My husband has always been a hot head. Recently he has been threatening to leave me over the stupidist things. Threatens me saying you will regret this wait till I get home. When he gets angry it's like a different person. He just totally freaks out. Almost becoming enraged bashing furniture pushing me. It's to the point were I don't know if I'm causing this behavior or is it just him. Ex. I have been home sick for a couple days. He calls to see if I'm feeling better. I tell him I still feel the same he says go to the Dr. and get a shot I was like for what it's virual there's nothing they can do. He starts screaming are you calling me stupid this is what I get for calling you don't call me again your BLANK stupid wait till I get home. Then goes into this speech about how he will leave me and would I like that etc. I was floored thinking what brought this on. I feel he's over reacting but I don't know if it's me. What should I do. I read what I write and it's clear but nothing is black and white anymore I feel I'm doing something to spark the flame I just don't know what.

RUN!

You are with an abuser. You are not creating this behavior and it will only continue to intensify if you stay in the relationship.

It's difficult because you are married, but there isn't a doubt that you are in an abusive relationship and you need to get out of it as soon as you can.