Hi... my GF and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. This summer hasn't been one of the best summers for our relationship. We barely saw each other and there was a clear lack of communication between us. All of this because she was busy all the time going out with her friends and working at her partime job. Basically I was always last in her things to do list although I was her BF. The rare times we went out she didn't look like the one I used to see. She was extremely quite and not that happy looking. I was like lets be patient she might just be tired because of work so I let it go as if nothing happened. In August she went to the States for a young leaders conference. I had the chance to see some pictures of her in this conference and some of them were pretty shocking. She was hanging around with a guy holding hands with him and walking around as if they were a couple. Seeing these pictures I had a small attack of jealousy so I asked her out about these pictures and her reply was "hahahaha theres nothing between us". Anyhow she comes back from the states and then goes off for another vacation with her family to the beach for a week. I was in the UK during August so when she told me about her new vacation I was like OK fine lets give her space to relax and have fun. I come back at the end of August and wait till my GF comes back. The day she comes back she goes out with her friends AGAIN I was like WHAT? After 4 months of waiting you going out with your friends again ? And then I asked her when would I be able to see her ? She said not tomorrow cause I have to meet other friends but the day after tomorrow. The day after tomorrow was the last day of her vacations therefore I knew that if I managed to see her it would have been for 1 or 2 hours max. So I sent her a text revealing my anger to her saying that she could keep the day after tomorrow for herself and that I'm fed being always last in your things to do list. The day after she calls me in the morning and tells me that last night she realized that we are incompatible and that this relationship was too stressful for her and therefore we should call our relationship off. I was like "you realize that we are incompatible after almost 2 years of being together" ! And she is like going to the states has changed me.. I want to have fun I don't want to feel like a married woman. Im there like O_O how can you feel like a married woman when we barely see each other! So we decide to end relationship end the call. Minutes after on MSN a close friend of mine tries to save our relationship and convinces me to tell her to give her the possibility of at least being friends. So I tell my GF (ex in that moment) we can always be friends and she reacts by being all shocked about it , she says that she would have never expected me to ask her to be friends with her after our relationship ended, then she's like all I need now is a break I think. So from a complete break up she went to the idea of going into a break. Im there like OK ill give you a break. At the moment we are still on a break and I have no clue to what do. Should I keep my hopes up since she's confused and that she come back to me or should I just ignore her and start a new life?

Ohhh no.. Ohh (hands on head) (shakes head)

F ing hell mate, honestly you want to be with a women like that? She not only has strange pics with another guy, OK she explained herself on that one. Still not good, you know, watching your girl hold hands with another man and like jumping on him.. yeah that's enough to send anyone the green monster's bill.

So then she goes away for months on so many holidays, I would like to find out where she is working so I could get that many holidays,
Then she comes back and on the day! She comes back. The day. She comes back she goes out with her friends? And does not spend any time with you. And you have to like almost beg her to be with you?

I mean come on.. do you honestly want to be with a person like that? Or friends! With someone like that?
I know your thinking now ohh but we have had 2 years together and oh the good times, and well maybe you know if I'm kind to her and let her walk over me and show her I am cool that we will be back together.

Do you want to be a door mat? No you don't.
You sound like a very nice and thoughtful guy
She sounds like she has lost interest in the relationship and does not have the balls, so to speak to really really say it's over.
She is trying to take the guilt off her shoulders. Simple as that

Don't be friends with her
Cut her off
And go no contact,

You will be better off
Because reading this from the outside.. and I have no emotions to any of you. But from what I can read.. that was really bad of her what she did when she came back from her holiday and you know it was bad.

Best of luck

From this vantage point she does not seem confused or conflicted.
I think she has made her feelings clear and I think you need to accept that the relationship is over.
You are not a priority in her life,as evidenced by many things,in particular her desire to be with friends after a long absence.
I think it is time for you to move on.

Stop and think about how you really feel about her.

Do you really still love her-the person that she is and is becoming? Or are you in love with being in love? After two years (well, a year and a half) are you in the habit of being in the relationship and calling yourself a couple? Would you have been fine moving on if the friend hadn't intervened?

From what you have written here my advice is to make the break final with knowledge that you are both trying to go in different directions. Don't be bitter or hurtful. Don't belittle your time together to anyone including yourself. Don't make mutual friends "pick sides". Your relationship and whether it fully ends or extends into friendship is between the two of you. Accept that people change and so do relationships.

Open yourself up to look around and see other possibilities. Use what you learn from this relationship to know what you want in the next one.

She has been putting you second for a very long time, and you really could benefit from disappearing from her life, and getting your own.

You may like her, but she obviously doesn't feel the same, and is just to happy having fun without you.

Honestly, she sounds like a b---h. She likes having you there whenever it suits her and she doesn't care what you want. You, on the other hand, allowed her to do all this to you until you sent her the angry text message. All of the sudden she's shocked and surprised and feels smothered by you. The reason for the break-up and "incompatibility" is that she was/is messing around with the guy in the pics. There's no doubt about that. Maybe she'll never see him again, maybe she will. To her, that's irrelevant because she now knows that she just wants to go out and have fun and find another guy. So let her. Never speak to her again and don't let her make you her second choice. Sounds like she had all the power in this relationship. Try and get some of it back.

Don't wait for her and hope she comes back to you. That's pathetic. This is how relationships are. Women are extremely easy to make happy, but very difficult to keep happy. This is just the way they are and this is what has happened to you. She's no different than any other girl out there. The sooner you realize this the better.