I am a full believer in Jesus Christ, and God, and I try to go to church as much as possible. However, I have friends that have the same beliefs as me. For example, I have a friend that is also Roman Catholic. She frequently sleeps over with her boyfriend, in the same bed. They aren't married, but it's fine with her parents. However, if I ever even mentioned staying over with my boyfriend, my parents would forbid me from seeing him. My boyfriend and I both agree very strongly that sex is meant for after marriage, so we wouldn't do it even if we slept over in the same bed. Why are my parents so against it, but my friend's don't care? :confused:

Because they accept the teachings of the world. Something we have been warned against. The simple fact is that to them their faith and Christianity is not a life style as much as something you do on Sunday. If it is a way of life, then you know it is wrong.

I am a full believer in Jesus Christ, and God, and I try to go to church as much as possible. However, I have friends that have the same beliefs as me. For example, I have a friend that is also Roman Catholic. She frequently sleeps over with her boyfriend, in the same bed. They aren't married, but it's fine with her parents. However, if I ever even mentioned staying over with my boyfriend, my parents would forbid me from seeing him. My boyfriend and I both agree very strongly that sex is meant for after marriage, so we wouldn't do it even if we slept over in the same bed. Why are my parents so against it, but my friend's don't care? :confused:

Right off I would say, Let's not compare yourself with your friends or their parents. Your loving parents are teaching what they feel is best for you.

What you look to do is respect your parents, and this is just the first reason in why, and how a virgin does remain faithful in doing the Will of God. Honor your father and mother. (Love Them as They Love YOU)

Another reason is that a virgin with both her body and in spirit watches carefully to stay away from what God has asked of her. When anyone walks in the spirit, they surrender their own will, in doing the Will of God.
(Love God as God Loves YOU)

So you look away from pleasing yourself or your boyfriend, and look to pleasing God. The sinful eye can be even to look upon another that offers temptations.
( Love Yourself for Who You Are, and Not For Who You Can Be Like)

REFER:
1 Corinthians 7:37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.

1 Corinthians 7:34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

Would it not be glory shown to God, if a man would step up their position as being strong and protective, and in keeping the Will of God by resisting their lust? To protect the body and spirit of their virgin, and want this virgin to remain stedfast in her necessity to do the Will of God.

It just isn't taught that way anymore.. to the shame of man

unknown,
Who has said that your friend's parent don't care about their daughters sex activities?
I'll bet they are disappointed with it but can't muster up enough strength to stop it or at the least to forbid it even if she keeps on doing it.
What you friend is doing is harming both her and her boy friend though it may be years before they realize they were wrong and the damage was done.
It's a sin that will live with them all of their lives even if forgiven, for it remains in memory and often becomes a deep regret.
Sex was made by God to be only for marriage of a man and woman.
Any other way it is impure and will always end up being hurtful in different ways depending on the persons involved.
Another something that often happens is that people who have sex before marriage much more often are those who are unfaithful after marriage than those who did not have sex before marriage.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

I'm sorry, I haven't made one thing clear: When they sleep over with each other, they don't have sex. I know that for a fact. My friend's boyfriend is MY boyfriend's cousin, and they live together; my boyfriend and his cousin. My friend is also Roman Catholic, and she would never allow it either.

unknown624,
Thanks for that explanation.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

If they're not having sex then they're doing nothing wrong.

Why won't your parents let you sleep over at your boyfriends, probably for many reasons, one being that they know things can get out of hand and before you know it you're having sex. It happens, even if you have the best of intentions.

Also, why do you want to sleep over? Does he live far away? Do you not get to see each other very often?

If you're in the same town then there really isn't a reason to sleep over, you do have your own home and your own bed. :)

If they're not having sex then they're doing nothing wrong.

Why won't your parents let you sleep over at your boyfriends, probably for many reasons, one being that they know things can get out of hand and before you know it you're having sex. It happens, even if you have the best of intentions.

Also, why do you want to sleep over? Does he live far away? Do you not get to see each other very often?

If you're in the same town then there really isn't a reason to sleep over, you do have your own home and your own bed. :)


I agree!
I'm 19, and the only time I stay at my boyfriend's house is when he's back visiting from college and his siblings aren't staying at his dad's house on one of the nights that he is back. And the ONLY reason I stay over is to spend more time with him.

Altenweg,
I very much agree with you on this.
Danger awaits those who push such good intentions to far for they then become weakened.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

I'm sorry, I haven't made one thing clear: When they sleep over with each other, they don't have sex. I know that for a fact. my friend's boyfriend is MY boyfriend's cousin, and they live together; my boyfriend and his cousin. My friend is also Roman Catholic, and she would never allow it either.

Unknown624,

The question you are asking is, why can't you be like your friend, and her boyfriend; rather then as your parents have insisted. The course of events that have influenced you are the behavior of your friends. So why can't you be like my friends? Why can't you stay, and join the fun?

There are always others that can influence us in our thinking, and in today's time frame the influences are far greater for the teenager then they were a generation ago. But the facts are the same, their decisions begin with why must I listen to the rules of the household. And it is always pleasing to a teenager to hear someone else tell them what they hope to hear rather then what their parents have set as rules.

So here is the simply answer.. but it's your decision..Where do you want to be?

The Household Rulers

1. God Household Rules

2. Parents Household Rules

3. Friend's Household Rules

Where can you trust the influence is best? Who has always feed, clothed and protected you? What Household would you like to live in?


I don't know how old you are Unknown624, but I hope you can make decisions in life, in an adult manner, and in whats best for you, not whats appears best to your friends.

sndbay,
Excellent post. I agree whole heartedly.
Peace and kindness,
Fred