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jay_dave1987
Sep 16, 2009, 11:21 AM
My girlfriend wanted to breakup the relationship with me, but i m not ready i love her (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/girlfriend-wanted-breakup-th-relationship-me-but-m-not-ready-love-her-396945.html#post1981482)

We know each other since 2 years and were in very happy relationship since last 8 months, last month her parents came to know about our relationship, they got very annoyed with this news because her parents don't want their daughter to get into relationship...

Yesterday she said that she can't continue this relationship anymore because it has no future, but on the other hand she says that she really loves me and not at all happy with her decision, I tried to convince her a lot, but according to her this relationship has no future, and her parents won't allow us to get married, I don't understand when we both love each other why is she doing like this?

I said we need to give your parents some time we need to have patience but she is not ready to listen me and just want to get out of this relationship, I don't understand what to do I really love her, and now I feel that my life has totally ruined , I just want to make things right...

Cat1864
Sep 16, 2009, 11:34 AM
How old are both of you?

Are there any factors like age, her living at home, school, tuition, etc. that strengthen her parent's argument?

jay_dave1987
Sep 16, 2009, 11:41 AM
Yeah m 22 she is 18, we both study in diff colleges, her parents knows my family

Cat1864
Sep 16, 2009, 12:17 PM
Her parents are probably very concerned about their daughter finishing college. It probably isn't you as much as fear that spending too much time in a relationship could damage her academics or lead to her dropping out because of an unplanned pregnancy.

She is probably getting ultimatums and all kinds of grief about those subjects and how young romances rarely last. She is probably confused over whether she should trust her parents who love her and raised her or you and her heart. She is also probably feeling like the rope in a tug-of-war. That is not a good feeling.

If you love her as much as you say, give her some space and time to find out what she wants. Making her chose between her love and loyalty to her family and her love and loyalty for you will permanently damage any relationship that is left.

jay_dave1987
Sep 16, 2009, 12:22 PM
Thank You So Much..!