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cindy5318
Sep 10, 2009, 02:47 PM
I thought child support payments would continue to age 18? But I also heard that you would continue to pay as long as child in high school? I don't believe going to school includes college. We are going through a similar situation. My husbands son has lived with us for 4 years full time, and because of a falling out and his rude beahaviour and disrespect we sent him back to this mothers. Now the mother is asking for money for him, yet she never gave us a dime for him the entire time he was with us, but she only started giving a small amount monthly of $60. For his bus fair. So in fairness, my husband has said that's what he will give her for him. So she has asked if he was going to buy his son clothes or school supplies etc.. My husband said no, she immediately said that they may have to go to court then.Again she is trying to threaten. The child is almost 18 and in grade 12. DO you know if she took him to court, would he have to pay? And if so, till 18? Or finish school? ALSO, we never asked her for a dime, she never helped us put a roof over his head, food etc, notning other than $60 month only for year. If she tries to take him to court, can we not tell the court or the judge that he has lived with us for x amount of years full time, and we got nothing from her, and tell them that she should have paid us money for the 4 yearrs? I am going to see lawyer advice, as I don't think this is right, any replies are appreicated.thanks . Cindy

stevetcg
Sep 10, 2009, 02:59 PM
She can only seek support from the time it is requested through the court... not back payments. What you provided in the past or was provided to you in the past has no bearing on what you will owe now.

18 and out of high school is not a universal rule - depends on the state

cindy5318
Sep 10, 2009, 04:06 PM
She can only seek support from the time it is requested through the court... not back payments. What you provided in the past or was provided to you in the past has no bearing on what you will owe now.https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=1972265

18 and out of high school is not a universal rule - depends on the state



Hi, I am on Ontario, Canada. I was only saying that she is trying to take us to court now as the son lives back with her now and not us. We never asked her for anything the entire 3 yrs with us full time, now she is trying to threaten us with court

stevetcg
Sep 10, 2009, 04:25 PM
Hi, I am on Ontario, Canada. I was only saying that she is trying to take us to court now as the son lives back with her now and not us. We never asked her for anything the entire 3 yrs with us full time, now she is trying to threaten us with court

Its her right since she has custody now.

cindy5318
Sep 10, 2009, 05:40 PM
OK. Thanks - my point was, my husband shared custody for 13 yrs and then his son lived with us solely almost 4 yrs, that should mean something to the law! Thanks takecare

stevetcg
Sep 10, 2009, 05:51 PM
OK. thanks - my point was, my husband shared custody for 13 yrs and then his son lived with us soley almost 4 yrs, that should mean something to the law!! thanks takecare

It does - it means that 4 years ago you could have filed for support.

Synnen
Sep 10, 2009, 06:01 PM
This thread is 2 years old.

If you have your own issue, please start your own thread.

ScottGem
Sep 10, 2009, 06:32 PM
First its not a good idea to piggyback your question on someone else's. This can lead to confusion. You should start a new thread. So I've moved your question to its own thread.

The custodial parent and any child support owed by the non custodial parent is established in Family court.

If the father did not establish custody or support using the court system, then he has no complaints about not getting support.

If the mother now has custody, she is entitled to seek support.

Fr_Chuck
Sep 10, 2009, 07:13 PM
Sorry, the fact your husband failed to go to court and get official custody ( I would assume) not merely shipping kids back and forth.

And you did not go for support, does not mean anything to the court.

cdad
Sep 11, 2009, 01:24 PM
Hi, I am on Ontario, Canada. I was only saying that she is trying to take us to court now as the son lives back with her now and not us. We never asked her for anything the entire 3 yrs with us full time, now she is trying to threaten us with court

What does the custody papers say about the living situation ? That's really what a lot of this is going to depend on. Have they ever been changed by / through the courts ?