ASAK,
My name is Hussna ,I was married on nov 2005 and I came to USA with my husband.My husband and me have always problem between us.From marriage he is totally different ,he don't care about me much,he always seek other girls and always think in bad intention.Now he find some girls in USA and he is having some contact with them everyday though mail,messages from mobile and through email.I beg him to stop all this and he used to meet them too in personal.
He is telling me to don't interfior in his life and when the fight goes more he ised to beat me too.So I'm really confused whether I should leave him and go to my parents or I should tolerate all his tortures.I keepon praying too.Just because of all this tension I'm not having kids yet just for the mental tension,but physically I'm doing great as doctor said.Please tell me what should I do.im going mad everyday.Everyday we have some problems.
His friends also tell him to change a lot ,but never listen to anyone's.Everyone know about me that I love him and do takecare of him so much.I cannot go for job too since he is not interested in that too.
He knows thati love him so much and I will not go back to my house that's why he is treating me like this.if go for vaction to my native also he will go worse .Please reply for my message whether there is dua to continue or I should go back to my parents.
REgards,
Hussna

I would advise you to go to the abused women's shelter in your area. They can help you decide what your choices are and what to do next.

Most importantly, you need to get out as soon as you can. You don't have to put up with his treatment of you. NO man has the right to abuse his wife.

Im sorry for your pain.You shouldn't be with a man who abuses you.Can you leave and go to your parents?Abusers don't change.
Leave him and find happiness and security without him.

I moved your question to the marriage section as it's more appropriate here.

From what you've told us, your husband is abusive and controlling. In any marriage, both people involved should be putting the effort to make the marriage work. He's obviously neglected you and is treating you with disrespect. You deserve better than this. There's no reason for you to suffer.

The first step is for you to go to your parents like you suggested. You need to get out of this abusive household. Your safely and well-being is more important than this marriage.

Once at you've moved into your parents' house. Discuss with them on how to proceed. I also suggest that you go see a counsellor or therapist to help you deal trauma involved in this abusive marriage.

Welcome to the USA. Guess what? Slavery was abolished.

You are not "In love" with your captor. You are suffering from Stockholm Syndrome.

Women/MEN in this day and age in America do not have to put up this sort of treatment from any other person. You are there of your own free will as is he... If he refuses to live under the terms of Marriage then you don't have a marriage.

Should you decide to leave and get healthy (my advice) it may take a few years to figure out how to stay away from the same kind of man in the future... but look into what it is that makes you attracted to such an un-healthy person.

Should you decide to stay, Have your Tubes tide so you do not involve helpless children in this train wreck of a union.

I'll help if you'd like to move to a healthier place in life. Should you decide to stay... Good luck...

He is telling me to don't interfere in his life and when the fight goes more he used to beat me too

Your choice is an easy one, you let him have what he wants, and you leave him to it, and rebuild the life you want, without him. That simple, as the longer you tolerate his very bad, and disrespectful behavior, the worse it will get.

Get away from him As Soon As Possible, like yesterday.

Your choice is an easy one, you let him have what he wants, and you leave him to it, and rebuild the life you want, without him. That simple, as the longer you tolerate his very bad, and disrespectful behavior, the worse it will get.

Get away from him As Soon As Possible, like yesterday.

Thanks for your answer