got to know about al this. I confessed everything and told him the whole truth. Again being a generous person he wants to accept me by heart since he really loves me but somewhere he is really shattered. He can not stop his mind thinking al that happened. He is very upset. I accept my sin and I really love him very much. I can't see him upset and lost in his own thoughts. Please suggest me how to overcome this situation.

YOu are feeling the guilt about doing something that you know was wrong and admitting it. You are right, your husband is a great person to have reacted the way he did, and still loving you the way he always did. I for one do not think I would have be so nice.
Time will heal this feeling you have, you have told him the truth and that in itself took courage, it was better for you to tell him than him to find out some other way. Wait and see how he acts in the mean time, do not be to pushy since you are the one at fault.
On another note, if you have these types of feeling often or again than you need to seriously think about your marriage and see if this is really what you want. Call me old fashion but when you decide to get married or even have a serious relationship, that in itself means that this is the person you want to be with ONLY

Firstly, you need to look at yourself in the mirror. Really look at the person that you see there looking back at you. Ask yourself -

Why did I betray a person that I am married to and that loves me?
Why did I seek refuge in another man's arms and then blame it on them?
Why can't I make a genuine commitment to my husband?
Why am I so weak?
What am I so afraid of?

You must be willing to ask yourself these hard questions and hear the answers, rather than making excuses. It is important for you to understand the answers to these questions if you are genuine about loving him and not repeating this horrible mistake.

It will be very hard to rebuild your husband's trust but you must go out of your way to prove to your him that you will never cheat again. Be honest with yourself and him about your motivations.

Your husband is generous of heart and mind - this is a blessing and a gift. Why would you besmirch it?

The opening line of your post,suggests that you both had an affair for 3 years,its strange now that your husband is probably dealing with feelings that perhaps his ex partner/wife must have felt.

You don't say if you were married before,however,it does have some bearing on the answer or advice you receive..

Whatever you did,however you love your husband,you did cheat,and although he is willing to forgive you,something was not there for you in the relationship with your husband.

Perhaps this is an issue you need to address.

My husband I got happily married after an affair of 3 years

So you have cheated before? I'm a bit confused.

Things are rarely the same after an affair. He's going to take a long time getting past your cheating.

At first it seemed as if you were blaming your husband's work for the affair. Then you surely blamed the other guy for the sex. Because you didn't want to lose him.

But we all know that who's responsible for this mess that you're in.

You lied, cheated,and broke your vows.

It's going to take a lot of counseling for your husband to ever really get this loss of trust back.

I feel sorry for HIM. If he was really such a wonderful man, why were you so selfish?