I am 20 and my breasts have been sagging since I was 18, when I lost a lot of weight. My boyfriend has for quite a long time been asking me(frequently) if I could get a breast lift done in the future. As of now I don't have the money but should I consider this in the future? Is he being reasonable? I know I look bad because of the drooping boobs but I don't feel comfortable with the idea of getting surgery done. I have told him this but I know he finds the boobs really unattractive and I suppose most other guys would find it a dealbreaker?

It's your own body, you shouldn't do something you are not comfortable with. And you especially shouldn't do something to your own body to please him. It seems quite selfish on his part, would he get a surgical penis enlargement if you asked him?

But isn't this a problem I would face with future bfs if I leave him? Guys would find it a turn off

It depends on the guys, I don't really look at breast to determine if a women is hot or not. It's a matter of which types of guys you want to be with. My ex had quite a lot of physical problems but I didn't tell her anything because I loved her as she was. Besides you can always fool men by putting push up bra.

As guys we also have insecurity issues so don't worry about that. You should be confident and that is a huge turn on.

I really think you should do what you want to do. You probably have in your mind what you want to do right? Which you said you don't feel comfortable with getting surgery, so don't do it.
If he really loves you then he can live with it. If not another guy will love you for your other qualities instead of your breast. I think he is just being selfish.

Any guy who finds something as minor as that a dealbreaker isn't worth your time or consideration.

Has he been telling, or even implying, you that no other guy would want to be with you because of it? If so, then that is a clear sign of a controlling personality and emotional manipulation and abuse. I would strongly suggest reconsidering any relationship with someone who wants you to change the way you look just to please them.

Men on other forums have said that most men would be turned off

Well... I suggest that you do what makes you comfortable. Are you comfortable with your breasts? If you are, then I am sure some young man will come along who will accept you for who you are. If he truly loves you, he will realize its not your fault. Talk about it and make a decision together- as long as it makes you comfortable.

If,you are comfortable with your body then,you are blessed because most women aren't.He want's you to have an invasive and possibly dangerous surgery.AND he expects you to pay for it? What a jerk.You are young. I hope that you'll find a kind man and lose this dude.good-luck.

men on other forums have said that most men would be turned off

Then they are shallow, insensitive, idiots. Anyone who truly cares about you won't let something so petty ruin a relationship.

That being said, surgery on your breasts at this point in your life is not a good idea. There is still a very good chance that your breasts will grow for the next several years. I'm almost 23 and have gained almost 2 cup sizes in the last 2-3 years.

Who cares if they are sagging. So you lift them for him. He will find something else on you not good enough. What if your butt gets to big, what happens if your hair turns grey or falls out, what happens... if he doesn't love how you are now then find someone who does. He is young. You will learn as you grow older life happens. Your body changes, babies are born, age, sickness or whatever it may be. Someone will love you for those changes and I can tell you it won't be him.

men on other forums have said that most men would be turned off


I want to tell you something,I have had 4 children and breast fed them all,I have stretch marks that look like a map on my body,I was also burned when I was younger,I was also once 17 stone and lost that weight...

Last night I stood fully naked in full lighting and said to my boyfriend,are you ready for bed..

He did not puke at the sight of me,he did not cringe,he chased me up the stairs...

Be confident in yourself it shines through,sexyness is a state of mind.

I don't have anything to add about getting them done... that's a personal choice.

However, if you do, I would wait until you have finished having kids. That is going to take a bit of a toll on the goodies and likely undo anything you have done now.

My wife wants to have hers done. I would love it if she did. But it won't change how I feel about her even one bit. But it will help her feel more confident in her appearance... and you can't put a price tag on that. In short - if he loves you he will love you no matter what.

Tell him to go screw himself.

If YOU do not want to do this, then you absolutely should not.

It's NOT a deal-breaker. MOST women's breasts are not that perky after a bit--and the bigger they are to start with, the less the likelihood that they'll stay perky.

Ask him if he's willing to have unnecessary surgery on his penis to please you. Bet the answer is not only "no", but "HELL, no!"

Bottom line: Do what makes YOU comfortable with your body. Any guy that decides that not having perfect boobs is a dealbreaker isn't worth having---because what happens if you get breast cancer and lose them both? Should you be worth less for not having perfect breasts THEN?

If he'd abandon you for that, then he's not worth you to start with.

If you're that self conscious about it, Just try a nice push-up bra. It's better then cutting up your body just because a temporary boyfriend feels like it's un-attractive. Your breasts do not make you into a woman, you could have boobs the size of a walnut and you'd still be beautiful. What matters is how you feel about yourself. If you exude confidence and your wonderful personality, it will outshine anything that people would pick at on the outside. Really.

I suppose not every guy would tell me that he's turned off, but it certainly would be a turn off though?

I would not consider it a turn off... but also not a turn on. Love has little to do with your breasts though and if it's that much of an issue with him, he has bigger issues.

Honey, after weight fluctuation and having had a baby, my DDD breasts are no longer "perky" and require a good support bra to be where they're supposed to be.

My husband can't get enough of them.

Believe me--it's NOT about your boobs. It's about finding a guy who appreciates you for YOU.

You should, however, see a counselor about your insecurities---THOSE are a bigger turn-off for most people than sagging boobs would be.

I suppose not every guy would tell me that he's turned off, but it certainly would be a turn off though?

No guy worth being in your life would be turned off by something so trivial. In 10 or 20 years your breasts would start to sag anyway, if you have anything larger than a B cup. Would you get the same procedure done again then to fix something that happens naturally over time.

Would you get a nose job just to please a guy? It's the same concept.

men on other forums have said that most men would be turned offHello darkness:

The best piece of a$$ I ever had was from the ugliest girl I knew. Funny - after a while she didn't look so ugly.. In fact, she looked damn pretty. You need to find yourself a guy like me.

excon

Hello darkness:

The best piece of a$$ I ever had was from the ugliest girl I knew. Funny - after a while she didn't look so ugly.. In fact, she looked damn pretty. You need to find yourself a guy like me.

excon

Hmm that's a bit different

hmm that's a bit different

Not if you know excon its not. ;)

Your boyfriend needs to spend an afternoon doing bra fittings. Boobs are boobs. Some boobs sag at puberty, some are perky at age 88, many are not equal in size, some are full of stretch marks but are not saggy, some have discoloration, some have scars, some are cone shaped, some look like squished oranges, others are missing one due to cancer, boobs come in all shapes and sizes.

I presume your boyfriend hasn't experienced a lot of boobery. YOU are normal, what you have is what you have. He should be grateful you are healthy, happy and hold far more important attributes than the shape of your boobs.

Gawd, is he that superficial, really?

He should love you and accept you just the way you are!
Don't feel like you have todo anything which you don't feel comfertable with, if you was to consider it in the future do it for you self not for him!

Do not let your boyfriend tell you what to do. If he really loves you he loves you for all that you are,including your body. Don't do anything to your body that you don't want to , cause it's yours!

Who care's about what other men think there not the ones who have got to look in the mirror and see it everyday if it doesn't bother you (which it shouldnt) then stop worrying about what other people think!

Your boyfriend needs to spend an afternoon doing bra fittings. Boobs are boobs. Some boobs sag at puberty, some are perky at age 88, many are not equal in size, some are full of stretch marks but are not saggy, some have discoloration, some have scars, some are cone shaped, some look like squished oranges, others are missing one due to cancer, boobs come in all shapes and sizes.

I presume your boyfriend hasn't experienced a lot of boobery. YOU are normal, what you have is what you have. He should be grateful you are healthy, happy and hold far more important attributes than the shape of your boobs.

Gawd, is he that superficial, really??

He's been with other women before, I wonder if they all had perfect breasts or what. At my age sagging is abnormal I guess.

Hello again, d:

GIRL! Stand up for yourself. You sound like you think you'll NEVER have another boyfriend. Don't chase after men. If they don't like what you got, throw 'em to the curb.

Saggy, schmaggy! I MEANT what I said earlier... Attractive TO ME, is how a girl carries herself, how SEXY she is, how CONFIDENT she is, how SMART she is. There are LOTS of very sexy women who AREN'T, in fact, the prettiest... Indeed, there's a lot of pretty women out there who aren't sexy at all.

excon

he's been with other women before, I wonder if they all had perfect breasts or what. at my age sagging is abnormal i guess.

No, it's not. Take the word of a 22 year old lesbian who spent high school in drama and choir and college living in a dorm and has seen a LOT of boobs. The bigger they are, the sooner they sag. If you loose a considerable amount of weight, they sag anyway. There is nothing wrong with having saggy boobs at any age. It happens and it doesn't make you any less attractive.

Then why do guys expect all women to have perky breasts? I saw this site 007b.com which has non sexual images of women’s breasts and 90% of the women with large breasts had saggy ones.

Then why do guys expect all women to have perky breasts? I saw this site 007b.com which has non sexual images of women’s breasts and 90% of the women with large breasts had saggy ones.


Stop looking at those sites!

Not all men expect women to have the perfect perky breasts,just like woman don't expect all men to have an 8 inch penis.

Are your breasts the sum of you?

I'm sure you have physical features that you think is attractive,not your boyfriend,but you!

Then why do guys expect all women to have perky breasts? I saw this site 007b.com which has non sexual images of women's breasts and 90% of the women with large breasts had saggy ones.

That's because they're REAL! Real boobs sag. Fake boobs don't. Men who expect all women to have perfect, perky breasts have been looking at too much porn.

MEN don't expect women to have perky boobs.

BOYS do.

1. Stop looking into sites that make you question yourself and yourself worth and how you look, at least for now!
2. don't have your breasts done, unless you want it done!!
3. Maybe your boyfriend should either back off, or get kicked to the curb?

Personally I have small breasts, it never bothered me though, maybe a little when I was 15-16, but I would never get them done. Because I don't want to get them done. If any BF of mine had ever started to pressure me (frequently, like your write in your OP) to have them done... I'd start asking myself some of the questions you're asking; Will every guy think that way and see me that way? Are my look of my breast the only thing that matters? At least for a second, but I'm more then two small boobs..

If your BF is so obsessed with the way your breasts look, he isn't really worth it is he? And I agree with excon, it does seem as if you're think that you'll never get another BF... You will! There are plenty of little fishies in this great big sea of a world.

Your BF does come of as immature!

The thing is, and I do believe you'll experience this! What Excon wrote is true!


Hello again, d:

GIRL! Stand up for yourself. You sound like you think you'll NEVER have another boyfriend. Don't chase after men. If they don't like what you got, throw 'em to the curb.

Saggy, schmaggy! I MEANT what I said earlier... Attractive TO ME, is how a girl carries herself, how SEXY she is, how CONFIDENT she is, how SMART she is. There are LOTS of very sexy women who AREN'T, in fact, the prettiest... Indeed, there's a lot of pretty women out there who aren't sexy at all.

excon

What he writes here, is my personal experience as well, and I've also seen many a girlfriend experience the same thing! Its not the way your boobs look, or if you have the perfect butt, or a flat stomach that matters! Its who you are as a person, its your personality, its your interests, it's the way you carry yourself in this world that matters! (although it should be said that some people never grow up and will always think that looks matters, but those people can be avoided and/or discarded!)

Just think about it; Is it your boobs a man has to live with? Or is it you as a whole?

Also, my impression after reading this thread is that it seems to me that your BF and his attitude towards your boobs and the look of them has gotten under your skin... is it giving you a low selfconfidence? Because that would be a shame!

Also, my impression after reading this thread is that it seems to me that your BF and his attitude towards your boobs and the look of them has gotten under your skin... is it giving you a low selfconfidence? because that would be a shame!!

Yes, it has affected myself confidence deeply

yes, it has affected my self confidence deeply

If something your boyfriend says or does affects yourself confidence, he isn't a very good boyfriend and you should consider replacing him. Its his job as a boyfriend to boost your confidence, not selfishly beat it down.

HUGE difference between him liking perky breasts and him being a douchebag.

This isn't about him liking perky...

Roxy has a good point there, and no wonder you say yourself esteem is deeply affected.

I wonder how your boyfriend would feel if he thought you were disappointed every time you were intimate, because his member was not quite up to par. If you continuously made remarks about it, and suggested he get surgery (yes, apparently there is surgery), and frequently let it be known that you are unhappy with the size of it.

This isn't the same as complaining about the colour of the nailpolish you are wearing, or the new haircut, or about the burnt roast in the oven. All those things are easy enough to fix or change, and are purely superficial.

But, he is making an issue out of something that not only shouldn't be an issue at all, but is deeply personal and considered to be a 'fault' that needs surgery to correct. It seems okay for him to hit you with this psychologically, knowing, or at least he should know, that his comments really hurt, very deeply, and affect how you see yourself. Are you supposed to feel grateful that he puts up with saggy boobs, or happy that he goes a day or two without mentioning how unappy he is with the shape of them?

Bullies operate this way. They find something that hurts another person, and they torment them with it.

He is not the type of man I'd ever have anything to do with. Will he 'settle' for you if you don't have surgery? Or will he continue to bully you until you crack and get it done.

My advice to you is to think seriously about a long term relationship with a man who would not only see you as having physical 'faults', which is utter nonsense, but doesn't have the sense God gave a flea to realize his behaviour is causing you to take a nose dive with your confidence and self-image.

Please think about your future with a man like that before you really start believing there is something wrong with you.

yes, it has affected my self confidence deeply

I find this very sad! That your boyfriend who is supposed to be there for you and with you is causing this, cause he is causing this!

You are prob not going to like what I have to say, but it might be a good idea to:

A) find a way to make him stop

B) Let go of him

The way he is treating you and the way its making you feel is NOT good on any level.

From what you say in the OP your breasts 'sag' because you lost a lot of weight, I'm guessing that you lost a lot of weight because you made a conscious decision to do so. The more I think about his behavior the more I see just HOW unreasonable it is.

And Jake has a good point, he is a bully, in stead of focusing on all the positive sides of you, he is attacking a side that is making you feel uncomfortable and giving you low confidence.

I have several suggestions as to how to work on yourself confidence and to raise your sense of self worth, and I am going to give those suggestions to you, but in all honesty I think that he seems to be a waste of your time...

One thing you can do to raise yourself confidence is to have a little note book...

This book is meant as something positive, something that in the end is a celebration of you, and something you write for you. I have such a book myself. Almost a year ago (2 of October, YEY me!) I broke up with a BF of mine who treated me pretty bad! At the end of our relationship he had broken myself confidence and my sense of self worth was pretty low, and when I started making that book... I found it hard at first, but today I'm really glad I made it!

I call this the book of self improvement: (lol wiches have the book of shadows I have the book of self improvement ;))

So what you can do is start of by making several lists, 2 types of lists once a week, and 1 list that you make each day:

Each day:
Make a list with 3 decisions you are happy about (that you've made that day!)

Each week:
Make a list with 5 things you are happy about with your looks and personality.

Make a list with 3 to 5 things that you are happy about in general in your life (directly involving you.

E.g. I have really good friends:

I read on AMHD the other day that your friends can be seen as a mirror of you (Sorry, can't remember who wrote that) but I lkinda like it; if you have really good friends, it must mean that you are a good friends... and remember not only did you CHOOSE your friends, THEY CHOSE you as well!

Or my boss told me I do a great job..

And so on... if you catch my drift; hope this was of some help!

Roxy

Thanks for that roxy.
I will do all that.

OP,


As of now I don't have the money but should I consider this in the future? Is he being reasonable?

That's the worset! And you are thinking about PAYING OUT OF YOUR POCKET TO DAMAGE YOURSELF?

He doesn't even want to pay for what HE wants?

Tell him to grow up and stop being so selfish!

Even if he paid, I don't know if I'd get it done!

Even if he paid, I don't know if I'd get it done!

This is such a HUGE clue and it says a lot about what YOU want! If you don't want to get it done, don't. If he keeps on pushing and making you feel bad about who you are... tell him so, if he doesn't get his act together you'll prob need to go to more extreme measures...

Has he mentioned this as of late? And in all honesty, putting all self-confidence issues aside; how do you feel about this relationship and the way he is behaving as a hole and on this issue?

I'm thinking of taking a break from the relationship, I'm feeling so low because he's no longer attracted to me, I thought he would understand. I want to focus on other things for a while.

Is he actually saying that; that he is no longer attracted to you.

I can understand that this is getting you down, especially since he often reminds you of something HE wants fixed.

And I honestly do think you need sometime to think and build yourself up.

Why a break and not a break up?

Have you already talked to him about taking a break? Since you say; you "thought he would understand"...

He should be frequently complimenting instead of frequently being critical. He should respect your decision not to have surgery to please him. He should be able to judge you as a whole and complete person first. Your breasts should not make him see you as less than perfect, and in need of fixing.

He should cherish you as an independent person with free will. Not as someone held in less self esteem because he sees 'faults' where there are none. He should build your confidence up, not run it into the ground. He needs to be there when you are down, feeling blue and having a hard day; not creating those feelings.

A hot cup of tea and a foot rub at the end of your day, should replace the scalpel and body altering badgering he keeps up with. A few unexpected surprises just to show you that he values you as a person, and wouldn't change an inch of you for anything in the world.

He should spend his time in blissful harmony, holding you in his arms, and thank God for the most precious gift he has ever been given. Unconditional love.

He needs to show love himself, not demand physical perfection, and nurture the person you are, and if he isn't capable of that, he should move on, and let you find somebody who will love you, totally, without compromise, and without change.

is he actually saying that; that he is no longer attracted to you.

I can understand that this is getting you down, especially since he often reminds you of something HE wants fixed.

And I honestly do think you need sometime to think and build yourself up.

why a break and not a break up?

have you already talked to him about taking a break? since you say; you "thought he would understand"...

I meant that I thought he would be more understanding of my situation regarding weight loss leading to sagging breasts.
Constantly reminding me about the look of my breasts makes me feel that he is no longer attracted to me.
I haven't yet spoken to him about it, I want a break and not a break up but let's see what he has to say.

He broke up with me and I'm sure it was mostly over this.
I doubt I'll ever want to be in a relationship again after all this.
I never want to go through this embarrassment again.

You re better off without him-he sounds like a real jerk.
You may feel like staying single forever but there are decent guys out there and I hope that when you've healed from this you ll find someone who likes loves and respects you for who you are.
Good luck.

he broke up with me and I'm sure it was mostly over this.
I doubt I'll ever want to be in a relationship again after all this.
I never want to go through this embarrassment again.

He broke up with you? Good, that's good for you. Your better off.

I know you don't see it. I know your feeling like men are all this way but they are not. Trust me. It might take some time for you to heal and get over this and see there are some good men out there. Down the road you will come across a man who will fall in love with you for your saggy boobs, stretch marks, messy hair, bad acne, wild children, fat thighs or whatever it may be. These men are the keepers. They fall in love with you for who you are, for your character, for your mind and heart. Everything else is just the outside package. In the end the old saying is true, what's inside matters most.

D&M, you will be fine. Your life will be much better now that you have had that childish jacka$$ removed. THAT is the surgical procedure that you needed to have done.

Never do something like change your body, to suit someone else. It's a decision that is between you and the person in the mirror.

The world is full of guys that are not shallow enough to judge a person's worth by their personal imperfections.

You just pick yourself up, and dust yourself off, and hold your head high knowing that you are someone special.

Love will find you again soon. I know I'm pulling for you.

I think that's good news, and eventually you will settle with this, and be that much stronger.

While you may think it was about your breasts, it was about control. He could control sexual affection, your self-esteem, your confidence, and leave you doubting yourself so much, that you would think that implants would have helped turn him into a decent person, and that he would then treat you differently.

With a man that shallow and selfish, it would have been another 'issue'. The way you walk, talk, dress, etc. Had you gone along with the implants, it would only have been a long list to follow of other changes he would demand of you, while denying you affection and hammering on your self-esteem until you complied.

You may not see it yet, but he must have seen something in you that was stronger and more difficult to change than he thought. So, he may have broken up with you, but the reason may have been because it is in his nature to control, and you weren't a good subject.

He wanted me to get a lift done, not implants, but I didn't agree to it.
I'm trying really hard to feel better about myself :(

It is going to take time Darkness, to get your sense of self back, which has been pushed to the back burner because of the way you were treated. It is very difficult to live with someone who lets you know that your very essence is negotiable. That is what he did with you.

He managed to change your opinion of yourself, and that is a systematic control technique that works time and time again. To live it, and experience it, yet alone explain how it happened, is impossible. You were left with little confidence, self esteem, and energy. It will take time and patience to get that back, but you will get back to your old self, I guarantee it.

When you start having doubts about the decision you made to be on your own, and start wandering a bit emotionally, replace that with a long walk, a night out with friends, or start a diary to write down the feelings and get them out there. We sometimes tend to remember the good, and forget the not so good times, but it is a trick of consciousness because remember the good makes us feel better. Just keep some balance when this starts to happen.

In the meanwhile, enjoy your freedom, celebrate that you are independent and getting stronger, enjoy your time with yourself. Do what you want to do, and try not to look back.

Many have been where you are now. And if the worst thing you have to face is losing a man like the one you had, then you've done not too bad.

Maybe, but when I have so many people advising me to get a lift
(not on here, but on other forums and in general)
Because men are visual creatures and would be put off, etc,
I start feeling low again.

You don't need a man to define you!! Stop listening to those other creatures on other forums. They don't know what they are talking about!

There are plenty of men out there who will love you for your brain not your breasts.

I wish you could have seen all the boobs I've seen. I was a certified bra fit consultant for a few years, and let me tell you, women's boobs are as different in shape and size than you can possibly imagine.

Boobs swinging under the pits, boobs down to the navel, perky boobs, no two boobs the same size, stretch mark boobs, surgery scar boobs, happy boobs, sad boobs. No two boobs are the same as another woman's. It is a complete myth that natural boobs look anything like the boobs that men see in magazines/computers/strip clubs etc. they are not real. Actually it makes me laugh to think people actually compare themselves to artificial ones.

Ever see a mouthfull of pure white, perfectly shaped implants? That is about as natural as Elvis singing soprano. But, somehow people figure that is perfection, and everybody should strive for that.

Your boobs are NORMAL. Honest, you have nothing to worry about.

If only I had a nickel for every woman who thought her boobs were horrible... :rolleyes:

You don't need a man to define you!!! Stop listening to those other creatures on other forums. They don't know what they are talking about!!

There are plenty of men out there who will love you for your brain not your breasts.

Don't even want to imagine getting into a new relationship after all this!

May I suggest a therapist? You have self esteem issues and you should see what you can do about working through those before you worry about a relationship. Statistically speaking, self esteem is the number one cause why women get involved in abusive relationships.

And another thing... if idiots on the internet are making you feel bad about yourself, you need to find a different hobby. Here is a small insite for you... the internet is full of idiots.

If YOU decide you want to have your breasts done... you should really wait until you are done with kids. I went from a nice B cup to a D cup after I had my daughter. I invested in good support bras. I often tell my husband that I am going to have a reduction. And even though they are SAGGY - he says "HECK NO"! He likes them the way they are.
I have a family member who nursed 2 kids and wanted to do a lift. She ended up getting implants after meeting with her dr. (just an FYI if you consider a lift)

Here is what you need to consider - YOU need to be happy with what YOU see in the mirror. Being comfortable in your own skin is a great thing and for most women hard to achieve. Looking at pictures of "perfect" women... do you realize that those pictures could have been touched up? So you don't see flaws? No one... let me say that again... NO ONE is perfect.

If this man/boy can not appreciate you for you - then it is time to cut him loose.

What's awful is that since we have the same circle of friends I keep running into him again and again.

I can only tell you what I would do.

Go to a lingerie store. Buy a padded push-up. Then go buy a low cut top. Complete the outfit with a nice necklace that draws attention to your assets.

Put your hair up in a sexy 'do', get some makeup on and your best jeans, and work it baby!!

what's awful is that since we have the same circle of friends I keep running into him again and again.

I'd work on slowly getting a new group of friends, personally.

You'll never get over him and move on and restore your self-confidence if you don't get away from this guy.

I can only tell you what I would do.

Go to a lingerie store. Buy a padded push-up. Then go buy a low cut top. Complete the outfit with a nice necklace that draws attention to your assets.

Put your hair up in a sexy 'do', get some makeup on and your best jeans, and work it baby!!!

Will do this thanks.
Really need to work on myself confidence.

Go do the things that you like to do. Take a class, or start a new hobby, do something that you've always wanted to do. You will meet someone nice that shares your interests.

I wish you the best of luck.

Well try wight lift and they will get bigger trust me

Hi guys,
I dated another guy, who I really liked a lot, but I broke up with him yesterday because I wasn't ready to be dumped again because my breasts sag. He wanted to have sex but I just couldn't let him know,
I'm just feeling low right now.

You have said you wouldn't feel comfortable getting surgery, and therein lies your answer... I know that it is an issue for us who have lost weight that even though you now have a great figure, you will have stretchmarks/sagging mammaries etc, but that issue should not be compounded by your boyfriend harassing you to get surgery...
Don't even consider making surgical changes to your body for someone else... it's your body... the only thing in the world that is yours and yours alone...
Now, if you want to for yourself, that's another issue... but if you do, then my advice would be to get rid of said boyfriend first... harsh advice I know...

Best of luck...

That is stupid I would lift weights instead of getting implants and if u watched DR.Phil u would know that!

I have tried weights for a year and nothing changed.

I have tried weights for a year and nothing changed.

Very true. Look at women body builders... they have small breasts. Breasts are not made of muscle, but rather fatty tissue.

Sigh.
I really feel low because I really liked the new guy I was with but I didn't have much of a choice as I couldn't have faced rejection.

Hun, rejection is a normal part of life. It's how we become stronger people. Men like different things. Not every man loves breasts. Heck, I don't have any. I had a mastectomy, I have scars. My husband loves me just the same because he prefers butts over breasts. LOL

We are actually on a break, but I don't know what to do.

Find someone who's not so superficial. Your man should love you for who you are, not what you put in your over the shoulder boulder holster!

I'm talking about this new guy I'm dating. We're on a break because I told him I wasn't over some of the things my ex said to me. I didn't tell him about the sagging though.

Well, you need some time to recover from the last idiot. Take some time for you just to have fun before you get serious again.