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hamsterlovera
Sep 12, 2009, 08:35 AM
I am 11 and I want to wear just a little padded bra but I have no idea how to ask my mom she brings it up all the time but I never have the courage to say can we get me a bra I just don't like to say bra around her unless its about someone else SO HELP ME ANY IDEAS ON HOW TO ASK HER MY A BRA? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!

hamsterlovera
Sep 12, 2009, 08:37 AM
Ask her to get you some underwear then she'll see the bras and maybe she will say hey do you need a bra? Hope that helped

shazamataz
Sep 12, 2009, 08:43 AM
Did you just answer your own question :confused:

artlady
Sep 12, 2009, 08:43 AM
Honey,you should be able to talk to your Mom about ANYTHING!
She loves you ,she gave you life and she understands how you feel because she was a young girl of 11 once as well.
Just say"Ma,I think its time I got a bra".
Pretty soon you will be having more serious conversations so now is a good time to start feeling free to say anything to her.

Cat1864
Sep 12, 2009, 08:57 AM
Please remember that this isn't a chat room so it takes time to get answers to questions. Sometimes it takes minutes-sometimes hours. So please be patient.

Are you wanting (or needing) a bra with cups or are you wanting a "training bra" (they are like sports bras)?

This is a good time to work on talking with your mother.

Instead of asking for a bra since you are having problems with that, try talking to her about growing up in general and then steer the conversation toward clothing and undergarments. While you may or may not need the "support" of a bra, they are a lot more comfortable in some ways than undershirts.

You could bring up the subject while doing laundry when you are folding her bras. Maybe say something like "I think I may need one of these."

hamsterlovera
Sep 12, 2009, 10:26 AM
artlady;1975068]Honey,you should be able to talk to your Mom about ANYTHING!
She loves you ,she gave you life and she understands how you feel because she was a young girl of 11 once as well.
Just say"Ma,I think its time I got a bra".
Pretty soon you will be having more serious conversations so now is a good time to start feeling free to say anything to her.

I can't say I think it time for me to get a bra I would rather just say can I get a bra

hamsterlovera
Sep 12, 2009, 10:41 AM
shazamataz;1975067]Did you just answer your own question
Yes I did I thought it would get answers going on my profile

Cat1864
Sep 12, 2009, 10:43 AM
i can't say i think it time for me to get a bra i would rather just say can i get a bra

Well, then say that. We, mothers, do understand. As artlady said, we were 11 once.

If you don't want to spring it on her in the store, while doing laundry when you are folding bras, ask if you can get one.

Just be prepared for a mother/daughter moment.

excon
Sep 12, 2009, 10:46 AM
Hello hamstergirl:

You know the ingenuity you just used to get your question answered??

Use THAT with your mom, and your drawer will fill up with bra's. You're a very smart little girl.

excon

hamsterlovera
Sep 12, 2009, 11:12 AM
What is ingeunuity excon?

Cat1864
Sep 12, 2009, 11:22 AM
Redhed, she answered her own question. She has the first answer in the thread.

Hamster, I am going to suggest that you use a dictionary to look up "ingenuity". Make sure you spell it correctly. :)

Yes, I am a mother. :D

excon
Sep 12, 2009, 11:23 AM
Hello again, h:

It's the showing of intelligence, aptitude, or discernment. It means that you exhibit originality of thought, resourcefulness , and cleverness.

excon

hamsterlovera
Sep 12, 2009, 11:49 AM
You know the ingenuity you just used to get your question answered??
Use THAT with your mom, and your drawer will fill up with bra's. You're a very smart little girl.
What is ingenuity excon?

hamsterlovera
Sep 12, 2009, 12:26 PM
Please I need some advice from someone who knows

Cat1864
Sep 12, 2009, 12:45 PM
please i need some advice from someone who knows

What have we have been doing? What makes you think that we don't "know".

The main answers are going to come down to "tell her you need a bra", "ask her for a bra", or "discuss getting a bra".

If you are looking for a higher post count that doesn't matter here. Some questions are answered in one post. Attitude, though, counts for a lot.

ScottGem
Sep 12, 2009, 01:50 PM
I'm sorry, but something doesn't jive here. You post a question, then 2 minutes later you post an answer to it. More importantly it was a good answer, so why don't you follow your own advice.

Frankly it looks like you are playing games here and we don't appreciate that.

You also said your mom asks you all the time about it. So the next time she does simply say Yes. You don't have to say the word bra.

hamsterlovera
Sep 13, 2009, 11:08 AM
I wrote to myself to get the thread going okay and please ask other people for advice I am nervous

Cat1864
Sep 13, 2009, 11:16 AM
i wrote to myself to get the thread going okay and please ask other people for advice i am nervous

Hamster, by writing to yourself, you actually made it take longer to get advice. When new questions are posted they show up on a menu on the home page and stay there until more new ones are posted. When it gets answered, it disappears from that list. As a matter of fact, I almost missed your question because it was there then it wasn't. I thought someone else had given you an answer.

Have you tried what we suggested yet?

hamsterlovera
Sep 13, 2009, 02:38 PM
Has anyone here actually had to ask their mom to get them a bra:):):):):)

Wondergirl
Sep 13, 2009, 02:56 PM
has anyone here actually had to ask their mom to get them a bra
Yes. By that age, moms don't see their daughters naked any longer and sometimes have no idea how fast they are growing up and developing.

A bra is good for modesty too -- nipples can become very obvious under knit tops, especially during cold weather or if the girl gets excited by something, even something innocent like hearing about an upcoming party or like watching her school's basketball team play.

ScottGem
Sep 13, 2009, 03:00 PM
i wrote to myself to get the thread going okay and please ask other people for advice i am nervous

That is NOT how to get a thread going. It makes it look very suspicious. You need to give it time for people to answer.

I also fail to see anything wrong with the advice you have already been given. You have gotten some very good suggestions (including your own). So what haven't you tried them? What are you afraid of? What do you think your mom is going to do?

Cat1864
Sep 13, 2009, 03:00 PM
Guess what. I am female. No mother, but that is a different story. I had to ask my FATHER.

Your lucky.

hamsterlovera
Sep 14, 2009, 04:55 PM
Would you people stop bagging on me about me starting my thread I get it it was stupid okay now please just shut your faces up and give me advice
(please)

hamsterlovera
Sep 14, 2009, 04:56 PM
I would actually feel better asking my dad
:)

ScottGem
Sep 14, 2009, 04:58 PM
would you people stop bagging on me about me starting my thread i get it it was stupid okay now please just shut your faces up and give me advice
(please)

First, you need to show some more respect. People here are trying to help you. Insulting them is not going to get you very far.


And I ask you, again, What was wrong with the advice you have received so far? You have gotten some very good suggestions, so why haven't you tried them out instead of acting like you haven't gotten any advice?

hamsterlovera
Sep 14, 2009, 05:18 PM
Who says I didn't use any of it even though I didn't but I just want a lot of advice before I actually make a decision on what to say
:):(:):(

ScottGem
Sep 14, 2009, 05:21 PM
who says i didnt use any of it even though i didnt but i just want alot of advice before i actually make a decision on what to say
:):(:):(

And, again, you have GOTTEN lots of advice. You act like you haven't gotten any. I also asked why you are afraid to ask your mom. You never answered. Maybe if we understood that we could help further.

Cat1864
Sep 14, 2009, 07:34 PM
i would actually feel better asking my dad
:)

My last piece of advice: Ask your father for a bra.

hamsterlovera
Sep 15, 2009, 01:41 PM
To cat1864 I can't just ask me dad and not tell my mom because she would find out and then wonder why I didn't ask her and to scott gem why do you care how much advice I get its my profile so just give me advice or don't but pleased stop messaging me about other things besides advice okay I would appreciate that thank you
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adam_89
Sep 15, 2009, 02:01 PM
Not to smart on the way things work around here but you will soon learn or be gone.

Anyway, Why don't you ask your dad and your mom at the same time. That way you aren't just sitting there with the awkwardness between two of you and they could both help you out. It isn't a thing that will be to embarrassing for you. What are you going to do when you need tampons?

Wondergirl
Sep 15, 2009, 02:02 PM
to cat1864 i can't just ask me dad and not tell my mom because she would find out and then wonder why i didn't ask her and to scott gem why do you care how much advice i get its my profile so just give me advice or dont but pleased stop messaging me about other things besides advice okay i would appreciate that thank you
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Give me your mom's phone number, and I will call her. This has gone on long enough. It's just a bra, for pete's sake. Whom do you ask for sanitary napkins?

This is not your profile; it is your thread.

hamsterlovera
Sep 15, 2009, 04:28 PM
I am not going to give you my number I don't even know you!:(:mad::o
Has your daughter had to ask you to get a bra?:confused::cool::eek:

mudweiser
Sep 15, 2009, 05:04 PM
Oh-em-gee.

This thread is still going.

Just ask your mom:

"Hi mom I need a bra- could we go to the store some time".

THE END

Sarah

ScottGem
Sep 15, 2009, 08:14 PM
to cat1864 i can't just ask me dad and not tell my mom because she would find out and then wonder why i didn't ask her and to scott gem why do you care how much advice i get its my profile so just give me advice or dont but pleased stop messaging me about other things besides advice okay i would appreciate that thank you
::::::::))))))))))))))))):0:)

First, I'm a moderator on this site, so I do care when someone comes here and keeps asking for advice when they have already gotten very good advice.

Second, there are only so many ways one can ask about this and you've gotten several.

Third, I wonder why you keep dodging the question about why you can't ask your mom?

So what it boils down to, is I think you may be a troll who is playing games with us rather then being serious about asking for help. And we don't like trolls.

Wondergirl
Sep 15, 2009, 08:24 PM
i am not going to give you my number i dont even know you!:(:mad::o
has your daughter had to ask you to get a bra?:confused::cool::eek:
It's worse than that. I have only sons who always asked me their most personal questions. If I had daughter who asked me about needing a bra, I'd say, "Great excuse for a shopping trip. Let's go!"

That's what parents, especially moms, are for. Why can't you (a female) talk to your mom (a female) about this? You even said she brings it up ("she brings it up all the time").

ScottGem
Sep 16, 2009, 02:55 AM
Why can't you (a female) talk to your mom (a female) about this? You even said she brings it up ("she brings it up all the time").

I mentioned this earlier. And am also asking WHY? There is a reek of troll here.

hamsterlovera
Sep 16, 2009, 04:01 PM
Can you people stop talking like that to me show me some respect please I GET IT OKAY it doesn't matter how much advice I get some people may have some that aren't even on here yet

ScottGem
Sep 16, 2009, 04:22 PM
show me some respect please I GET IT OKAY

Respect has to be earned and you haven't earned any. You have disrespected us so why shgould we respect you?

You obviously don't get it. You ask for more advice but when we ask you to explain why you can't ask your mom so maybe we can give more advice, you don't answer.

KISS
Sep 16, 2009, 04:58 PM
OK. My turn. Look for a situation where your nipples are poking through your clothing and if possible have mom and dad present.

Now you have a situational setting that needs to be addressed.

e.g.
My nipples are poking through the blouse/shirt/dress, whatever. Do you think it's time for a bra. I feel ("embarrased") like this.

J_9
Sep 16, 2009, 05:36 PM
Okay... my turn...

Thread closed. This has gone on long enough.