View Full Version : Still think of my ex,what should I do
xtine22
Sep 22, 2009, 08:49 PM
Ive been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 2 years and we have a beautiful 13 month old baby together.I love the guy don't get me wrong but I still think of my ex boyfriend everyday! I even find myself crying over him sometimes the problem is that I didn't see my ex boyfriend in over 3 years! I'm so confused I wonder what is wrong with me! Can somebody help me maybe find some answers? Thanks!
I wish
Sep 22, 2009, 09:00 PM
It happens. You just have to keep your mind occupied. Focus on your current relationship and your child as much as possible.
friend4u178
Sep 22, 2009, 09:04 PM
You can't control how you feel but you can control what you do with those feelings. Maybe it's because you have some small issues in your current Relationship , if so do as I Wish said and concentrate your efforts into working on those.
Alty
Sep 22, 2009, 09:05 PM
It's normal to think about an ex, but it's time to get over it.
You have to learn to be happy with what you have, who you're with.
xtine22
Sep 22, 2009, 09:16 PM
Yes I know I maybe should control my feelings. But what happens when even after 3 years of beinng apart you still love him more then your current boyfriend.It goes as far as affecting my sexual life!
Alty
Sep 22, 2009, 09:17 PM
Yes i know i maybe should control my feelings. but what happens when even after 3 years of beinng apart you still love him more then your current boyfriend.It goes as far as affecting my sexual life!
You need to find closure. Your current partner doesn't deserve this, neither do you.
It's over, so it's time to get over it.
Have you considered therapy?
xtine22
Sep 22, 2009, 09:20 PM
Yes in fact I have,maybe I should finally make a move and get an apointment see if it could help. Thx a lot!
Alty
Sep 22, 2009, 09:21 PM
Yes in fact i have,maybe i should finaly make a move and get an apointment see if it could help. Thx alot!
It can't hurt.
This is affecting your life in a negative way, it's time to end it once and for all.
Keep us posted. :)
friend4u178
Sep 22, 2009, 09:23 PM
Just remember there's a reason why he's your Ex , no point travelling down that road again and possibly losing what you have.
The grass is not always greener on the other side as they say,
Good Luck!
makapuu
Sep 23, 2009, 02:40 AM
Could the child be your ex's? It sounds like you got pregnant right after meeting your new boyfriend, but how long were you broken up from your ex at that time?
xtine22
Sep 23, 2009, 05:00 AM
Yes indeed I got pregnant only a month in the relationship but it's my boyfriends child! And that's another problem ,sometimes I wonder if we aren't just together because of the baby.But me and my ex were together for a verrrryy long time and I got pregnant but lost the baby. So there's a lot of fact that may be bottering me without really knowing why
talaniman
Sep 24, 2009, 12:59 PM
One little problem (your fears and insecurities) has snowballed into a bigger problem. You might just feel guilty of jumping into a new relationship to fast, and are a bit out of control from not healing from the last relationship properly.
Let the past go and get with the reality of now.
I think a wise person can help talk you through this.