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Igloo61
Sep 22, 2009, 01:55 PM
Okay, I met this girl about three-four weeks ago. I admire her because of what she does (don't ask). Most of my attraction for her (I think) is because of this admiration I have for her... and I have told her I admire her already. Well, to make things short... I just want to know what do you guys think... should I talk to her and just dump my feelings on her? Should I just stay silent?
I don't know what to do, I know it's kind of early but my emotions always get the best of me.
Thanks.
Justwantfair
Sep 22, 2009, 01:58 PM
Boyfriend = off limits.
I wish
Sep 22, 2009, 02:08 PM
There's nothing you can do. She has a boyfriend. You can have a friendship if you can handle it (i.e. not let your feelings for her get in the way of a possible friendship), otherwise, leave her alone.
You wouldn't like it when other guys hit on your girlfriend and try to pry her away from you.
Finally, beware not to treat her kindness as something more.
HellHound82
Sep 22, 2009, 03:08 PM
Just stay friends
friend4u178
Sep 22, 2009, 11:29 PM
She has a BF so she probably wouldn't want to hear your feelings anyway , why lose your dignity for nothing.
Ithappenstoall
Sep 23, 2009, 02:27 AM
I would stay away. The best way to put this is imagine yourself in the BF shoes, would you want to see your GF being wooed by someone else.
I would suggest try and be friends but that usually is very difficult so let it go
kctiger
Sep 23, 2009, 05:46 AM
Just me, I don't remain friends with a girl that I have feelings for. I may ask them out and once they tell me they have a boyfriend I am pretty much gone. I just don't think it's fair to me, them or their significant other.
Romefalls19
Sep 23, 2009, 06:16 AM
Ever see The Wedding Singer "I got punched in the mouth for sticking my nose in other people's business"
If she has a boyfriend, she's off limits
talaniman
Sep 23, 2009, 07:15 PM
How about dealing with your feelings, in a more positive way, and staying within the boundaries of good behavior. What do you expect her to cheat with you or something?
zippit
Sep 23, 2009, 07:22 PM
You said you told her you admire her already.
Now if that was appropriate or not the deal is done and its more than enough.
The rest is up to her.
roxypox
Sep 23, 2009, 07:30 PM
She has a boyfriend and is of limits!
If you want to be friends, stay friends, NOTHING more
If friendship gives you falso hope, don't stay friends!
You already told her that you admire her, there is really nothing more to say. You don't need to repeat it and if you say anything about feelings, it would most likely make her very uncomfortable and make her move away from you!
I agree with KC! I don't stay friends with guys that I have been interested in that weren't interested in me, I also have to say that I haven't stayed close or friends with guys that were interested in me that I wasn't interested in either...
Let go of the whole thing! Its fruitless, and kind of disrespectful, both towards her and her BF (since you know she is taken)