View Full Version : When do I make contact?
Wonder1984
Oct 29, 2006, 10:26 AM
Hey all!
First off!
Yay for me. Cause as some off you know I've hade a problem with my ex...
But last night I meet a girl at the club and had a great time sleep over at her place but no sex. And I didn't think anything at all about my ex... witch is a big step for me :)
So now for this new girl...
Just before she gut on the buss (lives a bit away from here) I said that we should talk some day and she said maybe...
So I was thinking of send in a message to her but I wonder if I should wait maybe...
Let her wonder why I isn't calling...
Good/bad idea?
Thanks
Sentra
Oct 29, 2006, 10:32 AM
Well don't wait too long, or else she might think you aren't interested! Also, if you want nothing BUT sex from this girl, you are risking a lot, in my opinion.
valinors_sorrow
Oct 29, 2006, 11:22 AM
Pursuing other girls as a means to forget about ex is like using gasoline to put out a fire.
But hey, its your bonfire!
Wildcat21
Oct 29, 2006, 01:38 PM
If you do - wait a couple days - for some weird reason women get more interested whenyou wait. Be mysterious and unpredictable this time.
Wait 4 or 5 days - you're a busy guy WITH LOTS OF OPTIONS!!
NO MESSAGES - Call!!
Believe me - messages and text - and going forward I am saying this - is for the weak. You got to call.
Skell
Oct 29, 2006, 04:12 PM
You may think your over your ex but you aren't. I know you aren't and so do you.
It doesn't mean you can't meet people and maybehdate a bit but don't vest too much, if any emotion in them.
You aren't ready. All your emotions should be put to looking after yourself and greiving in a healthy manner.
If you really must though, give her a call in a few days. But plase just keep it fun and don't expect anything and try and have anything serious.
You will just set yourself up for more hurt.
talaniman
Oct 31, 2006, 02:56 PM
Be honest with yourself and make sure your over the ex. Nothing worse than taking baggage into a new relationship. If your really ready then 4 days and give her a call. Remember dating is fun so please no soap opera dramas.
s_cianci
Oct 31, 2006, 04:32 PM
Yeah, wait a while. Give it 2 weeks, then a quick contact and see where she takes it from there. Meanwhile, keep busy so that you don't have any time to obsess about her.
Skell
Oct 31, 2006, 04:44 PM
I wouldn't contact her at all.
Your not ready.
Read PatBatemans thread. He will tell you the same!
Too soon to be getting into something new!